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2 nights staying over is enough!

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Anonymous2211 · 07/12/2025 18:38

I'd like to get a general vibe of how many nights you can have people staying over at your house before you just want your space back!. I'm a private person, my social battery drops off a cliff by the second evening so I am considering having a 2 night rule. My husband doesn't agree (because it suits him to not set boundaries plus its his side of the family that stay as they have to travel 1.5 hours to get to us). For my particular situation, I have a small house and this puts one of my children out of their bed which really stresses me out. They are OK on the sofa or air bed but again, more than 2 nights I find really overwhelming and not fair. You also can't relax in the evening as I have to make the sofa or air bed and leave the lounge so they can sleep.(no space in bedrooms for air bed) It just really affects house dynamics and causes me so much work! Typically every 6-10 weeks. Any thoughts?

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Fdsew · 07/12/2025 18:44

Nope, for a distance of 90 minutes, 3 nights?
Not a chance.
We travel that distance back an forth, no staying over.
Putting a child out of their bed on a regular basis for more than one night is definitely not something I would do.
Certainly not for a 90 minute distance.
Your poor child. Stand up to your husband.

Nevermind17 · 07/12/2025 18:43

Bloody hell. I have relatives that I visit fortnightly who live 1.5 hrs drive away and I go there and back in a day. I certainly wouldn’t need 3 nights to recover from the arduous journey! Your DH is BU.

bigboykitty · 07/12/2025 18:41

1.5 hours? Do they need to stay at all?

SilverPink · 07/12/2025 18:40

Personally 0 nights for me 😆 I can’t remember the last time we had anyone staying over (not counting the kids friends, who stay over regularly, but doesn’t affect me)

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