Would you forgive this?

Hoping this is sarcasm, otherwise WTF?

A bit of fun???

Are you quite mad?

This

Oh God. He’s one of those creeps at work :/. I don’t have any advice tbh. Not ideal at all.

He hasn’t cheated and I don’t believe he has or would!

Obviously he would, where did you think this is all leading?

How am I ever going to be able to move past this without constantly thinking now that he’s looking at other people or I’m not good enough, slim enough etc.

I know this is all new and raw, but why would you want to compete for this sex pest? I don't think I could ever move past this.

Like other posters have said, there is probably more to this. He has shown you who he is and has betrayed you over and over chasing other women

You think sexual harassment of women by men in the workplace and a man losing the family’s income through selfishness are “a bit of fun”? I would hate to hear what you consider a dealbreaker…

No. Couldn't forgive it. My husband losing his job, the source of family income, because he couldn't help himself from objectifying women. Fucking gross.

Yes, I’m sorry too OP. You sound like a sweet and vulnerable person. Hope you find someone better. XX

Perhaps it's worth doing some digging?!

If this happened with my DH I would, because it would absolutely blind side me and OP stated there have never been any problem like this.

How on earth have you managed to turn this into all about you and whether you cant 'trust' him and whether he might cheat on you???

At a wild guess I assume that she's devasted and doesn't know which way to turn? Have a bit of empathy for THIS victim for fuck's sake

Has he asked you to forgive him? And if so what has he asked you to forgive? Losing his job and being unable to financially support his family? Or sexually harassing his colleagues and clients at work?

You do need to try and stop yourself from fretting about whether you are sexually attractive enough for him. And start thinking about whether you want to remain married to him. You can take your time with this. Reflect on whether he has accepted responsibility for his actions and is taking steps to change his behaviour. How he acts to your friends, family, you and your kids.

Lean on family and friends and get through Christmas for the kids.

Start making some decisions in the new year based on what you want and not out of fear for what you think he wants or will do.

Is this new behaviour or has he always been like this?

I think only his friends and ex colleagues would be able to answer that.

If he hadn't have been sacked, the OP wouldn't know about any of this right now.

I suspect that what you have been told is the tip of the iceberg. There must have been overwhelming evidence against your husband, for him to have been fired. Not only has he been saying sexual comments to colleagues, but he's said similar about customers. He's made one colleague so uncomfortable with comments, and 'innocent' looking touches, that she felt she had to report your husband. I bet this colleague is younger and most likely in a lower position in the company too. He's at best a creep but at worst a sexual predator who gets kicks out of making young women feel uncomfortable and vulnerable. As others have said, if this behaviour is completely out of character, there's a very slim chance there could be medically something wrong. However, I doubt it, I rather think he's perfectly aware of his behaviour, and all comments are said deliberately. He can't be so stupid to think that these comments are acceptable within the modern day work place? In my view his behaviour is much worse than an affair. An affair is consensual between two adults who are both attracted to each other. This isn't consensual at all, it's your husband thinking he's entitled to make comments about colleagues and customers bodies and attractiveness, making them feel uncomfortable. Going forward.. your husband needs professional help to understand why he's behaving in this way, and why he thinks it's acceptable. As for your relationship, I couldn't forgive him for this. It's just appalling behaviour, there's no excuse or reason to justify it either.

Completely agree.

Raise your standards OP, this isn't about you and your insecurities but rather that your partner is very simply a disgusting creep.

Is this new behaviour or has he always been like this? I only ask as I’m a nurse and on very rare occasions disinhibited behaviour has been related to neurological conditions. I have experienced men losing absolutely everything and then finding out months later they have a neurological condition.

I wouldn't want anything to do with him.

He's vulgar, predatory and lacks boundaries.

It's far worse than cheating as these women were not willing participants.

All true, but surely to God you can see OP is feeling flayed alive by this business.
She may have been conditioned over the years by his general social demeanour too, so that she automatically diminishes his line-crossing in her mind in order to maintain her equilibrium. No doubt he’s always insisted there’s nothing objectionable is his interactions with women.
Who knows; but OP sounds pretty low right now, and her concerns might be a bit jumbled up, but wouldn’t anyone’s be?

There is no way on earth I'd tolerate this. Apart from the humiliation of having a husband who is ogling over young women (Eugh/Ick etc) I could not forgive him putting our children at risk financially, in a cost of living crisis, due to being a pervert.

This isn’t about cheating.

Oh no, he's also commented on how massive a customer's boobs are.

Such a charmer.

I doubt the company went straight to fired, he’ll have had warnings and chances or has done worse than he’s saying.
I’d not forgive, no.

Of course it’s out of character.

He’s hardly going to behave like this around his wife and kids is he?

If the OP goes down this road she’s handing him an exquisite get out of jail free card!

He can’t use some incredibly spurious health justification to shield himself for the consequences of his being a sex pest.

Would it not be a bit weird that it was apparently only ever in work and so heavily focused on this one woman? Come on, it's not an illness.

He's a fucking disgrace