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Hearts on WhatsApp

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Nayoryay33 · 08/12/2025 20:03

A dad of ds friends. Put a heart on our whatsapp convo.
The kids have known each other for a few years but became close this year. My ds went over for a sleepover at theirs a month ago. His wife is a nurse and works nights. He was at home with the boys. Very good communication, reassured me and ds all is well. Update at 11pm when ds fell asleep.

Now today, the boys went to an activity. Got dropped off by friends grandparent. I texted the dad saying i can pick them up. He replied "Oh that's amazing ❤️ Let me know if you need any help with that 😊"
Coming from the mum i would think its normal. From the dad?! Do dads communicate with hearts on WhatsApp normally? Am i being unreasonable in thinking he's being too familiar?

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Endorewitch · 17/12/2025 23:32

Nayoryay33 · 14/12/2025 12:42

This is a 40 year old something man thats sending ❤️s. Not a teen.
Anyways.. Ive hearted all of his wifes messages this week, but none of his 😄 So i win ⭐️

Much ado about nothing. All he meant that he was giving heartfelt thanks!!Not only teens use hearts. Increasingly popular. Anyhow you feel better and he won't care either way,so problem solved

Frogbear · 14/12/2025 14:49

Yet you complain his behaviour is like that of a teen…?

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Nayoryay33 · 14/12/2025 12:42

This is a 40 year old something man thats sending ❤️s. Not a teen.
Anyways.. Ive hearted all of his wifes messages this week, but none of his 😄 So i win ⭐️

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DarkForces · 11/12/2025 05:01

NigelForage · 11/12/2025 03:24

The SCHOOL? How bloody odd. Di they think you're imbeciles @DarkForces

It was after that Netflix show where there was cyber bullying. It's more that they had developed a whole new language via emojis that you needed to be able to decode so they sent the cypher... although I'm sure that's a short term fix. It's definitely made me look at the doughnut in a whole new light. Give me the ❤️ any day 😜

NigelForage · 11/12/2025 03:24

The SCHOOL? How bloody odd. Di they think you're imbeciles @DarkForces

Ballondor · 11/12/2025 00:08

Totally normal.

My work colleagues, male and female, use hearts to confirm they agree with something or like it, via Teams.

DarkForces · 10/12/2025 23:37

DD's school sent a handy decoder for emojis. Hearts are innocent, pretty much all the others, yikes! 😧

StrawberrySquash · 10/12/2025 23:32

Iseeyou99 · 08/12/2025 20:28

No you are not overthinking.

Is he fantasizing over you? Well maybe not. But it does feel a little over familiar. You are right. Dismissal of ones reality is huge on MN btw.

I suggest just go a bit further the other way in your comms. So go formal, no kisses, no emojis, blunt facts - if you ever need to communicate again.

Don't tell me women on here would have no problem if they saw this from their husband to another mum.

Let's say OP is an attractive hot thing - then she could be the one facing passive aggressive wrath here. Be cautious just to be safe OP.

I personally don't like thumbs up because I see you can text someone about something really serious and heartfelt or slightly sensitive - and they then thumbs up. That makes me think ' dick'.

Trust yourself on this. Go formal all the way.

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Oh no! I just skimmed back through a few texts in the group chat and married male friend has hearted similar messages to the OP's. I must warn his wife immediately

AprilinPortugal · 10/12/2025 23:11

neednotknow · 08/12/2025 21:16

you're not colleagues though and this isn't teams

you should trust your gut and your pattern recognition

his wife is gone all night

you're single he knows this

this is escalation

he didnt 'like' the message with a heart

he added it to the main message 'blah blah blah ❤️'

he could have gone 🙏🏽 or nothing at all

im pretty sure he knows the difference

he is testing the boundary

Agree with this. Hearting a message is different to adding a heart to the message! And yes I was thinking the same, OP is single, wife works at night. But then I'm a cynical old bugger

Laiste · 10/12/2025 08:41

Iseeyou99 · 09/12/2025 12:45

Were you both single and was he fanciable? At one point on my youth I would have been highly intrigued by that I'm embarrassed to say 🤗.

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🤣
No and not really.
In his defence he was going through some dark times but ... 😳

We have a new electrician now.

1983Louise · 09/12/2025 13:21

I always use hearts and kisses, I had to apologize to a plumber when I automatically put kisses on a message to him 😂

LancashireButterPie · 09/12/2025 12:47

OMG, I heart messages from everyone. 😳. They must all think I'm a right player.

nam3c4ang3 · 09/12/2025 12:45

I mean - i dont know - i do it all the time and vice versa - i dont have anything to hide and neither do they - we're all pretty good friends etc - meet for dinners etc.

Iseeyou99 · 09/12/2025 12:45

Laiste · 09/12/2025 08:39

🍆👄🤫

from the electrician a couple of years ago.

Now that was dodgy!

Were you both single and was he fanciable? At one point on my youth I would have been highly intrigued by that I'm embarrassed to say 🤗.

Iseeyou99 · 09/12/2025 12:43

Squishedpassenger · 09/12/2025 06:34

Do you live on Albert Square?

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Do you have form for minimising someone's very sensible right to be cautious?

I wonder what life might be like on Albert Square. I hope I'd survive a week at least and dodge explosions, stitch ups, affairs, a rancid pint. Is Kat Slater still in it? We'd definitely clash. Too feisty.

Starlight1984 · 09/12/2025 09:24

DH is a tradesman and communicates with pretty much all his clients on WhatsApp. Some use emojis, GIFS.. Some have even put a kiss at the end of a friendly message thanking him for the work he's done. It baffles DH as he's very old school 😆 but everyone has a different way of texting and I don't think people put that much thought into adding an emoji or a kiss to a message no matter who it is to!

Starlight1984 · 09/12/2025 09:20

ZenNudist · 08/12/2025 21:10

This needs a laughing emoji

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Not a love heart???

Laiste · 09/12/2025 08:39

🍆👄🤫

from the electrician a couple of years ago.

Now that was dodgy!

Buffypaws · 09/12/2025 08:24

TeenLifeMum · 08/12/2025 22:12

It’s because Gen z are insisting the thumbs up is passive aggressive/sarcastic 👍 so everyone’s moved to the heart ❤️ - just means I agree. Aubergine 🍆 I’d watch out for.

This is correct. it is the aubergine you need to panic at. Or 😘👩‍❤️‍👨 etc. a heart is just him showing polite gratitude that he didn’t have to get in the car and drive.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 09/12/2025 07:37

I've always been puzzled why there is only an emoji for the heart, what about the other major organs? e.g. brain, lungs, liver, kidneys, stomach, and intestines?

I think I might get in touch with Meta and raise this. It is difficult enough for our medical students today, without this glaring omission.

Frogbear · 09/12/2025 07:04

Endorewitch · 08/12/2025 23:10

To me the heart is for you picking them up. Heartfelt thanks.
I wouldn't think twice about it.

This.

It’s very much a response to the thank you rather than just sending you a love heart.

You’re looking for problems that aren’t there.

Kitterkitkat · 09/12/2025 06:59

My male friends do this? Never thought anything of it. The females do too

Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 09/12/2025 06:55

Overthinking- hearts are super normal.🤍

Starlight9876 · 09/12/2025 06:52

Lol it's fine 💜 Unless there is some other behaviour of concern, I wouldn't give it a second thought

Randomlygeneratedname · 09/12/2025 06:44

Also, I love anyone who is offering to pick my kids up and save me a trip. I really wouldn't read any more into this.