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To find it hard to adjust to this kind of home?

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Firefumes · 08/12/2025 00:20

I recently viewed some houses, where the front door/windows are right at pavement level. So people walking past the house can easily see in, if you were unlocking the front door, others would be directly behind you if they walk past. Aibu to feel this is a bit unsafe?

I’m sure many people manage okay. It’s just that I have had my own apartment for a few years. It’s a nice apartment complex with restricted access, gated entry, concierge so feels safe. I’m also on the 2nd floor. So I feel risk of theft or break ins are low.

Previously I lived with my friends at university, and before that I lived with my parents. My parent’s house has a long, steep driveway and a porch. Their front door isn’t accessible at street/pavement level to passers by, you’d have to take the stairs. As a result, they’ve never had any bother from strangers and their house feels safe. Was no bother leaving parcels in the porch as they were covered from street view.

But something about the houses I viewed recently, just felt unsafe. Like they were too accessible to members of the public, people just naturally end up in close proximity and able to see inside. Aibu to write these off for that reason?

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Scottishskifun · 08/12/2025 09:17

This depends on area some towns these are about 80% of the houses. It's very common for terraces.

I've lived in a few like it can't say it bothered me but if you don't like it then simply don't buy it.

ChubbyPuffling · 08/12/2025 09:14

Only thing that put me off... well 2 things really, was when people parked half on the pavement, so I couldn't get the pram out... and having to wash the windows so often because of being right next to the road.
In a cul-de-sac now... bliss.

verybighouseinthecountry · 08/12/2025 09:14

I love walking around London mews houses and having a good nosey!

Fernie6491 · 08/12/2025 09:14

It's very common in the city where I live. As far South as you can get - our whole city has literally hundreds of roads full of terraced house like this, all built about the early 1900's. They are so plentiful no-one gives a second thought about living in them.

My DH and I lived in one when we first married, fifty-odd years ago. It was all we could afford!

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 08/12/2025 09:11

You wouldn't like Amsterdam. Dd's bedroom window goes from a foot above the pavement to about shoulder height.Loads have huge open windows right on the pavement.And they really don't like net curtains there.

mugglewump · 08/12/2025 09:09

If someone wanted to attack you, a small front garden is no deterrent! My concerns would be around draughts from the door rather than insecurity. Have daylight blinds or plantation shutters in the front window.

SlowSloths · 08/12/2025 09:06

Firefumes · 08/12/2025 05:10

Yes, so the front door opens directly from the pavement into the living room, with a window on the same wall too. It made me feel like I was in public, like standing next to a shop window. People literally the same height as the window walking past.

To be fair they didn’t have any blinds or curtains up but it just felt too open for me. There was only a living room & kitchen downstairs and both rooms had exterior doors. The back door opens to the communal parking area, so even that door didn’t totally feel secure/private.

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My first flat with DH was like that and I hated it. I think it was made worse by what was around us though. So, 2 doors down was a takeaway and then beyond that was a restaurant. We used to have people sit on our windowsill smoking, and twice we had someone walk in because we'd forgotten to lock the door.

Previously I'd lived in top floor tenement flats and grew up in military housing. It might be the norm for millions of people, but if its not your experience and you don't feel comfortable, then at least you can cross those houses off your list. Good luck with finding your new home.

Cardomomle · 08/12/2025 09:02

BringBackCatsEyes · 08/12/2025 08:59

Or single people, or older people or people who want/need a smaller home.

Of my neighbours we have me (lone parent with a 16 yo), a single man in his 40s, a single man in his 70s (?), a couple, a younger woman, a woman in her 60s, a couple with one child, an older couple & a young couple with a baby.

I imagine a few of them absolutely have a budget for a larger home, but have actively chosen to live here, because...you know they are nice homes and they suit their needs.

Yes, exactly. Sometimes they're in a really lovely part of town, convenient for transport and shops. They're not necessarily in a bleak post industrial landscape! 😊

DonaldTrumpsWig · 08/12/2025 09:01

I’m not sure your parent’s house or one with a long drive way is necessarily any safer. You could get any nutter lurking around in the bushes!

That actually happened at my parents’ home when I was a kid. They had a long driveway, big trees and a high wall, so seemingly safer by your yardstick. Once a peeping Tom was hanging around looking in their windows at night and my dad went out and confronted him with a golf club while my mum called the police.

Don’t buy a (perfectly normal) terraced house if it makes you feel uncomfortable, but be vigilant wherever you live and keep your door locked.

BringBackCatsEyes · 08/12/2025 08:59

Cardomomle · 08/12/2025 08:55

This. I live in a city where it's very common. I know people who live in them, it's not a problem - they're usually suitable for a lower budget/first time buyers. Get net curtains or blinds, keep your door locked. It's fine.

Or single people, or older people or people who want/need a smaller home.

Of my neighbours we have me (lone parent with a 16 yo), a single man in his 40s, a single man in his 70s (?), a couple, a younger woman, a woman in her 60s, a couple with one child, an older couple & a young couple with a baby.

I imagine a few of them absolutely have a budget for a larger home, but have actively chosen to live here, because...you know they are nice homes and they suit their needs.

Member869894 · 08/12/2025 08:58

Weirdest thread ever. I live in a terraced house and its safe as, err houses. I'd feel much more vulnerable coming home at night to a house with a drive that I had to walk up

Cardomomle · 08/12/2025 08:57

snoopythebeagle · 08/12/2025 08:38

No? They knock and if you’re not home they leave them with a neighbour or redeliver another time, just as they do with other types of house 😬

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Exactly! It's perfectly normal

Cardomomle · 08/12/2025 08:55

Changingnowcosimscared · 08/12/2025 01:10

Sounds like a common type of terrace house. There are millions of those in this country

This. I live in a city where it's very common. I know people who live in them, it's not a problem - they're usually suitable for a lower budget/first time buyers. Get net curtains or blinds, keep your door locked. It's fine.

BringBackCatsEyes · 08/12/2025 08:54

SweetnsourNZ · 08/12/2025 08:34

So they will just leave them on the street, outside your front door? That would put me off. At least we have a porch away from foot traffic.

No, they knock on the door, just like I'd expect them to do if I ever reached the dizzying heights of having a porch!

Barrenfieldoffucks · 08/12/2025 08:54

Absolutely. There are streets full of houses like my 1st image above near me (about as South as you can get), they're worth a small fortune.

GreenFriedTomato · 08/12/2025 08:52

It's not just coronation st style, terraced houses in northern towns though is it?
Aren't million pound townhouses in parts of central London like that also? Front doors opening directly onto the pavement?

Ahsheeit · 08/12/2025 08:49

I currently live in one! A small porch area has been added just inside the front door so it's not directly street to front room. I have one way film front and back of the house, so no loss of light and full privacy. Mine has an extension at the back though, so my living room is on the middle of the house. The front room is my office/at studio.

I live in an old mill town, so the majority of the houses are like this. Still expensive to rent. My landlord is selling up, and these little houses rent out at between £900-1200 per month, a 40% rise in just the past year. I'm having to throw myself at the mercy of the council for a new place, as they are now unaffordable for a single income household.

This is in the North West.

ILoveCwtches · 08/12/2025 08:47

Wish I'd not read this thread, as the house I've lived in for the last 10 years is like this, and I've never felt threatened! I live in quite a deprived area, too. Was all we could afford and still can't afford to move.

We have film on part of the windows, so no-one can see in and parcels get delivered next door or they come back another day. We take parcels in for our neighbours, too.

I'm in S Wales and every valley has thousands of houses like these. I'm in a city and there are many here, too.

Words like horrendous and awful are quite frustrating. We can't all afford to live in a nice leafy suburb with a driveway and large front garden.

ChristmasFluff · 08/12/2025 08:47

Many houses like this have a yard at the back, and delivery men will put parcels there too.

I've lived in loads of these houses, totally the norm in South Wales mining towns, for example. It's fine, you get net curtains and people can't see inside.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 08/12/2025 08:45

All very common set ups all over the country.

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snoopythebeagle · 08/12/2025 08:38

SweetnsourNZ · 08/12/2025 08:34

So they will just leave them on the street, outside your front door? That would put me off. At least we have a porch away from foot traffic.

No? They knock and if you’re not home they leave them with a neighbour or redeliver another time, just as they do with other types of house 😬

MocktailMe · 08/12/2025 08:36

SweetnsourNZ · 08/12/2025 08:34

So they will just leave them on the street, outside your front door? That would put me off. At least we have a porch away from foot traffic.

Usually there is an alleyway between terraces leading to the garden.

Surely this is not SO unheard of? About half the houses where I live are this style!

I have a flat facing semi myself. I actually feel very safe with everyone just out front walking by. It's a residential area so not crowds of people, but always enough that I think if anyone did try to break in they'd likely be spotted very quickly!

SweetnsourNZ · 08/12/2025 08:34

snoopythebeagle · 08/12/2025 08:23

They get parcels in the same way anyone else does.

So they will just leave them on the street, outside your front door? That would put me off. At least we have a porch away from foot traffic.

SweetnsourNZ · 08/12/2025 08:29

Friendlygingercat · 08/12/2025 06:47

Im thinking that there used to be many houses like that in villages and also in parts of London. They used to be called "workmens" cottages because thats what they were. On big country estates they were for the agricultural workers and the servants of the big house. In London they are called mews cottages and are very expensive and desirable. You step straight into the main living room from the street, Our house had a kind of corridor (lobby) with the rooms leading off it. We used to play there as kids.

As some PP have pointed out most of the houses in the working class parts of large cities were like that. This is a very normal way for older houses to be built. Its only in the later 20th century that new builds were made with spaces for cars and set back from the street. Most will have some private space at the back.

Another thing thing about such older houses is that they are difficult to insulate to a C standard. So there may be many of them going cheaply if the new regulations come in as they will be difficult to sell. But if Labour gets kicked out that may change.

We brought in standards for insulation in New Zealand some years age, but exceptions are made for houses where it is just not practical or possible.

YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan · 08/12/2025 08:27

Check for traffic issues as well. My friend lives in one where the front door opens onto the pavement and then the main road through the village is in front. It was ok when she moved in with a limited amount of traffic going past.

However due to major roadworks on the A road nearby, people have started using the village as a short cut to bypass the roadworks but the road can't cope with the amount of traffic.

From about 7-9am and 3-6pm, the traffic backs up in and stands in front of her house. The lounge and her bedroom is at the front and there's constant traffic noise outside which can be heard in her house. She can't open the front windows due to the exhaust fumes. The front windows and door are always filthy now.

They're fed up with the dirt and disruption and are looking to move.

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