To think that if we’re making all this money but not showing it off… what’s the point?

And the ‘considerably richer than yooow’ couple.

I think you’ll find people care less about your lives than you think they do.

I doubt anyone cares.

Unless you're taking time off work when others you work with can't, abandoning DC or animals, I don't see why anyone would have an opinion.

I do sometimes get embarrassed telling people about how many holidays we go on. Next year, we’re going to the states twice and Europe twice. This is on top of various weekends away. However, this is how we choose to live our life and that’s that.

I’m getting Harry Enfield ‘loadsa money’ vibes.

I know a variety of people money wise and I’ve got 2 that sprung to mind for this.

Family 1 is very wealthy.
You would not know, not on social media or unless your close friends. Their children do not brag or even tell people they have their own ponies etc. They do not judge others for what they have. They all have good friends from all walks of life.

Family 2 THINK they are wealthy. But actually for the area they live are at the very lower end of wealth.
And like to make sure everyone knows. Social media is full of exotic holidays, cars, spa days and handbags etc…
Even the children post videos shaming other children for what they may be driven to school in (great, what have they done to the kids 🤦‍♀️) You can tell they are desperately trying to ‘keep up’ but I can tell you, no one likes this family! Everything is like a competition, you speak to them and they want to tell you how expensive everything they have is, it is all like a show. No one wants to be around it. No one with actual money is impressed, and people with less would probably just be annoyed.

I couldn’t give a shit what anyone thinks, i have savings, I wear the same clothes on repeat, haven’t bought anything designer in years, I go on holiday but uk and maybe Spain/turkey, as that’s what i enjoy. I post things that make me happy on social media, usually sunsets and animals! Buy the bag (or whatever it is) for yourself, would you still want it if you couldn’t show it off?? That’s the big question!

MN in particular seems to have a chip on its shoulder about 'showing off' related to MN obsession with class which I don't think exists in real life.

So if that's where you're getting your information from, I wouldn't worry.

I don't think anyone cares very much in real life about someone having an expensive handbag or car unless you're literally waving it at 'the poors'.

I think showing off is tacky, but you are free to do whatever you want. Nobody is stopping you, or making it "taboo".

What do you consider visible enjoyment or showing off though?

Buying a flash car if you love the flash car, to me is just buying a car. If you are buying a flash car because you want to show others but you aren’t fussed by the car is a bit of a prick move.

I think to me showing off is tied to the intent behind the purchase.

I live in an area where there are wealthy people and I don’t bat an eyelid. You can always tell they’ve got money but it’s just their way of life, I don’t think I they’re waltzing around going “look at me!”

Showing off is shallow.
Enjoying something is personal and nobody else’s business.
There’s a difference between showing off and enjoying something. You don’t have to show off to enjoy something.
Making sure you can life comfortably later on (eg retirement) is smart.

One of the wealthiest women I know drives a very modest car and wears simple, non branded clothes. She is incredible. Her intelligence, modesty and charm is something you couldn’t buy. I find it such an attractive quality.

I always feel, the less people have the bigger the badges, Stone Island jumpers are a good example. Screams insecurity to me. Everyone to their own though.

The older and wiser you become the less you should need things to define you. Ultimately, we leave this earth with nothing so it‘s good practice to start living more humbly. Unless you’re Elton John, I’d say money should be spent carefully.

I spend to enjoy it. My kids are well provided for financially and I can live well for as long as I am alive. I see no point in amassing money that will never be spent. I retired at 48 a couple of years ago and I plan to enjoy the rest of my life without being frugal.

This ☝🏻 Buy something because you actually like it not because you want to keep up with the Jones’.

It would just have my stuff in it, bits of fluff and dirty tissues

I do find this thread funny!

So many holier-than-thou people claiming that they buy designer goods for their own satisfaction.

Someone needs to explain the satisfaction they get paying a massive premium for a luxury brand over and above all equally well made car/handbag/coat by a non-recognisable make, other than knowing that other people will see it and recognise it as a sign of success.

Yes, those with old money may forswear the mammoth labels or certain ‘flash’ brands in favour of more subtle ones which won’t be generally recognised. But they know that the people they care about will recognise the subtle cues.

The ultimate in this is watches. Virtually any quartz watch will tell the time better than the most intricate multi jewelled chronometer, due to the piezo electric effect. But how many still buy designer brands (including me!). I wouldn’t buy a flashy one, but an understated one, but nonetheless I know people see it and like it.

(I don’t really do social media at all, other than this and WhatsApp, so I wouldn’t want to show off that way).

You can post whatever you want on your social, but you might find your follower count dwindling!

Even if you did buy a 'designer bag' would you 'wear' it or simply carry it, like normal people.

You need to reassess your life if you are doing anything in order to impress other people rather than for your own enjoyment or satisfaction.

Money is a tool not a God. Enjoy life and do with it as you choose to make YOU and yours happy. Tomorrow is not promised.

What a weird approach, taking the trip IS the enjoyment of wealth, not showing the trip off to people. My joy from wealth comes from seeing my child now happy at school (private), and I'm happy in a 2nd hand car. I've no desire for people to think I'm wealthy, that makes me feel awkward, but we enjoy the money by spending it on things that bring us joy (mainly the kids and holidays). I'd never tell or share how much any of it cost. What response would I get in a world when so many people are struggling, how would that chat go..... grim. Equally, all you have to do is go on social media and all the Kim k style influences and "life as a professional rich wife" accounts show you some people really love watching someone spend 300k on a handbag, and these people have no shame sharing that content

What a pathetic post. The second hand embarrassment I feel for OP is real

I personally put my money into my pensions and investments. Showing off is how you go broke. Think beyond today.

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Having expensive things does not mean necessarily show off! You can choose if you want to be Louis Vuitton or Hermes type of girl. Some people like to be tacky and show off whereas others prefer to be rich & classy.

The old adage that money cannot buy class.

Enjoy the financial freedom that your position affords uou. No one else really cares what you do or don’t have, but showing off is a deeply unappealing trait.