I’m so so upset about this!

The Dsis didn’t “plead poverty” she simply declined to lend OP £500.

Firstly I hope you are ok! I do think it’s not unreasonable for your sister not to give the money. However, if it were me I would offer help in another way. Perhaps a craft day? A trip round the more budget stores to find some cheaper yet just as lovely gifts. Ultimately, once everything is wrapped up it’s impossible to tell (especially with children’s toys etc) how much anything cost! People will just be happy you thought of them, even if that’s a homemade item! Comparing yourself to others never ends well, there’s always someone with more than you. I would be resourceful and use what I had around me before looking to others, but that’s just me.

I can understand your sadness, OP. It must have really stung. There’s nothing worse than well-off people pleading poverty, but you really don’t have the full story and so I think it’d be wrong to say anything to your sister.

Sorry OP but £500 is an insane amount of money to ask to borrow.
Most people would not be able to afford this.

I am assuming you have had a big expense which is why you’ve left it so late to not have anything for Xmas.

If you had asked to borrow some money like £50-100 that would have been much more reasonable but they would still not be obliged to hand it over to you.

I think you’re being very rude and entitled.

Why not tell us how many kids you’ve got, what things you got so far and how much money you’ve got to spend - and we can try and help you come up with a plan of how to do Xmas on a budget.

You’re not coming across well, OP. You’re sounding like a sulking child stamping their feet.
Also why on earth are you looking at your sister’s confidential financial documents? If my sibling did that I’d never speak to them again!

Actually on second thoughts my sisters are as bad as you! 😂

My sister’s are bad enough but not as bad as that! You should be ashamed.

I was under the impression that family is there to help each other! Clearly I am wrong!

Handing over 500 quid so you can go on a Christmas shopping spree with her money isn't "family being there to help each other." It's one sister leaching off the other like a Grade A CF.

You pried into her business, looking at invoices and googling prices. You did this while she was paying you to look after your own nephews or nieces.
Then you had a nice bath in her bathroom with her fancy toiletries.

I’m a bit confused as to why your sister should fund your Christmas, regardless of her financial situation. You shouldn’t go into debt for Christmas anyway on my opinion.

Lol. You are not only being unreasonable, you are a contender for CF of the year award.

£500 is a huge amount to ask for, just for Christmas. Its not like its an emergency e.g. boiler has gone bang and you have no heating

£100 would maybe be more reasonable

Because people like the OP find it SO easy to spend other peoples money for them and then plead that it's acceptable because they're family (last word said in Peggy Mitchell style).

This can’t be real. Surely no one thinks they’re entitled to dictate what their sibling does with their money .

Yeah that’s true.

j just don’t understand why OP thinks because the sister is spending on a new car why she thinks she’d have £500 for her as well

I don't want to kick you while you're down OP but you sound jealous and entitled.

Who gives up family plans to change their car so they can fund someone else's Xmas?

She was perfectly entitled to say no and you have no right to then judge her shampoo choice off the back of it.

She's also entitled to have a no-lending policy, should she see fit, regardless of new car commitments.

Who the feck Googles other people's products so they can scoff about them?!

Just weird behaviour.

Honestly I could do Christmas for £200 or even less, if I set my mind to it or really needed to. Perhaps the whole of December might cost £500 including days out etc, but a good Christmas Day plus meals plus gifts can be done for 200 if your children aren’t expecting ££££££ presents.

In a way isn’t it better to have’made do’ rather than have spent 500 you didn’t have on xmas only to have to pay it back next year? Hope things get better for you soon.

Christmas is not a surprise. It happens every year. Did you get an unexpectedly big bill that derailed your financial plans?

If you asked to borrow it from your sister, presumably you would be able to pay it back. So I would plan to spend less than £500 and put your spend on a low interest credit card, or use your overdraft.

YABVU.

And entitled. She has no responsibility to sort your finances

Also. Grow up.

Yup

We have no idea if the Sister is regularly having to give the OP money. She may have decided, quite rightly, that the OP does not need to spend £500 on Christmas, when she obviously cannot afford to, and should be concentrating on money management instead.

Yup

You are upset because your sister needs a car?

If she’s spending that much on a new car then that’s why she can’t afford to give you £500

500 for presents and food to have a good Christmas is not much.

You don't have it so it is too much. It's unreasonable to expect someone to provide it for you.

Your sister paid you for babysitting. That was help and in return you snooped through her personal care items and used them, and then snooped her drawers and read her financial info. She is not your personal wallet.

You are way, way out of line.