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Should I report my ex for driving with 9 points?

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SoldieringOnagain · 07/12/2025 21:36

My ex is an HGV driver. He treated me with contempt and has recently me someone new.
I know I’m being really spiteful but I’m hurt, so badly, I want to report him to make him hurt too.
He is somehow getting away with driving with 9 points on his license as he is self employed but works via an agency. Why am I feeling so angry and am I justified in wanting to hurt him?

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RightOnTheEdge · 07/12/2025 22:01

It's not illegal but a lot of places won't hire someone with more than 6 points because it's a condition of their insurance.

I imagine it's tempting OP but you should just be glad hes an ex and move on with your life.
If he's got that many points he's likely to get himself banned eventually anyway. Let him ruin his own life.

FOJN · 07/12/2025 22:00

Would being spiteful actually make you feel better? How would you know how hurt he feels?

Don't do it, you might feel satisfied for a brief period but the hurt will return and future you will regret it. Save yourself the trouble and resist the temptation to punish him.

WrigglyDonCat · 07/12/2025 21:59

ItsOnlyHobnobs · 07/12/2025 21:44

Is he a newly qualified HGV driver? less than two years qualified?

Because if he is not, it remains 12 points, and even with that is not an automatic disqualification.

I don’t think you should report him in retaliation, only if you have very genuine concerns for safety, and even then I think it may be best to walk away entirely from this man.

If you are referring to less than two years because of the New Drivers Act, then that actually only applies from the date you get your first full licence. So if you have a car licence for 2 years and then get a cat C, it doesn't apply. And I think you have to have a cat B and be at least 18 to do a cat C, so it's extremely unlikely the 2 year rule would apply to most drivers.

Christmas2025 · 07/12/2025 21:58

CandiedPrincess · 07/12/2025 21:56

I'm not sure that it's correct that they're not covered by insurance. I'd double check that.

I'm thinking he's recently been given the points perhaps and not yet informed the insurance or has no intention of informing them?

Newyearawaits · 07/12/2025 21:57

Don't report him

CandiedPrincess · 07/12/2025 21:57

But also doing it out of spite because he's with someone new is really very petty. Will it make you feel better? I doubt it very much. Just move on.

CandiedPrincess · 07/12/2025 21:56

I'm not sure that it's correct that they're not covered by insurance. I'd double check that.

OneKhakiFish · 07/12/2025 21:55

My friend ended up with 12 points at court, they let him continue to drive because he would have lost his job if he lost his driving license

metalbottle · 07/12/2025 21:53

SoldieringOnagain · 07/12/2025 21:39

Yes they are not covered by insurance

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Then yes of course report.

Arlanymor · 07/12/2025 21:45

You can drive an HGV with 12 points.

ItsOnlyHobnobs · 07/12/2025 21:44

Is he a newly qualified HGV driver? less than two years qualified?

Because if he is not, it remains 12 points, and even with that is not an automatic disqualification.

I don’t think you should report him in retaliation, only if you have very genuine concerns for safety, and even then I think it may be best to walk away entirely from this man.

CalmShaker · 07/12/2025 21:41

Move on op, forget him

Umy15r03lcha1 · 07/12/2025 21:41

Well if he's breaking the law you can report him. He sounds careless and dangerous.