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My daughter has more for Christmas than my son..

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SeeYouNextTuesday88 · 08/12/2025 13:25

I had a DS who is 8 and a DD who is 4.
DS has just asked for Lego and not given any other suggestions, the Lego he wants are £30-£80 a pop. DD wants a go kart thing which she’s got but other than that’s it’s cheap Barbie’s, dolls, second hand toys etc.
so when wrapping it DOES look like DD has more. I feel so guilty but DS does have every LEGO going between our house and DGP’s and his birthday is a week after Christmas.
Should I buy him more so it looks more even?

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KilkennyCats · 08/12/2025 13:32

God, why do people suggest pants and socks to redress the balance?
😁
What kid won’t feel shortchanged when he opens exciting looking parcels to find pants and socks?

KilkennyCats · 08/12/2025 13:31

Why did you buy her a ton of “cheap” crap in the first place?
I won’t ask why you didn’t do the same for him because it’s ridiculous to do it for either of them.

SP2024 · 08/12/2025 13:30

Can you get him some other little bits like socks or a character flannel or matey bubble bath type things to even it up number wise without being expensive?

Snorlaxo · 08/12/2025 13:29

Anything practical he might need? Bits like pants and socks tick the useful and bulking up criteria.

Mollywasasinger · 08/12/2025 13:28

Or hold some of DD’s back and save them for her birthday?

At 8 I don’t think you can expect him to understand that his gifts cost the same amount, he’ll just see that DS has more stuff. So yes I’d hold back some of her gifts or buy him more, so that it looks more even.

DappledThings · 08/12/2025 13:28

So they are both getting what they want? No you don't need to spend more on your son just so he has an even number of things to open for the sake of it.

If anything I'd hold back some of the stuff for your daughter for her birthday. Sounds like a ton of separate things that will just overwhelm her.

geekone · 08/12/2025 13:28

If the value is the same you need to get creative with the wrapping. Wrap more than one gift for your DD together. At their age the same number of parcels is by far and away the most important thing

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