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Anyone seen woman arrested for saying f****t in a private text message?

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Whywhywhyyyy · 09/12/2025 11:12

This is completely bizarre. The news is thin on the ground so to see it I would have to link the mail or other obscure sites; but they are talking about this on Sky News abroad so assume it’s legit.

Apparently woman was arrested by 10 officers and dragged naked from a bath tub because she called a person who hospitalised her from assault a faggot in a message ranting to a supposed friend who reported her for using that word.

What is going on in this country?!

Yes sure that’s unpleasant. But is that really illegal? And if she has been hospitalised by this person then do I really care if someone uses bad words - even if they are hateful.

YABU - that’s a perfectly appropriate use of the law
YANBU - WTF is going on in this country!

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Snowonground · 09/12/2025 19:25

randomchap · 09/12/2025 19:19

Bored, not hurt.

Back to that 6th form common room with you then, my dear old chap!

randomchap · 09/12/2025 19:19

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 19:11

I hope I haven't upset or offended you. You sound hurt by my words.

Bored, not hurt.

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 09/12/2025 19:19

BackToLurk · 09/12/2025 19:05

Someone feeling 'fear' your criterion is subjective. You may receive a number of messages that make you fear that someone may assault you. If they haven't, why should your 'fear' be valid.

Maybe you want to go back to the good old days when women called the police to deal with abusive exes to be told to "call back when he actually lifts a finger against you"

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Why are you pretending that we’ve never been able to understand what a threat is?

Green2013 · 09/12/2025 19:12

Slightyamusedandsilly · 09/12/2025 11:47

Only Piers Morgan and Tucker Carlson (US) reporting on this.

Based on their extreme right-wing, bigoted world views, I'd say there is a lot more to this than they are discussing.

It'd be in the media otherwise.

You think Piers Morgan is extremely right wing? Examples? Unless the meaning of the word changed recently?

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 19:11

randomchap · 09/12/2025 19:08

Nope.

Whatever I say you'll just twist or deliberately misunderstand.

You're not worth the effort

I hope I haven't upset or offended you. You sound hurt by my words.

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 19:09

BackToLurk · 09/12/2025 19:05

Someone feeling 'fear' your criterion is subjective. You may receive a number of messages that make you fear that someone may assault you. If they haven't, why should your 'fear' be valid.

Maybe you want to go back to the good old days when women called the police to deal with abusive exes to be told to "call back when he actually lifts a finger against you"

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I just think we have gone down the road of criminalising people simply because someone was offended. Even if a reasonable person would not have been offended. And I think that's a dangerous path. Particularly as you may get a government which doesn't like people of a particular political persuasion and decides that anyone supporting that side of an argument is upsetting or offensive to some people and therfore that person should be criminalised. Its a slippery slope.

randomchap · 09/12/2025 19:08

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 19:06

You "try again". Its not my fault that you aren't making your point sufficiently clearly.

Nope.

Whatever I say you'll just twist or deliberately misunderstand.

You're not worth the effort

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 19:06

randomchap · 09/12/2025 19:05

That's not what I said at all. Try again

You "try again". Its not my fault that you aren't making your point sufficiently clearly.

BackToLurk · 09/12/2025 19:05

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 18:55

You can assess that using objective criteria. Like any assault.

Someone feeling 'fear' your criterion is subjective. You may receive a number of messages that make you fear that someone may assault you. If they haven't, why should your 'fear' be valid.

Maybe you want to go back to the good old days when women called the police to deal with abusive exes to be told to "call back when he actually lifts a finger against you"

randomchap · 09/12/2025 19:05

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 19:03

So you are suggesting that Labour supporters dont care about free speech? Only Conservatives.

I think plenty of left wing people are just as concerned about loss of free speech. After all, it affects us all and the definition of criminal words can change with any government.

That's not what I said at all. Try again

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 19:04

MoFadaCromulent · 09/12/2025 19:02

Assaults include subjective assessment.

The word "reasonable " is an objective assessment in law. So that's the criteria that I think should be applied.

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 19:03

randomchap · 09/12/2025 19:00

Since that Tory councillors wife was jailed for her racist tweet there has been a push from the right to try to make out that malicious communication should be allowed.

I'm surprised you've not seen that. Or are you just ignoring it?

So you are suggesting that Labour supporters dont care about free speech? Only Conservatives.

I think plenty of left wing people are just as concerned about loss of free speech. After all, it affects us all and the definition of criminal words can change with any government.

MoFadaCromulent · 09/12/2025 19:02

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 18:55

You can assess that using objective criteria. Like any assault.

Assaults include subjective assessment.

randomchap · 09/12/2025 19:00

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 18:57

Why a "political agenda"? Which side, left or right wing doesn't believe in free speech?

Since that Tory councillors wife was jailed for her racist tweet there has been a push from the right to try to make out that malicious communication should be allowed.

I'm surprised you've not seen that. Or are you just ignoring it?

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 18:57

randomchap · 09/12/2025 18:56

She was charged under the Malicious Communications Act 1988 (UK). In that act a person potentially commits an offence if they send a message that includes any of the following:

1 Threats

A message containing a threat of violence or harm.

2 Indecent or grossly offensive material

Something so offensive that it meets a criminal threshold (not just rude or insulting).

3 False information intended to cause distress or anxiety

For example, sending someone a knowingly false claim that a family member has been hurt.

4 Anything sent with the purpose of causing distress or anxiety

The intent matters. Even if the message is short, vague, or not overtly threatening, it can still be an offence if the sender intended to upset the recipient.

It's not about the use of specific words. People trying to move the conversation to that are just trying to distract from what actually happened. They are a distraction with a political agenda.

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Why a "political agenda"? Which side, left or right wing doesn't believe in free speech?

randomchap · 09/12/2025 18:56

She was charged under the Malicious Communications Act 1988 (UK). In that act a person potentially commits an offence if they send a message that includes any of the following:

1 Threats

A message containing a threat of violence or harm.

2 Indecent or grossly offensive material

Something so offensive that it meets a criminal threshold (not just rude or insulting).

3 False information intended to cause distress or anxiety

For example, sending someone a knowingly false claim that a family member has been hurt.

4 Anything sent with the purpose of causing distress or anxiety

The intent matters. Even if the message is short, vague, or not overtly threatening, it can still be an offence if the sender intended to upset the recipient.

It's not about the use of specific words. People trying to move the conversation to that are just trying to distract from what actually happened. They are a distraction with a political agenda.

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Snowonground · 09/12/2025 18:55

BackToLurk · 09/12/2025 18:51

But if you accept that 'sometimes' people shouldn't be allowed to send abusive messages, then you still have to define when that is. Your apparent criterion of 'fear of physical imminent harm' is no less subjective than other criteria you reject. You also have no idea if the victim in this case did in fact fear physical harm. None of us do.

You can assess that using objective criteria. Like any assault.

DrMickhead · 09/12/2025 18:54

I didn’t know the F word (the slur the woman used) was a homophobic slur until my early 20s. It was used very liberally at my school to describe someone who was a bit of a wimp, not gay. I never used it being myself a bit of a wimp.

I watched a stand up comedian explain the origin story of the word and it’s quite horrifying.
But if I hadn’t watched that (it was Louis CK) I possibly could still be completely ignorant to its meaning.

Quite a few racist and ableist words were used and one particular racist word our science teacher used when explaining male anatomy so I was shocked when I found out that it was a racist term, not an actual word.

Language can be so confusing. My gay friend told me he was called a sissy for being gay in the 80s, when I was at school sissy was used to describe men who hit women. Maybe I’m making excuses for this woman but people use words of a horrible nature without realising it’s true meaning often.

BackToLurk · 09/12/2025 18:51

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 18:45

Yes. Im afraid so. It should be socially unacceptable but not criminalised. It depends on what they say and who they are to. In this case I understand that it didnt make the recipient feel in fear of physical imminent harm.

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But if you accept that 'sometimes' people shouldn't be allowed to send abusive messages, then you still have to define when that is. Your apparent criterion of 'fear of physical imminent harm' is no less subjective than other criteria you reject. You also have no idea if the victim in this case did in fact fear physical harm. None of us do.

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 18:50

PlasticTr33s · 09/12/2025 16:45

Wow so saying we should just tolerate hate speech now.

Of course. Because theres no law against someone being offended. Or there used not to be. "Hate" speech is subjective. So instead the test should be whether the person was in reasonable fear of imminent physical harm.

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 18:48

MoFadaCromulent · 09/12/2025 18:44

Good thing that's not the criteria for the offence to be made out so

You're asking my view. Rather than how the
law is being poorly applied at the moment.

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 18:47

PlasticTr33s · 09/12/2025 15:56

They absolutely should be criminalised or they will be used. There is zero tolerance in schools
as regards the use of either and taken seriously for good reason.

Would someone be able to describe themselves using the "n" word?

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 18:45

BackToLurk · 09/12/2025 18:41

So sometimes people should be allowed to send abusive messages and sometimes they shouldn't. Is that your position?

Yes. Im afraid so. It should be socially unacceptable but not criminalised. It depends on what they say and who they are to. In this case I understand that it didnt make the recipient feel in fear of physical imminent harm.

MoFadaCromulent · 09/12/2025 18:44

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 18:36

Depends on the facts. But not if the texts simply offended the recipient.

Good thing that's not the criteria for the offence to be made out so

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 18:43

@MoFadaCromulent

Report them for harrassment?

If you criminalise a word, you cross a red line. Because one day other words will be potentially criminalised that you might use. And you might find something like making political statements become "offensive" to other people.

Im not saying the n word is acceptable. It is socially unacceptable. But it should not be criminalised.