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To wonder why DH made such a fuss

82 replies

ChristmasShift · 07/12/2025 13:37

DS, 12, has had flu for over a week. He’s been very ill, up most nights and absolutely no routine. It’s wiped him out, he didn’t eat anything for days. He’s turned a corner and improving but still exhausted.

I was up early this morning, enjoying the quiet. DH has had food poisoning so been in the spare room. He appeared at 10.15 asking why I hadn’t woken DS up, I said he probably needs the sleep, generally he’s not one for laying in or sleeping loads. DH went back up and kept coming back down every 15 minutes to say I should really wake DS up. It got to 11 and I was fed up of his constant jibbing so I went and woke DS up. This is the odd thing though. DH came and ate something and has now gone back to bed to apparently rest! Fine but I don’t get why he was so absolutely adamant that DS needed waking up.

Ive said why did you keep on that DS should be woken up and he’s gone into a strop about how he has to work tomorrow so needs rest. Makes no sense to why DS couldn’t sleep in.

OP posts:
lottiegarbanzo · 07/12/2025 14:06

Why did you wake him up?

Redrosesposies · 07/12/2025 14:06

Go and make him get up.

Lambington · 07/12/2025 14:03

The DH sounds abusive.

IAmKerplunk · 07/12/2025 13:59

I wouldn’t have woken my poorly child on the say so of my husband. Is he always like this?

GinaandGin · 07/12/2025 13:56

H sounds VERY controlling

WelshRabBite · 07/12/2025 13:55

I’m not sure why you are treating your DH like your boss?

Your H thought your son should get up, you didn’t, why didn’t you just say “he’s been ill, he needs his sleep, I’m not waking him up.”

Job done.

Just because a man thinks something is right, doesn’t mean it is 🤷‍♀️ You are allowed to tell your husband he is wrong.

Luxio · 07/12/2025 13:47

Why did you go and wake the poor kid up? You knew he needed to rest and there was no need for him to be up and busy but still got him up anyway?

I would have told your husband to wake him himself if he felt it was so blooming important.