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Anyone seen woman arrested for saying f****t in a private text message?

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Whywhywhyyyy · 09/12/2025 11:12

This is completely bizarre. The news is thin on the ground so to see it I would have to link the mail or other obscure sites; but they are talking about this on Sky News abroad so assume it’s legit.

Apparently woman was arrested by 10 officers and dragged naked from a bath tub because she called a person who hospitalised her from assault a faggot in a message ranting to a supposed friend who reported her for using that word.

What is going on in this country?!

Yes sure that’s unpleasant. But is that really illegal? And if she has been hospitalised by this person then do I really care if someone uses bad words - even if they are hateful.

YABU - that’s a perfectly appropriate use of the law
YANBU - WTF is going on in this country!

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Bromptotoo · 09/12/2025 15:16

Whywhywhyyyy · 09/12/2025 14:44

She said she pleaded guilty because her lawyer said they would charge as a hate crime and she could get 5-10 years.

It is concerning in light of removal of juries. I think we need to fight that and it seems it’s only ever women who plead guilty to these speech crimes so we need a public service announcement somewhere for women to not plead guilty!

Do we know for a fact what the lawyers advice was?

We know the Northampton woman whose posts after the Southport Murders was advised of a longer sentence if found guilty after trial

She pleaded guilty at Sefton Magistrates Court and got a relatively low fine. I doubt a 'long stretch' was really a possibility.

Mention of a jury is a red herring; it wasn't ever at the Crown Court. .

The oddity is the number of officers involved but if there were kids in the house that may have been factored into the force's calculations.

But if she had to be pulled from her bath I'm guessing she refused opportunities to 'come quietly'.

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 15:15

Blizzardofleaves · 09/12/2025 11:48

Firstly a simple offence like this would never warrant an arrest a long these lines. Ten police officers to arrest a lone woman is simply mind boggling. If this happened, a full investigation will be required. Particularly as every defendant has the right to dignity.

If this person is of previous good character, it is likely to be a fine anyway assuming she is guilty, even with the ‘aggravating’ feature. The word was used up to a few years and fairly indiscriminately, she would have a case as a defence to say she simply did not know it was so offensive.

Where did the offence take place? It can’t be here surely, our police forces are run off their feet at the moment, and would reserve this kind of force for dangerous criminals with weapons or similar.

Edited

Did you hear what happened to Graham Lineham?

BackToLurk · 09/12/2025 15:14

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 15:12

Do you think such behaviour should be a criminal offence?

Do you think malicious communication - the offence she was guilty of - shouldn't be an offence?

Whywhywhyyyy · 09/12/2025 15:13

Throneofgame · 09/12/2025 14:59

Ludicrous.

Give me one example of someone using a single homophobic, racist or similar word and getting 5 years in prison

I am not a lawyer I have no idea. It’s news to me calling someone a faggot full stop is a criminal offence or aggravating or whatever the term is.

I thought this had to be part of harassment or direct threatening behaviour to the individual in question. Not quite sure and I am still not tbh. I have no idea what the law is and I am not sure how many do?

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BackToLurk · 09/12/2025 15:12

MrsBelindaMay · 09/12/2025 15:00

And you are either evading the answer or genuinely not understanding the implications of the position of "it depends on a context" when it comes to the freedom of expression (or lack thereof) and deciding whether a word is a crime.

I will leave you with it.

Do you actually not understanding what 'aggravating factor' means? Is that the problem here?

Snowonground · 09/12/2025 15:12

TheVengaBusIsComingMyBusPassIsForthcoming · 09/12/2025 11:40

She was convicted under the communications act. The slur was an aggravating factor.

I agree the proposed restriction of juries is problematic, but I don't agree that people should be allowed to go about being homophobic, sexist or anything similar under the name of 'free speech'.

Do you think such behaviour should be a criminal offence?

randomchap · 09/12/2025 15:10

TeenageSu1cideDontDoit · 09/12/2025 15:08

But we know the police love being heavy-handed when it comes to easy targets. Look at Glinner being arrested at the airport by armed guards, or the couple who were arrested by six officers in front of their children for criticising their child's school on WhatsApp.

Also, she's from Merseyside and says the f word is used a lot for someone who is weak, she's right, it is. So is the word "gay". It's not right, but it's common language used. I've said worse in private messages. Hell one of my best friends is in my contacts as ..... f**t.

All airport police are armed. If you're arrested at an airport it's by armed police. Mentioning that they were armed is kind of meaningless in this circumstance

LakieLady · 09/12/2025 15:08

askmenow · 09/12/2025 12:48

The public is being constantly gaslit!
Just yesterday in Leamington Spa, two 17yr olds were convicted/sentenced for the rape of a a rape 15yr old white British child.

One dragged her into the bushes and phoned his mate to come and help before both raping her.

No MSM actually reported the FACTS that these boys were Afghan illegal migrants living in taxpayer funded accommodation.

So another girl has her life ruined because our Government are allowing men from mediaeval cultures to enter our country illegally and roam the streets.

HOW MUCH LONGER ARE OUR GOVERNMENT GOING TO SACRIFICE OUR WOMEN AND GIRLS ON THE ALTER OF “DIVERSITY”

To preserve our Free Speech, we should all join the Free Speech Union and stuff this Government and their censorship.

They want the public cowed into submission. After all it worked during Covid.

We have to accept this Government is not acting in the interests of the British people and make preparations for future unrest. Because it will come. There’s only so much Brits will take.

And whatever happened to resilience?

“sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me”

It was reported that the perpetrators were Afghan nationals on BBC1 news earlier today. I didn't hear a bulletin about it yesterday, I was out most of the day.

And they didn't enter the UK illegally, they are seeking asylum. It's not illegal to enter a country for the purposes of claiming asylum.

TeenageSu1cideDontDoit · 09/12/2025 15:08

TheVengaBusIsComingMyBusPassIsForthcoming · 09/12/2025 11:24

I've read a little about this, but the information is pretty sparse.

If he assaulted her he should have been arrested and she should have been given justice for sure.

There is no justification for her using homophobic language. She could have called him a wanker, said she hated him etc, why jump straight to homophobia? Especially with someone that she doesn't know well, as they reported her (I think it was a colleague, but details are vague so that may not be true).

On the face of it, from the little that's in the press, it seems very heavy handed, but they clearly had justification for it or that amount of officers wouldn't have been approved in the first place.

From what I can gather the details have been put out by her and her friends so it's going to be very bias reporting.

But we know the police love being heavy-handed when it comes to easy targets. Look at Glinner being arrested at the airport by armed guards, or the couple who were arrested by six officers in front of their children for criticising their child's school on WhatsApp.

Also, she's from Merseyside and says the f word is used a lot for someone who is weak, she's right, it is. So is the word "gay". It's not right, but it's common language used. I've said worse in private messages. Hell one of my best friends is in my contacts as ..... f**t.

randomchap · 09/12/2025 15:05

MrsBelindaMay · 09/12/2025 15:00

And you are either evading the answer or genuinely not understanding the implications of the position of "it depends on a context" when it comes to the freedom of expression (or lack thereof) and deciding whether a word is a crime.

I will leave you with it.

What part of depends on the context are you struggling with?

Leave me to it? You're leaving as your foolishness has been pointed out

MrsBelindaMay · 09/12/2025 15:00

randomchap · 09/12/2025 14:54

Again, as you seem to be hard of thinking.

It depends on the context

As part of malicious communication then it could be seen as an aggravating factor by the courts

It's not hard to understand

And you are either evading the answer or genuinely not understanding the implications of the position of "it depends on a context" when it comes to the freedom of expression (or lack thereof) and deciding whether a word is a crime.

I will leave you with it.

Throneofgame · 09/12/2025 14:59

Whywhywhyyyy · 09/12/2025 14:44

She said she pleaded guilty because her lawyer said they would charge as a hate crime and she could get 5-10 years.

It is concerning in light of removal of juries. I think we need to fight that and it seems it’s only ever women who plead guilty to these speech crimes so we need a public service announcement somewhere for women to not plead guilty!

Ludicrous.

Give me one example of someone using a single homophobic, racist or similar word and getting 5 years in prison

BackToLurk · 09/12/2025 14:55

MrsBelindaMay · 09/12/2025 14:51

Do not use the F word or I will be offended and upset. You are on a public forum.

You are being indignant yet still not answering: is it ok then to use the f-t word on its own in a conversation, without the backstory and other aggravating communication? Yes or no?

Which bit of "The use of the word f-t was an aggravating factor. The use of the word on it's own wasn't an offence." did you particularly struggle with?

ColdOut2025 · 09/12/2025 14:54

Muffsies · 09/12/2025 11:23

If someone assaulted me I would not be looking to inflame the situation with them. If they are derranged or unhinged how did she think that was going to turn out? Getting in trouble with the police is probably the least bad outcome. She sounds like an idiot that needs to be told to stand the hell down.

Utter nonsense, detached from human experience,oh, and blaming the female victim of male violence: good job,you!!

randomchap · 09/12/2025 14:54

MrsBelindaMay · 09/12/2025 14:51

Do not use the F word or I will be offended and upset. You are on a public forum.

You are being indignant yet still not answering: is it ok then to use the f-t word on its own in a conversation, without the backstory and other aggravating communication? Yes or no?

Again, as you seem to be hard of thinking.

It depends on the context

As part of malicious communication then it could be seen as an aggravating factor by the courts

It's not hard to understand

Owly11 · 09/12/2025 14:51

Jesus wake up. People are being arrested, charged and convicted for using 'offensive' language all the time and for standing up for women's rights or expressing biological facts. There are hundreds of cases being taken up by Fair Cop and Free Speech Union where people are being arrested for 'non crime hate crimes'. Although hopefully Graham Linehan has been part of bringing that sorry chapter to a close. It really is happening that the police will turn up and arrest you for 'offensive' language (judged by one person being offended) but not for assault or burglary. And do you know why? Because it is so easy to prove that someone wrote it and the offended person only has to stand up and say 'i was offended'. It would take some actual police work to arrest, charge and convict a domestic abuser or rapist and it isn't glamorous and has a low chance of success. But hey let's criminalise freedom of speech instead that causes SO much harm - not.

MrsBelindaMay · 09/12/2025 14:51

BackToLurk · 09/12/2025 14:45

WTF are you talking about? The story is pretty clear. She was charged and pleaded guilty to malicious communication. The use of the word f-t was an aggravating factor. The use of the word on it's own wasn't an offence. There is no 'hate speech' law as such in England and Wales. There are various laws where sentencing can reflect aggravating factors.

Do not use the F word or I will be offended and upset. You are on a public forum.

You are being indignant yet still not answering: is it ok then to use the f-t word on its own in a conversation, without the backstory and other aggravating communication? Yes or no?

randomchap · 09/12/2025 14:47

BackToLurk · 09/12/2025 14:46

I was very much more against the removal of juries before I started reading Mumsnet AIBU threads

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BackToLurk · 09/12/2025 14:46

Whywhywhyyyy · 09/12/2025 14:44

She said she pleaded guilty because her lawyer said they would charge as a hate crime and she could get 5-10 years.

It is concerning in light of removal of juries. I think we need to fight that and it seems it’s only ever women who plead guilty to these speech crimes so we need a public service announcement somewhere for women to not plead guilty!

I was very much more against the removal of juries before I started reading Mumsnet AIBU threads

MrsBelindaMay · 09/12/2025 14:46

Acafan · 09/12/2025 14:40

Some of us bothered to look up with whole story though before just jumping to "you can't say anything these days!" When what you can't actually do is send a "barrage" of messages that distress someone.

Of course you can't. But that's not the issue here anymore. The question is - and has been - if it is ok to use words in private conversations which can be deemed offensive and be reported for it as a crime.

It can be a lot of words, depending on how "triggering" the other person may find them, so it seems like no speech is safe. And that's what is worrying.

BackToLurk · 09/12/2025 14:45

MrsBelindaMay · 09/12/2025 14:36

The use of the word was the clickbait story that started the whole discussion, way before more information was added.

WTF are you talking about? The story is pretty clear. She was charged and pleaded guilty to malicious communication. The use of the word f-t was an aggravating factor. The use of the word on it's own wasn't an offence. There is no 'hate speech' law as such in England and Wales. There are various laws where sentencing can reflect aggravating factors.

Whywhywhyyyy · 09/12/2025 14:44

LemonTT · 09/12/2025 14:41

But she pleaded guilty.

She said she pleaded guilty because her lawyer said they would charge as a hate crime and she could get 5-10 years.

It is concerning in light of removal of juries. I think we need to fight that and it seems it’s only ever women who plead guilty to these speech crimes so we need a public service announcement somewhere for women to not plead guilty!

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randomchap · 09/12/2025 14:43

Whywhywhyyyy · 09/12/2025 14:37

She’s a single mum to 4 kids; care worker which requires enhanced dbs so I don’t know how you can work in that job yet be so dangerous your house requires flagging.

Does seem she was in with the wrong group if the result of a falling out is having your head fractured though. Can you be flagged by association?

If someone else in your house is a violent offender then yes.

Social services often have flags on households if there's a danger to people going to them.

Ghrun · 09/12/2025 14:42

ScholesPanda · 09/12/2025 14:07

Racism/ Homophobia aren't illegal. Your free to have your racist/homophobic thoughts and share them with your nearest and dearest who won't feel harassed by them.

Harassment and malicious communication (sending a 'former friend' a 'barrage' of unsolicited text messages - quotes from the Daily Mail article) are illegal whether it involves racism or homophobia or doesn't. They can be aggravating factors though.

Out of interest what racism do you feel should be legal and what racism do you think crosses a line?

I think a crime is being committed when there is harassment or incitement. Incitement of violence or some other criminal activity. I don't think it should be a crime simply to be racist, or homophobic or sexist.

LemonTT · 09/12/2025 14:41

Whywhywhyyyy · 09/12/2025 11:27

I she is calling someone a faggot to their face in an abusive manner then perhaps that’s abusive.

But to say to someone else who isn’t the individual - I didn’t think that could be a hate crime. No matter how offensive. And that’s without the assault allegation.

But she pleaded guilty.