No more Christmas gifts or birthday presents.

I suspect the mother of his other children does the Christmas and birthday shopping. He is however being unfair, tell him to send you the money and you will buy something suitable, not ideal solution but you will at least know they are getting something to open on the day

My Dad was the same with me. He’s an arsehole. I severed contact with him when I was a teenager and had enough of being let down by him. Don’t make any excuses for him, you don’t need to be negative about him to your kids, but as they get older and ask you questions be completely honest. That’s what my Mum did with me and I valued her being straight forward with me when I asked questions. I have no anger towards him now I’m in my 40s, I just consider myself to not have a Dad.

You can’t control other people OP. You have to let this go and move past it, for the sake of your child.

Your child will see him for what he is when older. Very sad for them though.

He sounds like a scumbag. I would just buy an extra few pressies for your little one and not expect his/her dad to step up. He's being a lazy crap parent but there's nothing you can do about that. When your child is older, he or she will probably ask why dad hasn't got them anything for their birthday/Xmas and you will have to say you don't know why and that they should ask their dad why he hasn't got them anything.

Does he never spend a birthday or Christmas at his dad’s house? Surely he wouldn’t simply not mark the occasion with any gifts at all if your DC was there?

This is heartbreaking that he wouldn’t want to buy
and give presents to his own child. All you can do is what is single mums always have to do and pick up the slack and make your little one feel all the love and attention he could ever need from you and forget all about the stupid ex!

I buy all my DC’s birthday and Christmas presents and still label them from mummy and daddy even though he hasn’t bought a single one because I don’t want them to feel rejected and that matters more than how difficult it is for me to write that on the tag and give him half my credit.

It is unfair.

But presumably you know your ex is a dick. That's why he's an ex right?

Don't stress yourself over it. Have a lovely Christmas with your DC.

My ex doesn't tip up for his kids either. They learn later on and he'll reap what he has sown. I tended to try and make up for it at my end rather than get something from him. I'm not sure what else you can do.

But I wouldn't allow child to go over to dad's at Christmas though. It'll be torture to see siblings with gifts and no been bothered with.

He is sending a clear message that he doesn't value his child with you enough to bother. (And don't expect him to ever hand over the money he claims he is putting aside.)

Oh, and don't assume it is him choosing, or even funding, the presents for the other children. It is probably their mother doing that for them.

Bastard.

Sorry OP. I'd put all my energy into my relationship with them. He doesn't deserve them.