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Adult ADHD? Not sure if it's just me being me?

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DrawerofMystery · 08/12/2025 17:50

I’m starting to wonder if I might have ADHD — I’m bad at spotting things or filtering information, and I have hyper-focus days and slow-brain days
For those of you with ADHD, what does it look like in your day-to-day life?

I’m trying to work out if it’s worth getting assessed, so any experiences would be really appreciated 🙂

Some struggles I notice:
Noticing/finding things: I can’t spot things right in front of me, and reading a departure board can take ages
Orientation & memory: I forget neighbours faces, directions, and where I parked
Fluctuating functioning: Some days I’m hyper-focused with racing thoughts; other days everything feels foggy and my speech suffers
Attention: I zone out in conversations or tasks and freeze if someone talks to me while I’m on the phone
Executive function / organisation: Starting tasks is hard, then I hyperfocus and do everything at once. Big admin jobs overwhelm me, and my space gets messy quickly. I lose stuff if I tidy up
Other odd ones: New systems, tech, and machines confuse me, and I get disoriented easily.

Not sure if this is ADHD or just me being me 😅
Does this sound familiar to anyone with ADHD?

OP posts:
ruethewhirl · 08/12/2025 18:02

You sound a lot like me and I'm pretty sure I have it. I don't have a formal diagnosis, so I realise that's not a super helpful observation, but I've come to the same conclusion about myself as you have - the characteristics just seem to fit.

chipsandpeas · 08/12/2025 18:02

Coconutter24 · 08/12/2025 17:55

If you were to get assessed what do you think would change? Would it help improve things or would you just know you have ADHD?

i was diagnosed last year and its made me more understnding why i do things/react etc even tho i am on medication which helps me a lot
getting the diagnosis made everything make sense after 47 years of masking which went to shit due to peri

YourZippyHare · 08/12/2025 18:00

Coconutter24 · 08/12/2025 17:55

If you were to get assessed what do you think would change? Would it help improve things or would you just know you have ADHD?

It helped me just to understand why I do what I do... even though I am not on meds or anything.

OP, some of it is familiar.

In addition for me- feeling emotionally overwhelmed easily. And being asked to buy a pint of milk on my way home from work, and usually having to set an alarm to remind me as I always forget.

Coconutter24 · 08/12/2025 17:55

If you were to get assessed what do you think would change? Would it help improve things or would you just know you have ADHD?

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