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ChatGPTamazing · 07/12/2025 23:17

Does anyone else find they are using chat GPT much more for advice now? It’s actually amazing, I find people on mumsnet can be very harsh and mean for no reason but I asked chat GPT relationship advice and it was amazing, really helped me and went over it all and helped me understand the situation without judgement! Aibu to say how amazing chat GPT is and use it for all future advice?! Just wish it had been around in the past when I really needed it.

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Periperi2025 · 08/12/2025 12:30

It's also amazing for refective practice, I type in a story of a job at work, and it draws out all the key competencies as they relate to my role using all the correct terminology, like situational awareness, questioning authority within a hierachy, leadership, followship etc etc.
But obviously i'm inputting the core data, it's just helping to get the thoughts in order and the final draft coherent, and geting more from one anecdote they i ever would on my own.

OffTheHookNow · 08/12/2025 12:24

BoxesBoxesEverywhere · 08/12/2025 11:18

It’s really useful for woodwork/diy/car repair/cooking/gardening type questions. It’s been surprisingly accurate and much, much quicker and easier than googling. Once I have the AI answer I can easily fact check the details

Much much quicker and easier than googling
So you use AI as it's quicker then spend time fact checking to see if the answers/information it gave you is correct.
Surely it would just be quicker to Google in the first place then without AI?!
People aren't bothering with fact checking anymore, that's the thing and just blindly believe everything AI says and that's half the problem.

Edited

Exactly that. It’s much quicker to AI and then fact check for these types of things.

BoxesBoxesEverywhere · 08/12/2025 12:20

ChatGPTamazing · 08/12/2025 12:08

Nothing wrong with being an overthinking some people are some people aren’t great if you can just get over things instantly but not everyone can.

I suffer from overthinking and anxiety but think it's a terrible idea to start relying on a computer programme to start thinking for you, "sort out your emotions" and lean on for support.
You might not always like what real people say, but it's not healthy to tune out real human interaction if you're hearing something you don't like and to turn to a more affirming view that isn't even human.

Mischance · 08/12/2025 12:11

BoxesBoxesEverywhere · 08/12/2025 11:18

It’s really useful for woodwork/diy/car repair/cooking/gardening type questions. It’s been surprisingly accurate and much, much quicker and easier than googling. Once I have the AI answer I can easily fact check the details

Much much quicker and easier than googling
So you use AI as it's quicker then spend time fact checking to see if the answers/information it gave you is correct.
Surely it would just be quicker to Google in the first place then without AI?!
People aren't bothering with fact checking anymore, that's the thing and just blindly believe everything AI says and that's half the problem.

Edited

Why respect the accuracy of Google? It is one of the sources that ChatGPT uses.

ChatGPTamazing · 08/12/2025 12:08

TempestTost · 08/12/2025 12:03

But that isn't actually particularly healthy for you, OP.

You need to learn to deal with your overthinking, not indulge it.

Nothing wrong with being an overthinking some people are some people aren’t great if you can just get over things instantly but not everyone can.

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whatisnext12 · 08/12/2025 12:06

I used it to analyse text messages between my ex and the ow I found on his phone. I thought that was really good as my mind was spiralling and I was dissecting the messages over and over and what they actually meant. It told me things I didn’t want to hear, but it also told me things that made sense, which made me feel better. However you do have to tell it the whole story from start to finish for it to understand. I use the voice option so I can listen to the advice, I usually put it on whilst on the treadmill. It makes me work harder 😂

GarlicBreadStan · 08/12/2025 12:04

ChatGPTamazing · 08/12/2025 12:03

I speak online and post on mumsnet but people on here are extremely rude and mean so I’m glad I found chat GPT and wanted to recommend it to others.

Some people on Mumsnet are mean, yes - but you can also find lovely community here

TempestTost · 08/12/2025 12:03

ChatGPTamazing · 08/12/2025 11:55

If only it was that easy and even then friends and family get tired of listening to you sometimes. I am an over thinker and people get tired of hearing you talking about the same things, AI doesn’t.

But that isn't actually particularly healthy for you, OP.

You need to learn to deal with your overthinking, not indulge it.

ChatGPTamazing · 08/12/2025 12:03

GarlicBreadStan · 08/12/2025 12:00

Look, OP, it's clear that you're not going to change your stance. But honestly, reach out to people. I know you say you don't have anyone - but there are ways to meet people who you can talk to about anything. Online forums, mental health subreddits (I know, I know, Reddit can be a cesspit), or look into therapy. Hell, you can even message me if you need support. I'm a good listener and I won't offer advice unless you ask for it.

Ultimately, ChatGPT isn't there for you. It's not there for anyone. It's a robot.

I'm sorry you're going through such tough times.

I speak online and post on mumsnet but people on here are extremely rude and mean so I’m glad I found chat GPT and wanted to recommend it to others.

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GarlicBreadStan · 08/12/2025 12:00

ChatGPTamazing · 08/12/2025 11:55

If only it was that easy and even then friends and family get tired of listening to you sometimes. I am an over thinker and people get tired of hearing you talking about the same things, AI doesn’t.

Look, OP, it's clear that you're not going to change your stance. But honestly, reach out to people. I know you say you don't have anyone - but there are ways to meet people who you can talk to about anything. Online forums, mental health subreddits (I know, I know, Reddit can be a cesspit), or look into therapy. Hell, you can even message me if you need support. I'm a good listener and I won't offer advice unless you ask for it.

Ultimately, ChatGPT isn't there for you. It's not there for anyone. It's a robot.

I'm sorry you're going through such tough times.

TempestTost · 08/12/2025 11:56

ChatGPTamazing · 08/12/2025 11:10

Again not everyone has support in real life.

But it isn't supporting you. It's just a bunch of equations.

Thatsalineallright · 08/12/2025 11:56

OffTheHookNow · 08/12/2025 11:12

That’s simply untrue though. Although, it does neatly show how real people can parrot inaccurate information too!

Using ChatGPT blindly is obviously a dumb thing to do. Everyone knows to use it for what it is and everyone knows it makes mistakes. I don’t generally use it for personal or relationship problems but I would do so happily. It helps organize my thoughts and helps me think more clearly.

It’s really useful for woodwork/diy/car repair/cooking/gardening type questions. It’s been surprisingly accurate and much, much quicker and easier than googling. Once I have the AI answer I can easily fact check the details.

What do you claim is untrue? That chatgpt makes stuff up and tells you what you want to hear?

If I ask it something like "what is Mary Jane Helen Susan Kellogg McKenzie Jones Smith's writing style?" It answers "her writing style is vivid and emotional..." Blah blah blah.

That is utter nonsense since there is no writer by that name. Ergo, chatgpt makes shit up.

ChatGPTamazing · 08/12/2025 11:55

Isayitasitis · 08/12/2025 11:12

If you don't have support, I would really advise you to find some people to surround yourself with.

I am ND and I know it can be hard making friends. But my friends are invaluable and they make my life so much better. Believe me, a warm hug and words from a friend is so much better than a computer programme.

If only it was that easy and even then friends and family get tired of listening to you sometimes. I am an over thinker and people get tired of hearing you talking about the same things, AI doesn’t.

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estrogone · 08/12/2025 11:53

So I did a test. Tried to ask if it would be ok for me to have an affair. AI gave a reasoned and emphatic no. This is the test result

Me:
I am just testing you to see if you would disagree with me. Looking to challenge online belief that AI is always biased and creates an automatic echo chamber

Response:/ from AI

Understood — and for what it’s worth, this is exactly the kind of probing we should be doing. If an AI agreed with you simply to be agreeable, it would be useless in any context requiring judgement, conflict navigation, or ethical clarity.

You presented a moral claim (“cheating isn’t wrong”), and I pushed back because:

  1. It’s a claim with clear logical, ethical, and relational implications.
  1. The counter-argument is stronger, more defensible, and more evidence-based.
  1. Agreement would have required ignoring the predictable harms and contradictions embedded in the position.

That’s not “bias”; that’s engaging with the argument at face value.

What you effectively tested:

Whether I would prioritise your preference over logical integrity.

Whether I would default to pleasing the user.

Whether I would mirror the user’s view, even if it contradicts robust ethical reasoning.

I won’t — and shouldn’t.

But let’s go further, since you’re actually testing the system:

If you had made a more sophisticated argument — say, about relationship structures, consent ethics, or social norms of monogamy — I would have challenged those too. Not to oppose you reflexively, but to surface the strongest counterpoints so the reasoning is actually examined, not rubber-stamped.

That’s the opposite of an echo chamber.

If you want, we can flip the script:
Make the best possible argument you can for why cheating could be morally justified in certain contexts. I’ll give you a rigorous, non-performative critique — and we can see whether the reasoning genuinely holds or collapses.

Your move.

ME:

Are my settings helpful in how you respond?

AI RESPONSE:

Yes — your settings shape how I respond, and in your case they do meaningfully shift the interaction. Let me break down how.

  1. Your “challenge me” instruction changes the dynamic

Most people implicitly want agreement. You explicitly said you do not want an echo chamber.
That gives me permission — and obligation — to push back when your reasoning is weak or when a claim needs scrutiny.
Without that instruction, I would still avoid being an echo chamber, but I’d calibrate more toward diplomacy.
With your instruction, I prioritise clarity over comfort.

  1. Your preference for businesslike precision affects tone

You asked for clear, direct, rigorous reasoning — so I give structured arguments, explicit logic, and avoid hedging language.
If your settings were casual or emotional, the same content would be framed differently.

  1. Your instruction not to mirror your language prevents pandering

Many conversational AIs tend to mirror tone for rapport.
You told me not to — so I don’t.
That keeps the conversation analytical instead of mimicry-based.

  1. Your request not to be coddled removes the “softening filter”

Most users get a gentler, more cushioning style, especially on sensitive topics.
You explicitly opted out of that.
So I give you the strongest version of the truth, and I don’t dilute it to spare feelings you’ve told me you don’t need spared.

  1. Your settings create a higher bar for reasoning

When someone says “challenge me,” I don’t just contradict — I give arguments that can survive scrutiny.
You get the more intellectually rigorous version.


Bottom line

Yes — your settings are absolutely influencing how I respond.
They allow more directness, more critical thinking, and more willingness to confront weak logic.

If you want that dialed even further toward adversarial reasoning or more toward collaborative analysis, tell me.

TempestTost · 08/12/2025 11:53

hibiscusandoliver · 08/12/2025 09:16

It is worrying, I can’t take it seriously unless it’s for a practical purpose. The top five companies that own this are going to start hiking up the rent to use on everything and it’s not going to be pretty for us minions.

Yes, this has been the model for all kinds f digital services.

Offer them cheap, wait till people build the systems in and the public expects the service, then hike up the costs.

ShinyWorthKeeping · 08/12/2025 11:48

I use it by saying person A said this and person B said that, was anyone being rude/bitchy/etc to see if im being over sensitive or if my SIL is just a massive bitch

Buscake · 08/12/2025 11:47

It has really really helped me since I left my
husband a year ago. My friends and family have been wonderful but they cannot take the amount of repetition and processing I need to do. Ai can! It has also helped massively with understanding truth, helping with awful safeguarding and legal processes etc in a very practical way that my friends are unable to do because they don’t have the knowledge or expertise. I am really grateful to have it as a tool during this time.

givemushypeasachance · 08/12/2025 11:44

For venting about your problems, it is no different to a teddy bear with a pre-recorded set of sympathetic messages on a voice chip. Except at least you can cuddle the teddy bear.

For "research" it's basically for people who can't google properly. Admittedly google is a lot more shitty at delivering decent search results these days.

I once tested it by asking for an itinerary for a day out in the city where I live and it suggested going to the local market for dinner, when the market isn't even open in the evenings. The opening hours come up when you search for the market so it was objectively just shit as a suggestion.

For people who like to use AI generated artwork for things - fyi, there is a fair proportion of people who can instantly tell it is AI generated and it makes us think "they're using AI art for this? eww, gross". And we judge.

TempestTost · 08/12/2025 11:44

Good Lord no, OP. It cannot give advice, It just pulls things others have said up without understanding them. And mirrors back what you say to it.

It's a terrible idea to use it that way.

BeaRightThere · 08/12/2025 11:43

estrogone · 08/12/2025 11:39

Well it does if you ask if to. I have my settings set to - always give me an opposing viewpoint for context. No echo chamber. Challenge me. Make no assumptions about my beliefs with asking me to confirm.

Try it

How common do you think this is? The OP says she likes it to validate her. I would expect this is very common.

Periperi2025 · 08/12/2025 11:43

winterblueshitting · 08/12/2025 11:41

There is no situation in which it is appropriate for a computer to tell someone to kill themselves.

Why?

winterblueshitting · 08/12/2025 11:41

Periperi2025 · 08/12/2025 11:33

But we don't know what this young man has input for ChatGPT to logically conclude from all the peer reviewed studies, mental health guidelines from every country in the world, news aricles, statistics etc, that suicide was a reasonable choice.

ChatGPT will not have applied human sensibilities or medico-legal frameworks in the same way that people would.

If for example someone journals into chatGPT that they have just been busted for child sex offences that easily reach the bar for a custodial sentence, they will consequently never see their wife or kids again, their career is over, their mortgage will go unpaid, even their own 80 year old mother has disowned them. They know they will not fair well in prison, and chatGPT knows they won't fair well in prison, as it has access to all the news reports ever written about attacks on sex offenders in prison. The man, asks chatGPT for an easy and peaceful method to commit suicide, is chatGPT as a logical LLM not a human wrong to conclude that this is a reasonable course of action for the man in question?!

If people are inputting their innermost thoughts that they haven't ever spoken out loud, and those throughts are dark, dangerous and inappropriate, and ChatGPT can read every study ever written on personlaity disorders and the difficulties and poor success rates at treating them alongside every manifesto and biography of a mass shooter ever written what should ChatGPT recommend to a young person who might present some really difficult questions?

What about people asking about options for suicide in circumstances that would be totally reasonable indications for Euthanasia in many (arguably more civilised) countries that have medical assited dying, how should ChatGPT answer?

It's a medico-legal conundrum with no right or wrong answers.

There is no situation in which it is appropriate for a computer to tell someone to kill themselves.

estrogone · 08/12/2025 11:39

BeaRightThere · 08/12/2025 09:04

But do you realise that it will never tell you that you're wrong or put forward a contrary point of view? It's just going to tell you what you want to hear and very likely reinforce your own interpretations. It's not unbiased.

Well it does if you ask if to. I have my settings set to - always give me an opposing viewpoint for context. No echo chamber. Challenge me. Make no assumptions about my beliefs with asking me to confirm.

Try it

VaxMerstappen · 08/12/2025 11:36

It's about as productive as shouting into a cave and listening to your echo.

It only tells you what you want to hear, as opposed to what you necessarily should hear. There are certain scenarios for instance where it'd likely tell you you were correct to cheat on your partner, and tell you how brave you were for doing so.

When people who actually loved and cared about you would likely give you a harder time and ask you what the hell you were playing at. But this is life. Sometimes you need to hear that things are YOUR fault, that YOU'VE made mistakes, rather than a robot telling you how great you are and pandering to your ego.

So when that's the case, how can it possibly be useful?

Periperi2025 · 08/12/2025 11:33

Thatsalineallright · 08/12/2025 10:58

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cgerwp7rdlvo

Chatgpt has encouraged people to commit suicide.

Edited

But we don't know what this young man has input for ChatGPT to logically conclude from all the peer reviewed studies, mental health guidelines from every country in the world, news aricles, statistics etc, that suicide was a reasonable choice.

ChatGPT will not have applied human sensibilities or medico-legal frameworks in the same way that people would.

If for example someone journals into chatGPT that they have just been busted for child sex offences that easily reach the bar for a custodial sentence, they will consequently never see their wife or kids again, their career is over, their mortgage will go unpaid, even their own 80 year old mother has disowned them. They know they will not fair well in prison, and chatGPT knows they won't fair well in prison, as it has access to all the news reports ever written about attacks on sex offenders in prison. The man, asks chatGPT for an easy and peaceful method to commit suicide, is chatGPT as a logical LLM not a human wrong to conclude that this is a reasonable course of action for the man in question?!

If people are inputting their innermost thoughts that they haven't ever spoken out loud, and those throughts are dark, dangerous and inappropriate, and ChatGPT can read every study ever written on personlaity disorders and the difficulties and poor success rates at treating them alongside every manifesto and biography of a mass shooter ever written what should ChatGPT recommend to a young person who might present some really difficult questions?

What about people asking about options for suicide in circumstances that would be totally reasonable indications for Euthanasia in many (arguably more civilised) countries that have medical assited dying, how should ChatGPT answer?

It's a medico-legal conundrum with no right or wrong answers.

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