Does anyone have weekends like this anymore?

Pretty much all my weekends are like this and have been for years.

I don’t go out much at the weekends, me and the teenage dds don’t go to concerts, gigs, nights out, weekends away anymore.

DD 3 15 is so anxiety driven (asd/adhd) that the only place she will go is school, and sometimes into town with a safe friend, we literally cannot go anywhere else, its a fight to get her to go anywhere Dd 2 is more sociable and will go on nights out with friends.

i can’t leave dd3 overnight or by herself for more than a few hours so I tend to stay in at the weekends too. It’s nice in a way, I cook, read, knit or crochet and watch films or crap telly and I totally relax.

I do feel like I’m missing out when I see fb posts though of friends with amazing dhs and amazing social lives though and then it makes me sad

I guess people have fomo and feel they 'should' be doing all that? Or maybe they just don't post about the chilled weekends? Your weekend sounds wonderful, I always feel I'm giving my kids (and myself) the best life when we have days like those.

My DC are grown up now but when they were younger we liked to get out and about each weekend. Normally one big day out and then a more local half day out such as go to a park or the cinema and we’d eat out a couple of times too.
We had Merlin passes, NT membership and were members of various castles and other places.

I think this is a stealth boast tbh. My kids don't have the attention span for family films and fight all day if we spend all weekend at home, so we leave the house to save our sanity. If we had well behaved children who didn't destroy the house and our sanity we would stay in more and do quaint things like baking and movies more for sure. But I work 6 days a week and have to catch up on housework/laundry/shopping on weekends too so not much relaxing goes on when we are at home.

Unless people are posting what they do every single weekend I think you'll find that they just put the exciting stuff on Instagram. We had a weekend like that last weekend where we were quite low key. This weekend we were super busy and more high octane!
Sometimes it just goes like that.

I am trying not to overload DC at this time of year BUT sometimes I'd just rather be doing something interesting than going to the park again in the pissing rain! I'm not saying you have to spend loads of money (we couldn't justify lapland uk) but I'm also keen to see friends and go places!

Sounds like my normal weekends to be honest (minus the husband as I’m mid divorce). This weekend we did have a more social one as there happened to be 3 Christmas events on we wanted to do. Two were in the village and for charity, the other was our local excellent santa experience (and it’s cheap). Next weekend we have a local (inexpensive) panto. But last weekend was like yours. That’s definitely our normal.

Normally we do lots of crafts, play, films and baking. DD is 6.

Well let me put it this way. Did you put your cosy night in on instagram? Did you fee the need to take and post pictures of the fire and jammies and sofa cuddles

Probably not, right? I’d say it’s a orettt normal night for most and subsequently don’t go on the grid. Of course people are going to post their holidays and city breaks and general adventures more. If your only idea of what people are getting up to is checking their instagram I would say you’re going to wildly out of touch with an average Friday night.

Your kind of weekends are what matter and what's important. I am still amazed you could fit so much in!

It sounds a nice weekend. If you fancy a change add in some cheap outings eg church Christmas fayre, look at decorations in garden centre or walk around estate to see people’s decorations not the woods for a change.
If you feel you are missing adult company mix it up a bit and have a trip out with your friends, doesn’t have to be expensive and let dh and dd have some time together.

This is what most of my weekends are like with my husband and our boys who are 6 and 3

Do you think it's possible other people only post selected bits of their lives?

Sounds perfect to me. I do try and do Christmas themed activities especially with my youngest but it’s usually free or cheap events in our local area - library, light switch on, church events, our free kids Christmas disco. We also have a lot of time at home or doing the usual weekend activities like football and chores.

I see loads of people in a different city or at a different Christmas market/santa grotto/big event every weekend and it is easy to feel downbeat and compare. But honestly I don’t think happy memories need to be expensive far flung days out. Time together at home is lovely too. Social media is a bastard for comparison and dejection. Maybe I’ll give it up in 2026.

I think most people have quiet weekends for the most part, but then when they do something exciting it goes on SM.

So what you see is the one weekend in many for each person, but because you have more than one or two friends, you see someone different or some different people doing an exciting thing every week.

Me and both of my children are ND so we love nice chilled weekends, we only tend to go out and do things when it's the school holidays and we have a few days afterwards to chill out

Don’t forget that a lot of people will be accessing these activities with discount vouchers so maybe check out what you could get in your area? I think Tesco clubcard is good for this kind of thing?

Instagram isn't real life.

Of course some people will be out and about more than you (although they might not all actually enjoy the fact they are busier) and some people will have more money for trips, but your weekend sounds perfectly normal and very nice.

Comparison is the thief of joy, so if it's worrying you come off insta

Me (and my DD/the GC Auntie etc) are very conscious that we are coming to the last years of my GC wanting to do soft play/bounce themed stuff etc, so we do tend to make the most of weekends. We also have December birthdays so the whole month is full on. Do what suits your family. Not everyone has a dog, so walks can feel a bit flat.

Picked up some prescriptions for me and ddog. Visited friend in morning had a coffee, helped her daughter make some dough for mince pies and chatted, short walk with dog and friend, drove home had a sleep and cleaned kitchen and nipped to shop. Friend came round at teatime with a m&s Chinese, we ate that chatted- I was in bed by 9.
Today. Tidied, washing etc. Brief walk with dog in rain again 😬 Had a nap. Spoke to my mum. Put up a couple of Christmas decorations. Played ball with dog.
Had dinner and watched a couple of episodes of a series whilst needle felting a mushroom 😅
I have a chronic illness and am in a lot of pain hence all the naps and early nights but it was a nice weekend for me!

We are always hectic busy but with 4 kids so more clubs, play dates etc. Went to London yesterday. We never get any housework done at the weekends now. There has to be a happy mid point but I can't find it. This time of year and summer I cram.in so much. To balance that out I won't be doing anything much at the weekends from.Jan- March. My eldest is 22 so doing Christmas things with dd11 before that all stops. We are lucky we aren't rich but this is how I spend rather than takeaways booze fag's etc which are 0all fine of course. It's just my choice.i love Christmas and want to do everything. Looking forward to a boring January tbh now.

Your weekend sound perfect btw

That sounds like the type of day we might have in the Christmas holidays, but on a normal weekend it's not as chill as that. We're not doing fancy days out etc, but we do have football matches, swimming lesson for DD and there are chores like cleaning and homework.