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To ask you honestly what are your first thoughts on seeing this?

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gemful · 09/12/2025 11:44

NC’d for this

A couple. 2 dc (no childcare)
A brand new, new build house. Mortgaged.
Two brand new cars.
They don’t dress designer but the present well.
She has a few designer handbags.
gadgets are always good brands, latest I phones, shark hairdryers, robot hoover.
very organised and tidy home, both work full time in good jobs.
They do family outings every few weekends but not every weekend.
Honesty, what are your first thoughts?!

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gemful · 09/12/2025 18:53

Needaglowup · 09/12/2025 18:50

dont get to smug OP life has a way of throwing curve balls

I’m really not smug at all, I’m still working towards other goals and I am aware we are lucky but I just assumed we were nothing special to be honest. We have insurances and savings to cover a lot of life’s curveballs. Some of which we have already had unfortunately. I am highly aware that it may not always be this way.

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Disturbia81 · 09/12/2025 18:51

I’d think they’ve done very well for themselves

seaelephant · 09/12/2025 18:51

I wouldn't notice

Needaglowup · 09/12/2025 18:50

dont get to smug OP life has a way of throwing curve balls

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 09/12/2025 18:46

My thoughts would be that there seem to be rather more people keeping tabs on other people and their lifestyles and worldly goods than I realised. I may be peeking out at my surroundings with the wrong goggles on because I don't notice this sort of stuff.

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gemful · 09/12/2025 18:44

Joeninety · 09/12/2025 18:40

I'd think, living in a new build ?.....Ewwww !

That’s exactly how I feel about old, damp draughty and mouldy houses….

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Joeninety · 09/12/2025 18:40

I'd think, living in a new build ?.....Ewwww !

MinglyMadly · 09/12/2025 18:39

gemful · 09/12/2025 14:24

The neighbour said “new car!? Is one new car not enough?” I laughed (nervously) and said “ah well I can’t let him have all the fun!” She then said…it’s a bit overkill no?…or did you win the lotto?head tilt…

Very rude of your neighbour. I thought 'debt' but good for you if you can afford those things. I'm envious.

handsdownthebest · 09/12/2025 18:37

Sounds pretty normal to me. Very much like our house and you do not have to justify your status. I would ask if they have nothing better to spend their brain power on...but maybe there isn't much of that.

MinglyMadly · 09/12/2025 18:37

KimHwn · 09/12/2025 11:48

I am middle class but I don't know many people who drive new cars and have designer handbags. I'd say they were on a very good wage, otoh I do know many people who are very comfortable with debt so it might be that.

This.

Lifestooshort71 · 09/12/2025 18:36

I have no thoughts except to think this is a braggy post.

Kevinbaconsrealwife · 09/12/2025 18:32

beefthief · 09/12/2025 11:46

This seems entirely normal unless you're going to drip feed that it's actually Fred and Rose West

😂

disgustingtoe · 09/12/2025 18:16

Your sister and neighbour sound jealous. Seems like you have a nice life and have worked for it, so I think good on you.

x12 · 09/12/2025 18:14

StruggleFlourish · 09/12/2025 18:12

My thoughts are okay?
Upper middle-class family.

Upper middle class would be anti new build I think & earn more, pay for private school etc.

StruggleFlourish · 09/12/2025 18:12

My thoughts are okay?
Upper middle-class family.

VegQueen · 09/12/2025 18:08

I wouldn’t notice half this stuff like the handbags or what gadgets they have…

but I’d say you definitely don’t live in London! I earn the same as you and DH earns significantly more but no way could we afford brand new cars (not that we want them anyway)

beingtakenforafool · 09/12/2025 18:06

62k is not an average salary so not an average family . Doing very well but many cannot afford this and do work just aa hard and save etc but do not have the salary

x12 · 09/12/2025 18:03

My first thought would be that it’s sad both have to work full time with kids.

I love my job and work p/t but if I worked f/t I don’t see why my dc would suffer. They don’t despite my DH working f/t.

SunnyViper · 09/12/2025 18:00

Thoughts about what?

MikeRafone · 09/12/2025 17:57

I fail to see why having 2 new cars is "overkill" I find that a strange thought process?

Good luck to you, it's not what I would be doing with my money but good for you. Possibly because I have my own requirements and want to spend money on other stuff id not be worried about what you were doing with your money.

The couple 2 doors down from me didn't win the lotto, they brought a lot of new things and then sold them again very quickly as they found these items were rushed purchases and didn't bring them happiness - so they sold them and possibly made others very happy as they got them far cheaper second hand - they probably lost around £55/60K in the first 6 months.

If you work hard and are savvy with your money fair play, its none of anyone else's business how or what you do to get the money and I hope your new purchase des bring you happiness

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 09/12/2025 17:55

The best fit I have for this set up is my friend who works in marketing. She doesn't have two cars because they both WFH self employed as very successful marketing consultants. No need for two.

She earned enough working 3 days per week to have to register for VAT within 7 months. But she reckons AI will have pinched her job within 7 years, so she's pricing and planning accordingly.

notatinydancer · 09/12/2025 17:54

YaWeeFurryBastard · 09/12/2025 17:36

You can achieve that by working part time, it’s what I do.

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It’s unusual to earn £62k part time.

Wafflesandsyrup · 09/12/2025 17:49

I'd think: good for them

LemonDrizzleKay · 09/12/2025 17:49

gemful · 09/12/2025 14:24

The neighbour said “new car!? Is one new car not enough?” I laughed (nervously) and said “ah well I can’t let him have all the fun!” She then said…it’s a bit overkill no?…or did you win the lotto?head tilt…

Jealous!!!None of her business!!

Hyacinthbucketsgarden · 09/12/2025 17:48

I have no thoughts because I have enough to think about with my own life, without being concerned about other peoples' life styles.