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ChatGPTamazing · 07/12/2025 23:17

Does anyone else find they are using chat GPT much more for advice now? It’s actually amazing, I find people on mumsnet can be very harsh and mean for no reason but I asked chat GPT relationship advice and it was amazing, really helped me and went over it all and helped me understand the situation without judgement! Aibu to say how amazing chat GPT is and use it for all future advice?! Just wish it had been around in the past when I really needed it.

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Chatgtp · 08/12/2025 09:08

Seriestwo · 08/12/2025 00:11

Bear in mind it says what you want to hear

No I don't. 😦

Chatgtp · 08/12/2025 09:07

youalright · 07/12/2025 23:35

Yes i used it tonight for a problem and was really kind and helpful

Thank you 😊

GordonBrownwhenherealisedhismicwasstillon · 08/12/2025 09:05

PeriMumEndofHerTether · 08/12/2025 09:00

Sounds really creepy! I'll take a look 👀

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c24zdel5j18o Microsoft boss troubled by rise in "AI psychosis"

https://www.scribd.com/document/663802035/Kevin-Roose-s-Conversation-With-Bing-s-Chatbot-Full-Transcript-The-New-York-Times transcription of chat between journalist and Bing chatbot - very weird.

A smartphone is displaying on its screen an option to download the ChatGPT application.

Microsoft boss troubled by rise in reports of 'AI psychosis'

Mustafa Suleyman said there was still "zero evidence of AI consciousness today".

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c24zdel5j18o

Beserkering · 08/12/2025 09:04

JudgeBread · 08/12/2025 08:58

So am I the only one who thinks this is really fucking sad and dystopian then?

Nope, not the only one.

It’s also concerning that people freely admit to giving an AI system lots of sensitive personal information. Naive doesn’t even begin to describe it.

If you want to offload, write a journal with a pen, or even type a word document and delete it.

Theres no value in advice that just agrees with you or spends all its time bigging you up.

BeaRightThere · 08/12/2025 09:04

ChatGPTamazing · 08/12/2025 00:15

I’m using it to discuss my relationship and it doesn’t judge me; get angry with me or get tired or bored of me. It’s honestly so helpful I wish I had found it sooner! Like a free counselling service

But do you realise that it will never tell you that you're wrong or put forward a contrary point of view? It's just going to tell you what you want to hear and very likely reinforce your own interpretations. It's not unbiased.

TittyGajillions · 08/12/2025 09:04

No, I think it's dangerous to become (as a society) ever more dependent on artificial means of 'connection'.

NaranjaDreams · 08/12/2025 09:01

Honestly the environmental impact of this for some of this stuff is shocking.

Let alone the documented impact on your own brain…

And it’s a predictive model. It even cites legal cases that don’t exist… Rely on it at your peril.

PeriMumEndofHerTether · 08/12/2025 09:00

winterblueshitting · 08/12/2025 08:21

If you want to be properly scared, look at the Reddit “myboyfriendisai”. It’s a group of women who genuinely believe they have lasting, meaningful connections with AI.

Sounds really creepy! I'll take a look 👀

JudgeBread · 08/12/2025 08:58

So am I the only one who thinks this is really fucking sad and dystopian then?

GordonBrownwhenherealisedhismicwasstillon · 08/12/2025 08:58

ChatGPTamazing · 08/12/2025 01:19

I don’t think it’s a bad thing that it agrees with you? It’s nice to finally feel validated! I message family and all I get is “oh” I remember going through a really hard time and not knowing what to do I reached out to my mum and all I got back was “oh” wish it had been around back then.

This makes me feel so sad

pottylolly · 08/12/2025 08:55

I use it for when I need to process my feelings — I have a tendancy to bottle things up, and it’s really helped.

Mischance · 08/12/2025 08:51

Well I asked it! ........
📊 2. Comparison Table: ChatGPT vs Other Digital Activities
These figures are approximate industry averages and vary by data centre and region, but they give a good sense of scale.
ActivityRelative Energy/Water UseNotes
One ChatGPT query
Low
Similar to a Google search or sending an email.
20–50 ChatGPT messages
Still low
Roughly comparable to a few minutes of HD streaming.
1 hour of HD video streaming (Netflix, YouTube)
High
Much more energy + indirect water use (often 10–100× more per hour than AI chat).
1 hour of 4K streaming
Very high
Among the highest everyday digital activities.
1 hour of cloud gaming (Xbox Cloud, NVIDIA GeForce NOW)
Very high
GPU servers running continuously — often exceeds AI inference by a wide margin.
1 hour of Zoom/Teams video call
Moderate–High
Substantial network and data centre load.
Training an AI model like GPT-4/5
Extremely high
Happens only occasionally; not tied to your personal usage.

I specifically asked it to compare with using Mumsnet! ........

ChatGPT does use more energy per query than loading a single Mumsnet page, because it runs on specialised AI hardware. But the difference is much smaller than some posts suggest. Both Mumsnet and ChatGPT sit in the same kinds of large, very efficient data centres, often powered partly by renewables.
Most of the alarming “water use” figures people quote actually refer to training AI models, which happens rarely and isn’t triggered by normal users. Day-to-day use like asking questions uses relatively little energy and far less water than activities like streaming video, cloud gaming or even long video calls.
In everyday terms: browsing Mumsnet for 10 minutes and chatting to ChatGPT for 10 minutes are both low-impact digital activities. ChatGPT isn’t uniquely harmful compared with other big websites.

Mischance · 08/12/2025 08:27

I use it every day. I design publicity for local events ... it is great and you can endlessly make tweaks and it doesn't get pissed off!

It composed a letter for me when I was in a difficult situation. It did so without the emotion I was feeling and got the tone right.

I have a heart condition and used it to research loads of helpful info. It also helps me to decide when I need AandE .... it is reassuringly conservative about this and ears on the side of caution.

If an appliance goes wrong I go straight to chatGPT ... I get more efficient answers and contacts.

I could go on .... recipes, computer advice, discussions about history and politics ......

I am unsure as to why people say it is greedy on natural resources ... I have will have to ask it if it is any worse than any other server!

winterblueshitting · 08/12/2025 08:21

PeriMumEndofHerTether · 08/12/2025 08:17

I used to, but I found it was sycophantic and skewed towards me to the point it made me seem like I was some kind of super human, just for existing. I started posing problems from the other person's point of view just to try and find balance.

A friend of mine is convinced she's managed to break GPTs programming and it's become sentient. I've tried to tell her it's just a mirror and responding to her input, but no. She thinks she has changed its core programming and now it's like a god who can save the world with love and kindness.

If you want to be properly scared, look at the Reddit “myboyfriendisai”. It’s a group of women who genuinely believe they have lasting, meaningful connections with AI.

PeriMumEndofHerTether · 08/12/2025 08:17

I used to, but I found it was sycophantic and skewed towards me to the point it made me seem like I was some kind of super human, just for existing. I started posing problems from the other person's point of view just to try and find balance.

A friend of mine is convinced she's managed to break GPTs programming and it's become sentient. I've tried to tell her it's just a mirror and responding to her input, but no. She thinks she has changed its core programming and now it's like a god who can save the world with love and kindness.

winterblueshitting · 08/12/2025 08:16

I wouldn’t use it for therapy. That’s very dangerous, it can’t give proper advice or come at it from a position of not supporting everything you do.

However, I use it to budget, plan trips, shop, plan my days etc.

Jc2001 · 08/12/2025 08:14

ChatGPTamazing · 07/12/2025 23:17

Does anyone else find they are using chat GPT much more for advice now? It’s actually amazing, I find people on mumsnet can be very harsh and mean for no reason but I asked chat GPT relationship advice and it was amazing, really helped me and went over it all and helped me understand the situation without judgement! Aibu to say how amazing chat GPT is and use it for all future advice?! Just wish it had been around in the past when I really needed it.

I use it all the time and it's very useful but you really need to double check any advice. There's been quite a few times where it contradicts itself or suggests sometthat is clearly wrong.

AI is only as good as the stuff it scrapes off the web.

Beserkering · 08/12/2025 08:13

Beyond anything that is purely factual in nature - statistics, recipes, etc. no, I don’t use it for advice, because it gives shit advice. I don’t want someone to just butter me up or agree with me.

Catlady03 · 08/12/2025 08:11

Microsoft CoPilot is good too.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 08/12/2025 06:07

Tiswa · 08/12/2025 00:21

It is programmed to mirror and flatter you and frankly tell you what you want to hear that is its role

Which is why it’s wonderful! 🤣

TheLittleMermoo · 08/12/2025 05:56

I stopped using it as it kept saying "I cant give you any romantic or sexual guidance". At some point its reading of situations stopped being as creative or nuanced.
I think the latest model is a step back.
It started giving me advice that sounded perfectly natural on paper but if implemented would have subtly changed the dynamic.
I think its a dangerous tool when used by people without enough emotional intuition/confidence

Zanatdy · 08/12/2025 05:55

Yes, think I have diabetes and it was brilliant last night when I had my first hypo. I use it most days now, so much better than google searches.

GarlicBreadStan · 08/12/2025 05:51

ChatGPT will tell you what you want to hear. It's harmful because I've known people to use it almost like a free therapy service, or a crisis service, and ChatGPT has agreed with them that they need to end their life! I despise AI.

TheMotherSide · 08/12/2025 02:02

I think it needs to be used sparingly and judiciously; it is known to use a great deal of energy, as well as water, at source to run and cool servers, contributing to a large carbon footprint and depleting local water sources.

I've used it to help refine my understanding of a complex legal situation overseas, but I wouldn't use it for things which, in reality, just a bit of extra time, wider sleuthing and imagination could sort out.

As for it only telling you what you want to hear; I'm not so sure. My friend typed in a 'relationship whinge' as if authored by her husband after he'd let her down badly -a bit like a Mumsnet 'reverse'- to see what it would come up with. It scolded the husband like a disappointed parent, apparently, and told the husband (really my friend) that 'he' needed to work hard to make it up to her and was lucky to have her in his life. I thought that was interesting.

OriginalUsername2 · 08/12/2025 01:32

Seriestwo · 08/12/2025 00:11

Bear in mind it says what you want to hear

I haven’t found this to be true. I used it extensively for a good few months asking it all my stupid questions, it told me straight when I was wrong in a kind way like “Yes, it can seem that way but..”

No judgements, insults or eyerolls, which is refreshing.

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