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To find it hard to adjust to this kind of home?

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Firefumes · 08/12/2025 00:20

I recently viewed some houses, where the front door/windows are right at pavement level. So people walking past the house can easily see in, if you were unlocking the front door, others would be directly behind you if they walk past. Aibu to feel this is a bit unsafe?

I’m sure many people manage okay. It’s just that I have had my own apartment for a few years. It’s a nice apartment complex with restricted access, gated entry, concierge so feels safe. I’m also on the 2nd floor. So I feel risk of theft or break ins are low.

Previously I lived with my friends at university, and before that I lived with my parents. My parent’s house has a long, steep driveway and a porch. Their front door isn’t accessible at street/pavement level to passers by, you’d have to take the stairs. As a result, they’ve never had any bother from strangers and their house feels safe. Was no bother leaving parcels in the porch as they were covered from street view.

But something about the houses I viewed recently, just felt unsafe. Like they were too accessible to members of the public, people just naturally end up in close proximity and able to see inside. Aibu to write these off for that reason?

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TwoBagsOfCompost · 08/12/2025 07:03

Firefumes · 08/12/2025 05:10

Yes, so the front door opens directly from the pavement into the living room, with a window on the same wall too. It made me feel like I was in public, like standing next to a shop window. People literally the same height as the window walking past.

To be fair they didn’t have any blinds or curtains up but it just felt too open for me. There was only a living room & kitchen downstairs and both rooms had exterior doors. The back door opens to the communal parking area, so even that door didn’t totally feel secure/private.

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"There was only a living room & kitchen downstairs"

Oh dear, how ghastly. One cannot fathom how anyone could live like this. Sounds positively primitive.

WonderingWanda · 08/12/2025 06:59

I lived in a house which fronted straight onto the pavement, you're less likely to be broken into because the doors and windows are visible to everyone, unlike houses hidden up driveways with trees etc providing plenty of cover for the burglars.

You can get blinds to screen the windows so people can't peer in. It's fine, although maybe a little noisier if it's a route with lots of footfall

You don't have to buy one but I'm guessing that's what your budget can stretch to.

Makemineacosmo · 08/12/2025 06:58

B1anche · 08/12/2025 04:34

Not where I live. It sounds horrendous. Even when I lived in 2 bed terrace, there was a front garden to separate the house from the street.

Horrendous? I've never lived in a house like this, but there are millions of them. By all means say they're not to your taste, but to say they're horrendous is kind of an overreaction and insulting to those who live in them. They're not dreadful hovels, just normal houses for many areas.

Soduku1234 · 08/12/2025 06:51

There are millions of these types of houses in the North (and probably in many other regions). I lived in one years ago and never once had a problem with it (or ever invented problems that could happen).

Friendlygingercat · 08/12/2025 06:47

Im thinking that there used to be many houses like that in villages and also in parts of London. They used to be called "workmens" cottages because thats what they were. On big country estates they were for the agricultural workers and the servants of the big house. In London they are called mews cottages and are very expensive and desirable. You step straight into the main living room from the street, Our house had a kind of corridor (lobby) with the rooms leading off it. We used to play there as kids.

As some PP have pointed out most of the houses in the working class parts of large cities were like that. This is a very normal way for older houses to be built. Its only in the later 20th century that new builds were made with spaces for cars and set back from the street. Most will have some private space at the back.

Another thing thing about such older houses is that they are difficult to insulate to a C standard. So there may be many of them going cheaply if the new regulations come in as they will be difficult to sell. But if Labour gets kicked out that may change.

InfoSecInTheCity · 08/12/2025 06:44

This is a very common style of housing in my city, the vast majority of city centre based/near housing is terrace properties that open onto the street. It wouldn’t be my first choice if I had the ability to be choosey but it wouldn’t be a showstopper for me.

For those who are unfamiliar with the style I’ve attached some pictures (might take a while to show as all pics have to be approved)

To find it hard to adjust to this kind of home?
To find it hard to adjust to this kind of home?
Barrenfieldoffucks · 08/12/2025 06:44

BerryTwister · 08/12/2025 01:26

I find this thread truly bizarre. OP what you’re describing is a basic terraced house. I lived in houses like that for 15 years, from student to early 30s. It never entered my head to feel vulnerable.

Agreed, these are hugely common.

To not want one, fine, but to be surprised by them?

Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 08/12/2025 06:40

You’d get used to it. It’s safe. I felt the same when i moved to a bigger house on a road. Previous cottage was surrounded by fields.

LemonDrizzleKay · 08/12/2025 06:36

DallazMajor · 08/12/2025 00:26

I used to live in a house like that.

One time a man just stood at my window just staring in at me for ages and then he tried the door handle. Luckily the door was locked

I absolutely shat myself.

You didn’t call the police?

Evergreen21 · 08/12/2025 06:35

It would put me off a house. I did live in one similar as a child until we moved. My own home is set back from the road and we have a front garden and large drive. People still look in if they are passing and the door is open.

ChristmasMantleStatue · 08/12/2025 06:25

The house we lived in London is like that. Door opened straight to the street. We used a curtain for the door which had glass. The windows had shutters on the bottom half and nothing on the top so there was alot of light still.

It was in Chelsea and I assume would have a value of over £3 million. So not too 'horrendous' to even contemplate.

MiniPantherOwner · 08/12/2025 06:23

The horror people are expressing at a normal terraced house is weird. I've lived in one for over a decade. Of course in an ideal world I'd love a front garden and a drive to park my car, but it was this or a flat. I've never felt unsafe, quite the opposite. If anyone wants to try and break into my house or mug me when I'm opening my front door they're going to have to do it in front of the whole street, rather than from a more secluded driveway. Sheer curtains or nets easily and cheaply solve the problem of people being able to see in. To be honest I find some of the comments on this thread offensive and snobbish.

Herbisaurous · 08/12/2025 06:19

If you don't like it, don't buy it.

I often look at some of the houses on my commute and feel similar. Round here there's lots of quaint little micro cottages which were in the villages long before the A road running through them was built and their front doors open onto a tiny narrow pavement (half standard width) or in some places, even none at all. I wouldnt feel comfortable having to look both ways with lorries thundering past before exiting my own front door, especially not with a dog and small child.

But I dont think you can argue that privilege hasn't played a part in your current situation (thats not a bad thing btw - it's what we all work towards to try to provide for our own kids)

Fedupofwimps · 08/12/2025 06:13

TheLittleMermoo · 08/12/2025 05:47

Of course you're privileged, you're in your 20s buying a house in London, having grown up in a world of front gardens and driveways

You keep going on about your parents house like its your sole benchmark or reference.

This!
Have you never, ever walked past a house like this?
They are very common and there are loads of them near me. I have never been in a mansion but I know they exist, are you sure you are not posting because you want to tell us you are in your 20's and buying a house?

VegQueen · 08/12/2025 06:10

It depends on the area. I lived in a flat like that in a dodgy area and I hated it. It was first floor so not overlooked when you were inside, but you opened the door right from the pavement. There were lots of drug issues in the area and people asking for money when you were about to open your front door was very intimidating. If it was generally a safe area, I wouldn’t mind.

superchick · 08/12/2025 05:57

I had a shared house like this at uni. In a small industrial town. Because it was a shared house the living room had been converted into a bedroom right at the front and this was my room. In the year I lived there I never felt any concerns about it. And I was sleeping right next to the front door with my bedroom window looking out on the street. I think I was probably just a fearless 20 year old, but the area felt very safe generally and the neighbours were a mix of students and locals and we all got on well.

In fact I had another similar set up a few years later in a big city. My bedroom was on the ground floor again and I used to keep my top window open at night and because the house was on a corner with a nearby pub I got to hear all the local comings and goings, it was quite fun.

I grew up in a detached house in a tiny village, set quite far back from the road so this wasn't what I was used to but I definitely have enjoyed all the different quirky places I have lived. Currently I have a very small front garden so I am basically on the road but in a cul de sac with trees and such like so no-one stood immediately outside my house.

TheLittleMermoo · 08/12/2025 05:47

Firefumes · 08/12/2025 05:41

I mean, most people understood where I was coming from.

Ultimately yeah, I don’t have a frame of reference as I haven’t lived in a house like that. I’m not privileged but I have a decent enough income from work to live alone in London. Hence starting out by renting an apartment with concierge. I mentioned I’m in my 20s and would be buying alone - I naturally gravitate to what feels the most familiar/safe. I just wanted to see if others felt this was worth compromising on particularly if they were living alone and not with family/partner at that age.

To me, it’s one thing being responsible for an apartment where security is shared. It’s another thing to have sole responsibility of all/any security of a house. If I had a house like my parents, I would feel more comfortable as there were times I had the house to myself for a couple of months and felt fine.

However the houses I viewed, I just didn’t feel safe in. I’d avoid a ground floor apartment for similar reasons too.

Of course you're privileged, you're in your 20s buying a house in London, having grown up in a world of front gardens and driveways

You keep going on about your parents house like its your sole benchmark or reference.

Firefumes · 08/12/2025 05:41

TheLittleMermoo · 08/12/2025 05:24

Read the room OP.

You're describing a completely normal house.

I find it so weird you are in your 20s and haven't ever had the opportunity to notice this for yourself. You sound very sheltered and privileged.

I mean, most people understood where I was coming from.

Ultimately yeah, I don’t have a frame of reference as I haven’t lived in a house like that. I’m not privileged but I have a decent enough income from work to live alone in London. Hence starting out by renting an apartment with concierge. I mentioned I’m in my 20s and would be buying alone - I naturally gravitate to what feels the most familiar/safe. I just wanted to see if others felt this was worth compromising on particularly if they were living alone and not with family/partner at that age.

To me, it’s one thing being responsible for an apartment where security is shared. It’s another thing to have sole responsibility of all/any security of a house. If I had a house like my parents, I would feel more comfortable as there were times I had the house to myself for a couple of months and felt fine.

However the houses I viewed, I just didn’t feel safe in. I’d avoid a ground floor apartment for similar reasons too.

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TheLittleMermoo · 08/12/2025 05:24

Read the room OP.

You're describing a completely normal house.

I find it so weird you are in your 20s and haven't ever had the opportunity to notice this for yourself. You sound very sheltered and privileged.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 08/12/2025 05:23

My house gives directly onto the street and people can look through my window. I have stuff on the windowsill and the only people I’ve noticed looking in were small children on their way to school.

Firefumes · 08/12/2025 05:12

ThisTicklishFatball · 08/12/2025 04:29

Since you haven’t bought a house of this type yet, I’d recommend holding off unless it’s the only option within your budget. In that case, your best bet is to buy it and focus on making it as secure and private as possible. People have shared some helpful suggestions, and I’d also suggest doing more research on ways to feel safer.

I’m not fond of this style of terraced houses either.

Thanks. Yes, I don’t think I’ll go for it. I viewed it thinking it could have been an accessible way of getting on the London housing ladder but I don’t think I’d be comfortable there

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Overtheatlantic · 08/12/2025 05:11

Sounds like my house. We have shutters in the front window. The bottom part stays closed, the top part stays open. I don’t like walking straight out onto the pavement but it’s centrally located and it’s in a good neighborhood.

Firefumes · 08/12/2025 05:10

SemperIdem · 08/12/2025 01:26

I understood, I’m slightly confused by your unease with them. Where I live houses without front gardens etc can sell for up to a million.

Do you mean houses where the front door opens both directly on to the pavement and into the living room? No pathway outside at all, no hallway? If so, I do kind of see where you’re coming from.

Yes, so the front door opens directly from the pavement into the living room, with a window on the same wall too. It made me feel like I was in public, like standing next to a shop window. People literally the same height as the window walking past.

To be fair they didn’t have any blinds or curtains up but it just felt too open for me. There was only a living room & kitchen downstairs and both rooms had exterior doors. The back door opens to the communal parking area, so even that door didn’t totally feel secure/private.

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B1anche · 08/12/2025 05:09

LordEmsworth · 08/12/2025 04:43

"Horrendous"?! That's my street, and rhe one next to it, and the one connecting them. I live in a very popular area. None of us is filled with horror!

Ok, I take back the word 'horrendous'. I had visions of a front door leading directly on to my local high street or something. I realise now people are talking about Coronation Street type houses.

Wingingit73 · 08/12/2025 05:04

Omg i cannot believe the privilege in this post. She's talking about a normal terraced house where lots and lots of people live.
Just imagine not having a concierge or long driveway! How on earth would you cope 🫣

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