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To ask you honestly what are your first thoughts on seeing this?

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gemful · 09/12/2025 11:44

NC’d for this

A couple. 2 dc (no childcare)
A brand new, new build house. Mortgaged.
Two brand new cars.
They don’t dress designer but the present well.
She has a few designer handbags.
gadgets are always good brands, latest I phones, shark hairdryers, robot hoover.
very organised and tidy home, both work full time in good jobs.
They do family outings every few weekends but not every weekend.
Honesty, what are your first thoughts?!

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gemful · 09/12/2025 17:45

YaWeeFurryBastard · 09/12/2025 17:36

You can achieve that by working part time, it’s what I do.

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I have no interest in working part time I like my job.

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gemful · 09/12/2025 17:44

Cocktailsandcheese · 09/12/2025 17:31

Yes! OP how do you know (and why do you care?!) what sort of hairdryer and hoover they have?

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RTFT I am them 🤣

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JustSawJohnny · 09/12/2025 17:39

What are we supposed to think?

Because I'm finding it hard to give any form of any fucks for something so very normal.

YaWeeFurryBastard · 09/12/2025 17:36

Slightyamusedandsilly · 09/12/2025 16:12

Modelling an expectation that work is a requirement of life. They have two girls. The mum working models that work is essential and that women's work is as crucial as mens.

There is more to work than the money it brings in.

Fcuk the car. It's a piece of metal.

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You can achieve that by working part time, it’s what I do.

houseofisms · 09/12/2025 17:36

I have a 5 bed house with sea views in a posh coastal town and a brand new car on the drive.

does that make me posh??? Nope, I have cancer, house paid off by my life insurance payout, the car is a mobility car for my severely disabled son and I have to rely on benefits. Never judge a book by its cover!!!

EmpressaurusKitty · 09/12/2025 17:33

Cocktailsandcheese · 09/12/2025 17:31

Yes! OP how do you know (and why do you care?!) what sort of hairdryer and hoover they have?

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If you look through the OP’s posts, she’s answered that one.

Cocktailsandcheese · 09/12/2025 17:31

ShanghaiDiva · 09/12/2025 11:51

My first thought is - you seem to be stalking them.

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Yes! OP how do you know (and why do you care?!) what sort of hairdryer and hoover they have?

x12 · 09/12/2025 17:24

I suppose with an income of roughly 8k a month you can afford a decent sized mortgage, plus finance for cars then some left over for savings etc

It won’t be 8k if saving into decent pensions.

Koolandorthegang · 09/12/2025 17:23

beefthief · 09/12/2025 11:46

This seems entirely normal unless you're going to drip feed that it's actually Fred and Rose West

They didn’t live in a new build

JamieCannister · 09/12/2025 17:20

LucyMonth · 09/12/2025 16:54

100% sure. My FIL is rich rich. Friends with celebrity millionaire and billionaires and lives in a tax haven kind of rich.

They lease cars through their businesses. They never pay for a liability through personal finance. You lose money on the sale a car even with interest on finance included. Millionaires don’t get the same APR as normal folk. Under 5% and often 0%. They also change their cars every 5 minutes.

I’m talking truly wealthy people here. Not a couple who both have decent jobs and live in a nice area kind of wealthy.

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Sorry, I thought we were talking about wealthy people, not truly wealthy people!

I believe that there are plenty of wealthy people who pay cash for cars, and I stand by that.

Ormally · 09/12/2025 17:20

Interesting.
Unless I was a relative, perhaps, I wouldn't have any idea about mortgage status, agreements for how much you work, or whether you pay for childcare, and don't think it would make me go deeper into it.
With 'brands' and decor I might think you would want me to notice, but as a personal comparison I wouldn't progress to thinking pricier is automatically better. I would think you were putting your money where you thought it was meaningful.
It might depend whether the neighbours were also in the same kind and size of house or whether there was quite a mix in every sense.

Quitelikeit · 09/12/2025 17:19

I suppose with an income of roughly 8k a month you can afford a decent sized mortgage, plus finance for cars then some left over for savings etc

I am not sure why your neighbour is commenting since I assume they live in a house of similar value

Times are hard for people just now maybe they are projecting on to you

SwanRivers · 09/12/2025 17:16

gemful · 09/12/2025 12:35

Honestly I don’t brag, I don’t feel any of it is worth bragging about. My sister and friends will visit and have said things. My sister especially, she asks a lot of questions. I have argued with her on this. 😭 she asked me what I earn and nearly had a heart attack. I earn 62k. She said she assumed I was on half that. I try not to talk about money tbh.

Oh stop it OP

I can't read any more

I just can't 🤣🤣

x12 · 09/12/2025 17:15

Also having now rtft, I think whether £130k is a good household income depends on where you are.

Realistically it’s not a bad income anywhere although in some parts it would be more average. However the lifestyle it affords you would vary considerably, I personally think 25k is a lot to spend on a car on that income but I don’t like cars and prioritise different things.

Tiedyeegg · 09/12/2025 17:12

Also having now rtft, I think whether £130k is a good household income depends on where you are.
It would be great in my area but you’d struggle to spend 500k on a house in my area.

x12 · 09/12/2025 17:10

Just ignore the neighbour

godmum56 · 09/12/2025 17:07

gemful · 09/12/2025 15:48

We have ample savings. We save over 2k per month. Pensions are good etc.

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sounds like you have a rude naighbour and at least one rude reli....not sure why you told the reli what you earn though?

x12 · 09/12/2025 17:06

Presumably you live in a cheap part of the country if 500k gets you a 5 bed which would probably explain why people were shocked by your 60k salary.

godmum56 · 09/12/2025 17:05

why would I think anything?

Tiedyeegg · 09/12/2025 17:03

Lucky but not without the bounds of normal if the both have good jobs, especially if they don’t have to pay for childcare.

I would, fairly or unfairly, probably assume they’ve had family help through the years

NautilusLionfish · 09/12/2025 17:03

Harry and Meghan? Our neighbour? Stuart Broad? Could be anyone

x12 · 09/12/2025 16:59

Lots of people buy new builds because there are incentives eg less stamp duty.

x12 · 09/12/2025 16:58

Although I would probably assume the new car is a company one or a notability car if I’ve been reading the Daily Mail! 😆

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gemful · 09/12/2025 16:57

loulouljh · 09/12/2025 16:54

I would wonder why on earth you have bought a new build.

Because it’s a good new build! Very reputable company tbh. I was also fed up of draughty Victorian houses that required heating day in and day out! This is the first house we have lived in that’s warm and without an ounce of damp. That is worth spades to me.

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x12 · 09/12/2025 16:56

I don’t think I would think anything. But context matters, a new build in a naice part of London could be 1m and new cars vary considerably in price.

I did have some neighbours move in recently & they spent £££ on their house & had a brand new Discovery thing so I assumed they were rich, the majority of people I know drive 2nd hand cars, even the wealthy ones.