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For not driving through red light with ambulance behind me

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User34445566677 · 07/12/2025 21:13

Stuck at red lights in 3 lanes of traffic. I was in right hand lane to turn right, at the front of white line and railings to my right so couldn't pull to the side. Middle lane for straight on. Left hand lane (towards hospital) is always allowed to filter through first via green light to the left, then after a while, the forward and right turn green lights come on. Ambulance comes up my lane whilst red traffic lights on. Blue lights and sirens on, all while the ambulance is indicating left (I am the only car in this lane, other lanes have several cars in). Ambulance leaves sirens on, and even beeps while lights are on red ( though i am not 100% sure this was the ambulance, but don't know who else it would have been?). From what I have read, you should not cross during a red light even for an emergency vehicle, I would have been entering a box junction? Was I BU to not cross the red light? And I think the Ambulance would have been quicker going in the left lane which filtered through first? Very confused. TIA

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Badbadbunny · 09/12/2025 10:36

outdooryone · 08/12/2025 14:12

How the hell do you 'allow' another driver to collide? They are the only person responsible for their vehicle. They have brakes, steering and accelerator all available to them, as well as the anticipation and skill of driving? Totally and utterly the other drivers fault, not your exH's friends fault.

OP - you are right. You do not break traffic law or Highway Code in such a situation to let an emergency vehicle through. There are many times you can sneakily let them through, but red light on busy junction is just not one of them.

It's not always about the exact legal rights and wrongs of a situation. Sometimes, an entirely "innocent" driver tootling along doing nothing wrong can help to reduce the risk of an accident by taking simple actions that don't detriment them. Of course, no "legal" requirement for them to do that, but it's called being a decent human being, regardless of the legal rights and wrongs.

When I used to give advanced motorist training, I always told the drivers to always try to reduce risks, not just to themselves, but to others too, wherever possible and not to be too obsessed with the legal rights and wrongs of driving. That meant allowing more space at junctions/slip roads, moving over to lane 2 approaching slip roads, etc., if safe and possible to do so without inconveniencing others.

Why wouldn't any normal/decent human being do simple things to reduce risks to others. I just don't get all this "I was in the right" crap at all.

Acommonreader · 09/12/2025 10:36

Notmyreality · 07/12/2025 21:26

But but.. the law!
MNetters are increased with the letter of the law especially when it comes to driving and incapable or rather terrified of making a personal judgement call.

Wow, so patronising !
I have no moral problem with the law breaking aspect in this circumstance. Nor am I terrified of making a judgement call.
The problem is that I simply cannot afford the fine. HTH.

calkel · 09/12/2025 10:09

Doris86 · 09/12/2025 07:41

Would you get a fine for doing it if a camera caught you? Also yes.

And I would pay it, yes.

VickyEadieofThigh · 09/12/2025 09:58

The Highway Code does not contain a section saying 'If stationary at traffic lights, you may go forward on a red light to allow an emergency vehicle', because that's dangerous.

Those saying that the OP could have crept forward weren't there - it might not even have been safe to do so.

TurtleHeadling · 09/12/2025 09:54

User34445566677 · 07/12/2025 21:13

Stuck at red lights in 3 lanes of traffic. I was in right hand lane to turn right, at the front of white line and railings to my right so couldn't pull to the side. Middle lane for straight on. Left hand lane (towards hospital) is always allowed to filter through first via green light to the left, then after a while, the forward and right turn green lights come on. Ambulance comes up my lane whilst red traffic lights on. Blue lights and sirens on, all while the ambulance is indicating left (I am the only car in this lane, other lanes have several cars in). Ambulance leaves sirens on, and even beeps while lights are on red ( though i am not 100% sure this was the ambulance, but don't know who else it would have been?). From what I have read, you should not cross during a red light even for an emergency vehicle, I would have been entering a box junction? Was I BU to not cross the red light? And I think the Ambulance would have been quicker going in the left lane which filtered through first? Very confused. TIA

When I went on a red light course (naughty me) they specifically told us that going through a red light for an emergency vehicle is against the law!

Whytry · 09/12/2025 09:45

Not the point of this thread I know, but this isn't the same situation at all. He pulled over to let the ambulance past, and by the time he set off again, the green light had gone red but he continued. He wasn't stationary and edging forward to let an ambulance past.

OP, the law is in your side, and ambulance crews shouldn't intimidate, although as others have mentioned it may have been the little beep the horn does when changing sirens?

I do maintain that while the law says you can't, and I know ambulance services will say " don't run a red light for us", I would interpret that as not across the whole junction. I am yet to see a single junction where the lights aren't set back far enough that edging forward half a cars length or so to allow access for an emergency vehicle would in any way compromise the safety of a junction or any other road users. Admittedly, we have very few red light cameras round here and I might be more careful if we did, but I would hope that if appealed it would be considered appropriate, but that might be because I work in a job where we have autonomy to go against procedures in emergencies if we can justify and demonstrate why we took those actions and that they were considered and risk assessed rather than a blind panic, so it's food for thought for me, for sure!

Also, why are so many people citing tickets for moving into bus lanes to let an ambulance past... Surely if the bus lane is empty it's far easier and safer to let the ambulance use it!

Doris86 · 09/12/2025 07:41

calkel · 07/12/2025 21:21

I can think of plenty of examples where passing a red light to let an emergency vehicle through would be perfectly safe as visibility is all around so to crawl forward a few feet would cause zero issue. Yes it’s illegal, would I do it? Also yes.

Would you get a fine for doing it if a camera caught you? Also yes.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 09/12/2025 07:09

AmateurDad · 08/12/2025 22:47

This is the problem when people start to talk with absolute authority about things they assume to be the case without actually checking.

The law absolutely DOES allow you to break a light if not doing so would hold up an ambulance answering an emergency call - just as one would hope and indeed expect to be the case.

In any event, I find it genuinely alarming to learn that Munsnetters choose to sit stubbornly at red lights blocking ambulances on their way to cardiac arrests rather than exercising a little bit of common sense and seeking even to edge forward and out of the way. I suppose a clean licence is more important than a life.

This is so funny, I’m assuming it has to be a pisstake.

A man stomping onto the thread to castigate people for talking with absolute authority about things they assume to be the case without actually checking…

and then talking with absolute authority about something he assumes to be the case without actually checking…

and being wrong.

As the t shirt says: God grant me the confidence of a mediocre man.

calkel · 09/12/2025 05:58

sittingonabeach · 08/12/2025 21:31

@calkel but the emergency services tell you not to do it

This isn’t new information to me. I’m still happy with my choice.

Mothership4two · 08/12/2025 23:33

@AmateurDad The official advice given and the fact it's illegal are for a reason - to stop what you seem to think is OK. Your criticism and advice is wrong. Maybe do some actual checking?

Cheezit · 08/12/2025 23:33

FairKoala · 08/12/2025 07:43

Having had a fine for entering a box junction, one of the things mentioned under mitigating circumstances was if an emergency vehicle was wanting to get past.

Yes you will be fined automatically but a simple explanation will cancel the fine

As for sticking to the letter of the law, maybe local councils should look at the law before erecting non compliant signage. (Been to court and won against these so called experts)

Also if you are turning right, stopping in a box junction is legal

Yes you will be fined automatically but a simple explanation will cancel the fine

Unfortunately, not in my experience.

Mothership4two · 08/12/2025 23:30

MyrtleLion · 08/12/2025 20:44

Not snark. I'm just clarifying that reasonable people make different judgement calls in real situations. I wasn’t advocating reckless driving, only noting that context matters and drivers sometimes make safe, proportionate decisions to help emergency vehicles.

It feels like my comment may have hit a nerve, but there’s no need for this to spiral. I’ll leave it there and won’t be engaging further.

Not sure why you feel you 'hit a nerve'? I was responding to your comment to me. I can assure you I could care less if you decide to do something that incurs a fine and/or puts points on your license. If I see a poster posting something I disagree with (especially about something illegal) - or alternatively agree with - I'll be responding again at some point - that's kind of how MN works.

Anyway, why do you care? It doesn't affect you in the slightest. Or do you just like telling people off on the internet?

That doesn't come across to me as 'clarifying' your position, it felt a tad snarky and not in the same vein as my comment.

But that's fine, very happy to leave it there, although there wouldn't really be any need for it to 'spiral' anyway. We just have different POV.

Cheezit · 08/12/2025 23:14

AmateurDad · 08/12/2025 22:47

This is the problem when people start to talk with absolute authority about things they assume to be the case without actually checking.

The law absolutely DOES allow you to break a light if not doing so would hold up an ambulance answering an emergency call - just as one would hope and indeed expect to be the case.

In any event, I find it genuinely alarming to learn that Munsnetters choose to sit stubbornly at red lights blocking ambulances on their way to cardiac arrests rather than exercising a little bit of common sense and seeking even to edge forward and out of the way. I suppose a clean licence is more important than a life.

You forgot ‘man here!’ 😊

bodyofproof · 08/12/2025 23:12

AmateurDad · 08/12/2025 22:47

This is the problem when people start to talk with absolute authority about things they assume to be the case without actually checking.

The law absolutely DOES allow you to break a light if not doing so would hold up an ambulance answering an emergency call - just as one would hope and indeed expect to be the case.

In any event, I find it genuinely alarming to learn that Munsnetters choose to sit stubbornly at red lights blocking ambulances on their way to cardiac arrests rather than exercising a little bit of common sense and seeking even to edge forward and out of the way. I suppose a clean licence is more important than a life.

It doesn’t though. You can’t go through a red light and an ambulance won’t ask you to, they are trained to switch the siren off and wait
and yes points matter to me as I have to declare them to my work which can then affect my job

sittingonabeach · 08/12/2025 23:00

@AmateurDad so are you saying the London Ambulance Service are wrong?

AmateurDad · 08/12/2025 22:47

This is the problem when people start to talk with absolute authority about things they assume to be the case without actually checking.

The law absolutely DOES allow you to break a light if not doing so would hold up an ambulance answering an emergency call - just as one would hope and indeed expect to be the case.

In any event, I find it genuinely alarming to learn that Munsnetters choose to sit stubbornly at red lights blocking ambulances on their way to cardiac arrests rather than exercising a little bit of common sense and seeking even to edge forward and out of the way. I suppose a clean licence is more important than a life.

sittingonabeach · 08/12/2025 22:38

@MasterBeth so if a policeman was standing there saying don’t move you would still plough your way through because you can’t see a hazard ahead? So if an ambulance came up behind you without blues and twos on would you go through a red light as that could still be an emergency but they have turned them off to stop a motorist going through a red light

SquigglePigs · 08/12/2025 22:12

It's really hard but you were absolutely right. You shouldn't pull through a red light.

Emergency vehicles are supposed to tone down/turn off the lights and sirens at junctions like that so as to not intimidate people into making poor driving choices.

Obviously everyone wants ambulances to get their vulnerable passengers to the hospital as quickly as possible but if a separate accident is caused then that's not a win for anyone.

Notmyreality · 08/12/2025 21:45

MasterBeth · 08/12/2025 21:43

Can you read?

I have very clearly said “if it was safe for me to do so”.

So, obviously not in all circumstances.

And I think I would know better because I could use my eyes and ears and brain to determine whether it was safe or not because I would be there.

Indeed.

Notmyreality · 08/12/2025 21:45

calkel · 08/12/2025 21:20

I don’t think I know better. I know the law, I’m just happy to break that one law, if it means safely moving for an emergency vehicle.

Exactly. This is the part so many refuse to fathom.

MasterBeth · 08/12/2025 21:43

Can you read?

I have very clearly said “if it was safe for me to do so”.

So, obviously not in all circumstances.

And I think I would know better because I could use my eyes and ears and brain to determine whether it was safe or not because I would be there.

sittingonabeach · 08/12/2025 21:37

@MasterBeth why? Why do you think you know better than someone trained? Is that in all circumstances?

MasterBeth · 08/12/2025 21:34

Yes. I know.

I would disobey the advice of the emergency services if it was safe for me to do so.

sittingonabeach · 08/12/2025 21:32

@MasterBeth but the emergency services tell you not to do it

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