We dropped back contact in recent years and i feel they are disrespectful to DH when we see them.
They have always spoken down to DH and I
They seem to be very narrow minded and are social climbers, they don't rate us because we don't have baking jobs or work in the city where as sil does.
We won't spend Xmas day with them but they have invited us over. However it's when they have no other visitors like family friends which on the surface sounds fine, normal . I think they do this so we don't embarrass them .
I think this because one year we got the wrong day and turned up when they had some old family friends there ,DH knew them actually and seemed pleased to see them there was a large buffet and shed obviously made a big effort. Sil and her partner was there .
DH would have been happy to stay and me also but mil was alarmed and fil almost strong armed us out.
The next day we went back on the day we should have done and it was just us and she did a basic plain meal ,no fripperies and almost ignored us whilst chatting to DC.
I am happy to be ignored but DH is treated like a nanny almost or an irritating appendage to the GC. The DC didn't like any of the food and didn't eat much where as they would have had stuff from the days before buffet.
This year invited again and Dh said whose coming and said he would like to see Rita and Mick and they said they can't accommodate us like last year we can only go on one particular day .I think dh is hurt but he still seems to want to go. I think it's insulting ? I don't want to go .
Or should we just suck it up.