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Anyone seen woman arrested for saying f****t in a private text message?

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Whywhywhyyyy · 09/12/2025 11:12

This is completely bizarre. The news is thin on the ground so to see it I would have to link the mail or other obscure sites; but they are talking about this on Sky News abroad so assume it’s legit.

Apparently woman was arrested by 10 officers and dragged naked from a bath tub because she called a person who hospitalised her from assault a faggot in a message ranting to a supposed friend who reported her for using that word.

What is going on in this country?!

Yes sure that’s unpleasant. But is that really illegal? And if she has been hospitalised by this person then do I really care if someone uses bad words - even if they are hateful.

YABU - that’s a perfectly appropriate use of the law
YANBU - WTF is going on in this country!

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1457bloom · 09/12/2025 12:54

Freedom of speech no longer exists in this country, we’ve gone full woke.

BadgernTheGarden · 09/12/2025 12:53

ShesTheAlbatross · 09/12/2025 11:27

She was reported by the person she texted, not the person she said attacked her. And the texts were not read out in court so I’m not sure how anyone can say it was an overreaction or not?
She was charged under the malicious communications act because the texts were abusive as well as homophobic and distressed the person she texted.

Allegedly she also blamed the person she sent the message to, who was a friend of the person who allegedly attacked her, it doesn't sound like the attack was reported to the police and no one was arrested.

She was allegedly in the bath when the police arrived, nothing about being dragged out of it.

CombatBarbie · 09/12/2025 12:51

TopPocketFind · 09/12/2025 12:42

Is this another 'just hurty words' whilst ignoring the guilty plead scenario?

Well no because although she meant it in another way, she cant deny she said it so im fairly sure her solicitor would have told her, its not worth going to trial for.

She would have to prove its regional dialect, which in theory she probably could, but the fact remains the person who received it took it as its homophobic slur.

Just in the same way I could message a friend and "say im going to kill you" in reference to something silly like not putting the milk back in the fridge. Send it to a colleague, if they dont know your personality they could see it as a direct threat to life.

askmenow · 09/12/2025 12:48

The public is being constantly gaslit!
Just yesterday in Leamington Spa, two 17yr olds were convicted/sentenced for the rape of a a rape 15yr old white British child.

One dragged her into the bushes and phoned his mate to come and help before both raping her.

No MSM actually reported the FACTS that these boys were Afghan illegal migrants living in taxpayer funded accommodation.

So another girl has her life ruined because our Government are allowing men from mediaeval cultures to enter our country illegally and roam the streets.

HOW MUCH LONGER ARE OUR GOVERNMENT GOING TO SACRIFICE OUR WOMEN AND GIRLS ON THE ALTER OF “DIVERSITY”

To preserve our Free Speech, we should all join the Free Speech Union and stuff this Government and their censorship.

They want the public cowed into submission. After all it worked during Covid.

We have to accept this Government is not acting in the interests of the British people and make preparations for future unrest. Because it will come. There’s only so much Brits will take.

And whatever happened to resilience?

“sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me”

Rippedadventwindow · 09/12/2025 12:46

It’s extremely worrying and I am shocked that people think it’s ok. The police prefer to prosecute people like this as it’s easier than investigating someone who is guilty of assault.

CatHairEveryWhereNow · 09/12/2025 12:45

CaptainMyCaptain · 09/12/2025 12:37

Certainly.

Normally I'd agree but there were threads of people saying those parents on what app must have done more and months later saw they had a huge payout from police force.

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/whatsapp-school-group-parents-arrested-compensation-hertfordshire-b2866470.html
Parents ‘get £20k payout’ after unlawful arrest over school WhatsApp row

..
Rosalind Levine and her partner Maxie Allen were detained by six Hertfordshire police officers in front of their young daughter on 29 January before being held at a police station for 11 hours over complaints about the school.
They were arrested on suspicion of harassment, malicious communications, and causing a nuisance on school property.

Seen a few things like this in recent years and now I do wonder.

Parents ‘get £20k payout’ after unlawful arrest over school WhatsApp row

Rosalind Levine told Radio 4 she and her husband were detained by six Hertfordshire police officers in front of their young daughter earlier this year

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/whatsapp-school-group-parents-arrested-compensation-hertfordshire-b2866470.html

TopPocketFind · 09/12/2025 12:42

Is this another 'just hurty words' whilst ignoring the guilty plead scenario?

JHound · 09/12/2025 12:39

Whywhywhyyyy · 09/12/2025 11:24

I saw it on sky news yesterday. And on googling I can find mail and other random sites.

https://www.ibtimes.co.uk/terrified-naked-mum-four-arrested-after-texts-branded-hate-speech-1759907

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-15302729/Assault-victim-convicted-homophobic-hate-crime.html

I didn’t know it had been on Piers Morgan. Might watch that but that’s not going to give ‘any other side of story’ PPs are saying.

Ok not a rumour but has this woman been living in an underground bunker for 50 years? This is clearly BS.

”Kinney maintains she had no intention of using the word as hate speech. She explained that in her local area, the word is used as slang for a 'weak person' rather than a reference to sexuality. 'It was never about anyone's orientation,' she said. 'It's just a word people here use when someone acts out or causes trouble”

I also suspect this is not the full story.

Naunet · 09/12/2025 12:38

Muffsies · 09/12/2025 11:23

If someone assaulted me I would not be looking to inflame the situation with them. If they are derranged or unhinged how did she think that was going to turn out? Getting in trouble with the police is probably the least bad outcome. She sounds like an idiot that needs to be told to stand the hell down.

Wow, so victims of violent males can't even rant to friends now, just shut your mouth and be grateful the violent man didn't kill you because anything else is 'inflaming the situation'?

muggart · 09/12/2025 12:38

Equally concerning is the number of people here who don’t seem to believe this is possible or that there must be more to the story. This is entirely plausible and consistent with the way the UK is these days. We’ve slept walked into a situation where we have no freedoms because it seemed too absurd to be real. Just like we slept walked into a situation where male sex offenders were put in female prisons and then had to fight tooth and nail to claw back what should have been common sense rights. THIS IS BRITAIN NOW.

CaptainMyCaptain · 09/12/2025 12:37

Medexpert · 09/12/2025 11:15

There'll be a lot more to it.

Certainly.

JHound · 09/12/2025 12:36

Sounds like a social media rumour.

CombatBarbie · 09/12/2025 12:34

tripleginandtonic · 09/12/2025 11:44

She contradicts herself, it wasn't a slur it meant something else where she lives and then saying it was down to her brain injuries. Think there will be more to it than has made the media.

I was Just coming on to say that faggot doesnt just mean gay in some places. In the same way calling someone a "cunt" is acceptable in some places and does not indicate hate, it just means the person they are referring to is a twat or even a term of endearment......

Anyone seen woman arrested for saying f****t in a private text message?
Runrunrudolph · 09/12/2025 12:29

Never thought I'd lower myself to look at items in the Sun and watch clips of Piers Morgan. But having done so I'm finding difficulty finding any sympathy for this woman who, judging by the photos, looks as though she is making the most of her notoriety.

She admits she harassed the guy by bombarding him with texts, she used a homophobic slur. And goodness knows what other details we aren't getting.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 09/12/2025 12:28

Im more bothered that it took 10 officers to arrest 1 person. We're forever hearing about a Police shortage, well no wonder.

MoFadaCromulent · 09/12/2025 12:28

Periperi2025 · 09/12/2025 12:07

How can anyone get a fair trial for a communication offence without the words being read out in court, if this is true, then it is nuts?!

She pleaded guilty so there was no need for a trial.

Tigger18 · 09/12/2025 12:27

Acafan · 09/12/2025 11:33

What she did is illegal. It's malicious communications under the terms of the 1988 act, because it's grossly offensive and it caused distress to the recipient, and the offense is made more serious because the language is homophobic. It's no defence that she didn't know it was a crime. FWIW, she plead guilty, from what I can understand of the reporting.

It doesn't matter if we don't care about this particular case: we accept that everyone in the country has to follow the law.

It doesn't actually matter for the purposes of the offense that she was allegedly assaulted by the man she's describing - though that's obviously awful. The recipient of the message reported it to the police and the police and CPS took action. If they haven't prosecuted the assault, that's a separate matter.

It's such a shame the man who assaulted her hasn't been dealt with as swiftly, or at all in fact. It's almost as if hurty words are more important thy actual physical assault, who knew 🤷‍♀️

PlasticTr33s · 09/12/2025 12:24

IkeaMeatballGravy · 09/12/2025 12:22

I was saying to DH the other day the recent change to the lyrics of Fairytale of New York kind of sums up attitudes towards sexism/misogyny vs other hate. The F word has been replaced with haggard but slut remains and no one is bothered.

I don't know how the woman's 'friend' can sleep at night, she disclosed abuse to them and all they are concerned about is hurty words in private text correspondence. As for the police not dealing with the assault, that's pretty standard for the police, they are misogynistic through and through.

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Homophobia is common within the police too.

Ghrun · 09/12/2025 12:24

I think malicious communications legislation hasn't caught up with how technology is used. If this woman had ranted and said 'faggot' to her friend's face, it wouldn't (quite rightly) be considered a criminal offence. Because it's done via text it's treated differently. The law doesn't reflect the fact that people use text messaging as a form of conversation and as an alternative to face to face communication.

I just don't think it's in our interests as a society to treat these things as crimes. If someone says something grossly offensive to you on WhatsApp or Twitter, you can just block them. You don't need the long arm of the law to start interfering unless it becomes harassment. It's oppressive and also a terrible use of police resources. I suspect the police pursue these things because they are 'easy wins' for their crime stats. Much easier than investigating a burglary or indecent exposure or sexual assault.

MrsSlocombesCat · 09/12/2025 12:23

I wouldn’t use that word because it’s not in my vocabulary. It’s hate speech. If that word is conjured up in her brain I’m willing to bet it’s not the only slur she has in her arsenal.

IkeaMeatballGravy · 09/12/2025 12:22

I was saying to DH the other day the recent change to the lyrics of Fairytale of New York kind of sums up attitudes towards sexism/misogyny vs other hate. The F word has been replaced with haggard but slut remains and no one is bothered.

I don't know how the woman's 'friend' can sleep at night, she disclosed abuse to them and all they are concerned about is hurty words in private text correspondence. As for the police not dealing with the assault, that's pretty standard for the police, they are misogynistic through and through.

Dollymylove · 09/12/2025 12:16

aphroditeflighty · 09/12/2025 12:07

There must be more to it than that. Although it's not a word I'd ever use, I had male gay friends who'd often use it to describe overly flamboyant gay men!

That's true. I have a gay friend who actually calls himself a big p*fe

PlasticTr33s · 09/12/2025 12:15

aphroditeflighty · 09/12/2025 12:07

There must be more to it than that. Although it's not a word I'd ever use, I had male gay friends who'd often use it to describe overly flamboyant gay men!

It’s hugely offensive and wouldn’t be tolerated in schools. I reported such language in my gay son’s school as it was having a massive psychological impact. The perpetrators were quite rightly excluded.

Whywhywhyyyy · 09/12/2025 12:15

ToeSucker · 09/12/2025 12:11

Interesting I receive similar messages from a mentally ill family member and no matter how many times it's reported to the police "no one can do anything".

Yeah that is interesting. Apparently it was 5 minutes of messaging so whilst 5 minutes could amount to quite a barrage of ‘communications’ I don’t see how this could possibly warrant this response/ outcome but continued direct harassment be ignored (which it so often is in cases of stalking / ex partner abuse).

I have my tin foil hat on now and wondering whether the ‘victim’ has police connections. Can you get arrested for wondering about that and writing it online 🫣

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tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 09/12/2025 12:12

This.