AIBU to outright ask for a reason as to why I suddenly being virtually ignored by family ?
I always had regular call and text contact with DM who lives at the opposite end of the country. In the last few months if I call she says ‘sorry can’t talk’ I tried to arrange to see her and she said ‘no too busy’ or ‘no I’m seeing your sister instead’
I drove there one day on the off chance on my day off but nobody was in.
she’s in good health as far as I’m aware.
sister won’t speak to me but never really has as there was an incident a few years ago she got drunk at Xmas and really tried it on with my dh in front of everyone and said some unpleasant things about me.
I always have text dm a lot but she doesn’t reply now and if she does it’s one word responses .We used to share photos of baking we had done , I’d send pictures of the dc she would send pictures of her cats. I’ve noticed on WA that if I message her she is I think immediately letting my sister know ? As she will be online and they both are (I think I’ve got a bit neurotic checking this tbh) it’s as if dm notifies if I contact and is told if she can reply or not ? This happened once before after above drunk incident dm accidentally text me ‘what do you want me to say? Of course I’m on your side but I don’t know who I can talk to or what I’m meant to say?’ After that when I still was seeing DM suddenly my sister was there each time as well acting like some kind of supervisor to contact almost ?
Do I try to somehow get to speak to DM on my own and ask her directly what’s happening?