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Really terrified about this flu going around

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Caramelbarrel · 07/12/2025 21:15

I’m in a total panic about the flu. It’s everywhere I look online, people are posting about it left, right and centre. Including locally.

I’m always hugely anxious when my DS gets ill anyway and so if he gets it I know I’ll be a wreck. I have bad health anxiety too.

I don’t know anyone personally who has it, but I know it’s just a matter of time.

I’m so worried I’ll get it before Christmas and it’ll all be ruined for our DS. We’re supposed to be going down and staying with family.

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CanYouHereMeRoar · 08/12/2025 04:24

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I had the COVID vaccine, and nearly six years down the line I have never had COVID. I think it worked 😬

Wordsmithery · 08/12/2025 03:59

See this from the Independent about ways to reduce the risk.
And talk to your GP about your health anxiety (and cut down your online reading).

Really terrified about this flu going around
Aliascat · 08/12/2025 03:36

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You don't sound very bright. It's a shame the NHS don't have higher standards.

notatinydancer · 08/12/2025 03:36

Caramelbarrel · 07/12/2025 21:21

My DS has but I haven’t as I’m not immune compromised or anything. I’ve not been offered it.

But I’ve heard the flu spray/jab isn’t making any difference to the current strain this year.

You can have it at a pharmacy.
I’ve had it twice in 57 years. I work in a hospital.

StruggleFlourish · 08/12/2025 03:36

"covid rules"...
Avoid touching your face, avoid putting your hands in your mouth, wash your hands more frequently than you're used to and do it properly, if you're out in public and you feel you want that extra protection, put on a decent face mask or, keep your distance, or, avoid going out in public for unnecessary reasons especially places that are busier than typical.
Get a flu jab, whether or not it's free it doesn't matter, you get it, your arm may hurt for a couple days or it may not, and then you've got some protection. Will it be 100% protection probably not. Nothing's 100%. 50%? 70%? 20%? Hey, I figure protection is better than zero, that's why I got the covid shot and the flu shot 3 weeks ago.
At the same time, which is fine, actually it's recommended because it make sure that you get them both done at the same time, and I'll be honest with you my flu arm didn't hurt very much but my covid arm did.
And I feel awful for about 48 hours, (in the covid arm, overall tiredness, achiness, headache, chill, sore skin, sore joints.... But I didn't really care because I knew it's just my immune system reaction, I wasn't really sick...)
I've had the flu once. The real flu, the influenza flu not the pukey thing that people call the flu.
It was about 7 years ago, I'd never had it before, I didn't recognize it for what it was when I first got the symptoms, but I realized pretty quickly that this was not a cold and nothing I had before.
It really sucked. I would say about 4 days of really feeling crummy and then about 3 days of not so crummy but not myself.
Mostly just extremely tired, headache, achy, really achy, and back and forth between fever and chills. Not the worst thing in the world.
Didn't enjoy it, and I've gotten a flu shot ever since.
I don't know why you're panicking; there was no need to panic during the start of covid and that was worse.
Yes it is possible that if you're immunocompromised, very young, very old, or have some other extremely serious medical condition that the influenza can land you in the hospital, and I'm not minimizing the fact that influenza can be deadly, but for the average person of which you say you're not immune compromised, you'll probably be just fine. So why panic? All that stress will do is raise your cortisol which will then lower your immune system and then you'll get sick easier.

tuvamoodyson · 08/12/2025 03:27

PeriMumEndofHerTether · 07/12/2025 21:56

My sister and brother in law both got flu, which turned into Pneumonia and hospitalised them both. They were both seriously ill. My sister was close to getting sepsis at one point and her partner is still in hospital weeks later as he had a cardiac arrest too.

It isn't the flu so much, but any other underlying conditions which means the body struggles to fight it. I genuinely thought I might lose my sister.

That’s very reassuring for OP…..🙄

XWKD · 08/12/2025 03:16

Allmarbleslost · 07/12/2025 21:24

What do you think will happen if you do get the flu? You'll feel like shit for a week or two and then you'll get better. Why the panic?

Flu can be symptomless or completely debilitating, and often requires hospitalisation. Pneumonia is a common complication.

LostittoBostik · 08/12/2025 02:58

fishtank12345 · 07/12/2025 23:09

because it is based on last years strain...

No it’s not, it’s based on the southern hemisphere winter flu strain pattern, eg three to six months previous data

LostittoBostik · 08/12/2025 02:54

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Why wouldn’t you seek to reduce that risk…? I just don’t understand comments like this. Sure it is a risk we all take, that’s life, and jabs aren’t a guarantee either (I had it despite getting a jab when I had a 4 month old baby which truly sucked). But when there’s a way to reduce the risk of both contracting it and severe disease if you do, why would you just…. Not?

LostittoBostik · 08/12/2025 02:51

Get the jab. I pay for it every year.

Elbowpatch · 08/12/2025 02:47

I know a jag isn’t a cure but it’s what Boris Johnson etc made you all believe.Rant over

No he didn’t.

LizzyMac40 · 08/12/2025 02:27

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roundsquares · 08/12/2025 02:15

We had it this year. It wiped me out for close to 5 days, beginning to come out of it now though.

Tbh, the flu vaccine made little difference- DD is vaccinated and she was really unwell for a solid week.

It’s the worst I’ve felt since I caught Covid for the first time, tbh.

chickenfucker · 08/12/2025 02:08

Caramelbarrel · 07/12/2025 22:27

I will pay for it at the local boots, I didn’t realise you could (sorry if I sound stupid) I thought they were reserved for the immune compromised and elderly etc. didn’t realise you could just go and pay for it.

However my DH won’t have it done, says it’s pointless and he doesn’t want to, says I’m making a fuss about nothing. He works in a school so very likely to pick it up and pass it on here.

You may not be able to get an appointment OP, I struggle every year. Currently no appts available at my local boots up to 19 Jan.

Fupoffyagrasshole · 08/12/2025 01:59

Just get the jab if you can
we are so sick but I guess we don’t actually know if it’s flu or not!

i didn’t get the jab and am currently sitting up with my 1 year old after the worst weekend of my life so sick since Thursday! Me and husband have what it is and we’ve been coughing, shivering, sweating, sore throats, exhaustion, aches

i balled my eyes out this morning it was all too much with our little kids and trying to rest

now the baby has a super high temp and will only nap on me so I can’t even sleep myself - my husband is sleeping now so we can swap in a few hours!

4 year old is well - but she had the flu spray in school.

HeartandSeoul · 08/12/2025 01:49

My local Superdrug offer walk in clinics only, so yours may too, OP. The jab is £9.99 with a Superdrug membership card.

If it helps, I also have health anxiety. I have also been hearing about people admitted to hospital with it. I need to stop looking at social media!

5foot5 · 08/12/2025 00:56

I got the flu jab from my local pharmacy about a fortnight ago. I was just a walk in and had it done within a few minutes, it cost just under £20.

I am in my 60s. I think I had flu once, when the swine flu was about, maybe 10 to 15 years ago. Unpleasant certainly but I am not in a vulnerable group so just one of those things. However, it's one of those things I would prefer to avoid, hence the vaccine when possible.

SnowFrogJelly · 08/12/2025 00:56

Have the jab…

ToKittyornottoKitty · 08/12/2025 00:45

Rhayader · 07/12/2025 23:42

You might struggle to get the vaccine now. You will need to shop around and keep checking for cancellations; our local boots is totally booked out. DH and I got them in October.

Readily available near me so OP may get lucky

Ranoutofideasfortheelves · 07/12/2025 23:52

CheshireCat1 · 07/12/2025 21:25

I’m coming to the end of it, have been ill for nearly two weeks. I had the flu jab in October because I’m immunosuppressed.
Its really knocked me for six but I’m slowly recovering. I know quite a few people that have it, some not as bad as others.

What were your symptoms please?

Rhayader · 07/12/2025 23:42

You might struggle to get the vaccine now. You will need to shop around and keep checking for cancellations; our local boots is totally booked out. DH and I got them in October.

PandoraAvatar · 07/12/2025 23:36

I have just recovered from the flu, it was awful. My DH and DS didn't get it, they'd both been immunised. I recommend getting the flu jab at a pharmacy.

PotatoFan · 07/12/2025 23:35

MrsBroccolini · 07/12/2025 23:27

Same. Had a week of fever and chills, dizziness and night sweats, and now a week of the worst cough of my life. Illest I’ve been and I had the jab, but no one has caught it from me - husband, child (both vax’d), colleagues (mix of vax and not). Thought that was interesting.

Oh I forgot about the cough. I had that for two weeks more after the two weeks off work sick

Hiptothisjive · 07/12/2025 23:34

Caramelbarrel · 07/12/2025 22:27

I will pay for it at the local boots, I didn’t realise you could (sorry if I sound stupid) I thought they were reserved for the immune compromised and elderly etc. didn’t realise you could just go and pay for it.

However my DH won’t have it done, says it’s pointless and he doesn’t want to, says I’m making a fuss about nothing. He works in a school so very likely to pick it up and pass it on here.

Not necessarily OP. Being panicked and terrified about getting the flu is a bit extreme.

I think you need to address your health anxiety as well.

ilovesooty · 07/12/2025 23:28

bozzabollix · 07/12/2025 21:34

There’s an easy fix to this, buy the flu jab.

I know a few people who’ve had it including me. It had me properly done in for about a week, but it’s taking a long time to feel properly well again. I’m self employed and don’t want to lose more money so am ploughing through but it’s not pleasant. Absolutely fatigued and low.

You’re ok though, you can get that flu jab sorted. My husband had the jab and has been the only well person here so it does work.

I've been paying for the flu jab for years before I was eligible for a free one. I live alone and have had flu once and was horribly ill so decided after that to protect myself as much as I could.

I'm now self employed. I wasn't eligible for the free covid jab this year so I paid for it. Time is money and I try to avoid time off work.