To think that if we’re making all this money but not showing it off… what’s the point?

There are loads of extremely wealthy people (even those with generational wealth) who cover themselves, their luggage etc., in labels!! Just because people have money, it doesn’t mean they all do the same things. Would you say the same about those with less money?

If you have loads of extra cash, you might like to think about giving to charity

Nail on the head. Same here as I'm sat looking at my 17 year old car! I could go out tomorrow and buy (in cash) a brand new BMW, Volvo or Merc, but I don't need to do it, so won't. Likewise our house is pretty average - we could have moved a few years ago to one twice as big, but why bother? We're happy in our current average house.

I’m not sure why you conflate doing the things you want with your money and showing off?

I have decent bags and clothes, I wanted something good quality that holds up to everyday use, looks smart, etc. I don’t think buying a nice bag means you are showing off?

I love holidays, we spend a lot of money on experiences such as holidays, restaurants etc. Is that showing off? The people who see me doing those things are there too, so I’m hardly showing off to them!

I think that maybe you don’t know what you like and possibly watch too much social media. If you are happy in your choices and your decisions, buy the car you want, the holiday you want, the clothes you want. It’s only showing off if you feel the need to tell everyone about it, and even then, they’ll just think you’re annoying as not everyone likes the same things so it might not be ‘showing off’ to them.

Would you honestly though? If you saw someone you didn’t know anything about, walking around in a brand you recognised? I wouldn’t think anything at all and certainly wouldn’t assume they couldn’t possibly afford the real thing.

I don't understand the showing it off thing. If you choose to have an expensive car, bag or whatever, don't you just go about your life using the items rather than thinking ooo look at me all rich?

I just think, worry more about yourself and less about what others are thinking. That probably means you will show your wealth a bit more. But boasting only happens when you’re concerned with how others are perceiving you. If you’re just getting on with living and spending in your means then that is in no way braggy.

You lost me at 'hustle'.

Because really wealthy people who have had money for generations wouldn't dream of walking about in clothes smothered in logos, or flashy trainers, bags, etc. If I see anyone dressed like thst, I just assume it's a street market knock off.

I don't want to be rich to show off, I want to be rich to have a nice life. so I wouldn't consider sharing photos of our amazing holiday (ha I wish) as showing off, but as sharing my holiday. I wouldn't buy a designer bag because it's not my thing but I wouldn't feel like I couldn't spend what I wanted on a bag.

I think it's the difference between just enjoying your rich life and doing the stuff you want and only doing stuff so you can come across as better than other people.

if your mate goes to Wales for a week in a caravan and you roll your eyes and declare how you could never go back to living such a sad life because now it's 5 star AI with personal butlers only for you, that makes you a dick. if you're generally talking about holidays and you mention something the private butler did or how the towel swans on your bed were made from pure silk and remade every time you used them, you're not

Can I introduce you to the concept of social media 😉

What is 'sad' about it, it sounds more like self-pitying moaning about a none issue!

Except it does equal insecurity. Visibly showing off wealth is seeking validation and hoping to inspire admiration and even envy from others.

It's very telling that you keep justifying it by mentioning not growing up with money. There is definitely an element of feeling validated and needing that assurance that you have 'made it' if you grew up without and feel the need to show you're better off.

I know because I have more than I grew up with now and I also feel like I sometimes have to show that I am better off now but that is definitely insecurity speaking and only makes one look gauche.

I don't need for other people to do the " oo, look at what she's got" because I don't need that kind of validation. It's worth remembering that people are all too glad to bring you back down to earth. Not least if you fail.

I wouldn't feel the need to impress the type of person who'd be impressed by a 5k handbag. A 5k handbag is just a display of financial idiocy and vanity. What do you feel it would display?

You can but making no provision for old age is irresponsible.

Because you should be taking all the pleasure in the trip/bag/botox/whatever ITSELF. If you need other people's envy to make yourself feel superior, you are a sad, empty, shallow thing.

Isn't it sad that people can't put fancy holiday photos on social media without it being seen as bragging.
We're quite wealthy and we quite like materialistic things like nice cars and nice holidays.
Sometimes you just can't hide it. People ask, you turn up to work in the car. I put pictures on SM because some of my family members like to see them and ask for photos.
I think it's very difficult to hide wealth and the problem can be just as much envy as it is 'flashing the cash'.

I guess it depends on how much of your self-worth is located in what other people think of your stuff? I can’t relate to your mindset at all, to me having money would mean being free from worry and able to spend more time doing the things I love. But you do you!

I'm very comfortable. I don't feel any need whatsoever to show it off because I don't need validation from other people. I live a nice contented life. That doesn't mean I don't use social media or buy nice things. It means I don't want or need to showboat. Frankly I find the desire or need to do so quite sad.

If I was to be in a position to buy a new car, it would be great to have more space when we were driving, to have the peace of mind to know it was safer in a crash, not to feel anxious before an MOT and to have fewer moments where something isn't working as it should and we've got to get it to a garage to be fixed.

Rubbing it in the face of other people, or wanting them to be impressed by my new car, is not a factor.

FWIW, no-one actually cares about your new car or designer handbag. It's very boring to everyone else.

Ive got a modest house and car. No mortgage, a good job, BTL property and by the end of the year a sale that will make me nearly £500k after tax.
I don't worry about money anyway but I have nicer things without worrying about it but not really flash
I certainly do not compare to others. Everyone i know has more than a couple of foreign holidays a year so that doesn't even single me out!

People enjoy different things. You like labels and think others are envious. Many of them are not. So even if you do 'flash the cash' lots of people will pity your ignorance.

FFS, you earn the money to improve your life. Not to swank around and look rich.

How bloody tacky! I find people like this laughable. What the fuck does it matter what others think? And why do you think flaunting wealth is fun?

So weird and trashy. I hope for your sake this was just click bait. Because if not I pity you.

You can live for today you know.