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Do you shave your legs in the winter?

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beebee25 · 07/12/2025 06:55

I last shaved my legs in September and won't shave them again until about April.

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Namechangedforgoodreasons · 07/12/2025 11:08

icantbelieveitsnotcake · 07/12/2025 11:02

I am not denying that women are subject to societal expectations and that body hair goes through fashions. But people are still allowed to groom themselves as they wish without having insults hurled at them and that applies to BOTH sides- both those who shave and those who choose not to.

Shaving your legs doesn’t make you look like a child—it makes you an adult making a personal grooming choice. You might not agree with that choice but that doesn't mean throwing out insults to other women implying they want to attract paedophiles is going to make them suddenly change their minds. On the contrary, its yet another lecture directed at women as to how they "ought" to look, according to someone who isnt in their body.

The idea that hair removal infantilizes women doesn’t hold up logically: if it were true, then men who shave their faces, chest, or other body hair would also look prepubescent—but clearly, they do not.

This huge double standard shows that your criticism isn’t about hair itself, but about controlling women’s bodies and policing their choices.

Many adults experience hair loss for reasons entirely beyond their control, such as alopecia or chemotherapy. These adults don’t suddenly appear childlike—their maturity and adulthood remain intact, regardless of hair. Suggesting that hair—or the absence of it—defines a person’s age or sexual maturity is not only biologically inaccurate but also really bloody offensive.

Would you tell someone who just had chemo that they resembled a child?

So yeah- you are spouting bollocks.

Edited

You are desperately trying to read offensiveness into what I have said, and create (non-existent) victims. I refuse to play along with it.

We will just have to disagree.

Justlostmybagel · 07/12/2025 11:04

Very well said @icantbelieveitsnotcake

Oneborneverydecade · 07/12/2025 11:03

I am this winter bc I'll be in the gym but I've probably gone all winter without shaving in the past.

icantbelieveitsnotcake · 07/12/2025 11:02

Namechangedforgoodreasons · 07/12/2025 10:51

And seasonal bollocks to you too.

If you don’t recognise the efforts of the fashion, "beauty" and "celebrity" industries to make women (much more so than men) look as young as possible, and nearly always avoid being connected to older women, you’re being wilfully blind.

As for the prepubescent thing: tell me why you think so many people prefer women to look hairless if it’s not for that reason.

I am not denying that women are subject to societal expectations and that body hair goes through fashions. But people are still allowed to groom themselves as they wish without having insults hurled at them and that applies to BOTH sides- both those who shave and those who choose not to.

Shaving your legs doesn’t make you look like a child—it makes you an adult making a personal grooming choice. You might not agree with that choice but that doesn't mean throwing out insults to other women implying they want to attract paedophiles is going to make them suddenly change their minds. On the contrary, its yet another lecture directed at women as to how they "ought" to look, according to someone who isnt in their body.

The idea that hair removal infantilizes women doesn’t hold up logically: if it were true, then men who shave their faces, chest, or other body hair would also look prepubescent—but clearly, they do not.

This huge double standard shows that your criticism isn’t about hair itself, but about controlling women’s bodies and policing their choices.

Many adults experience hair loss for reasons entirely beyond their control, such as alopecia or chemotherapy. These adults don’t suddenly appear childlike—their maturity and adulthood remain intact, regardless of hair. Suggesting that hair—or the absence of it—defines a person’s age or sexual maturity is not only biologically inaccurate but also really bloody offensive.

Would you tell someone who just had chemo that they resembled a child?

So yeah- you are spouting bollocks.

YouHaveAnArse · 07/12/2025 10:59

Though, tbf, if you have straight pubes then yeah, it can be a hygiene thing to trim/shave down there, especially if you're still having your period.

YouHaveAnArse · 07/12/2025 10:58

Missj25 · 07/12/2025 10:52

There's no point coming on here & telling lies 🤷🏻‍♀️.
Truthfully , I think it doesn’t look nice on women to have hairy arm pits & legs , I just feel it’s not feminine ..
Can I not get attacked for saying that please !
I do think it’s different for men , we are different for God’s Sake !
People will turn this into a whole different thing now & I’ll be accused of being sexist .

Why is it "not feminine"? Again, if you prefer to shave then fair enough, but it's worth thinking about why you feel that way and why women specifically have to remove their body hair in order to correctly perform their gender.

Namechangedforgoodreasons · 07/12/2025 10:58

Missj25 · 07/12/2025 10:52

There's no point coming on here & telling lies 🤷🏻‍♀️.
Truthfully , I think it doesn’t look nice on women to have hairy arm pits & legs , I just feel it’s not feminine ..
Can I not get attacked for saying that please !
I do think it’s different for men , we are different for God’s Sake !
People will turn this into a whole different thing now & I’ll be accused of being sexist .

How very sad that you think normal body hair on adult women, something that is natural to half of humanity, to virtually every woman who has ever lived, is somehow "not feminine".

I wonder if you have ever tried to analyse why you feel this way.

BauhausOfEliott · 07/12/2025 10:53

Namechangedforgoodreasons · 07/12/2025 10:27

Why do you think looking hairless, apart from the head, is supposedly desirable for women?

If looking ‘prepubescent’ was the reason hairless women are supposedly desirable, the same beauty standards wouldn’t also require us to have big boobs, a small waist and a curvy bum.

Hair removal isn’t anything to do with looking young. It’s about looking as different from men as possible. It’s exaggerating a physical difference - typically, most women are less hairy than most men, so removing leg and armpit hair exaggerates that characteristic. It’s still a physical stereotype, but it’s based on sex characteristics, not age ones.

Missj25 · 07/12/2025 10:52

RichardMarxisinnocent · 07/12/2025 10:37

So you think it's yuck on yourself? If so, fine, you're completely entitled to feel that way. Just please don't tell other women you think it's yuck on them.

There's no point coming on here & telling lies 🤷🏻‍♀️.
Truthfully , I think it doesn’t look nice on women to have hairy arm pits & legs , I just feel it’s not feminine ..
Can I not get attacked for saying that please !
I do think it’s different for men , we are different for God’s Sake !
People will turn this into a whole different thing now & I’ll be accused of being sexist .

Namechangedforgoodreasons · 07/12/2025 10:51

icantbelieveitsnotcake · 07/12/2025 10:37

No, you are deliberately avoiding what I asked. I am not referring to it being "unclean", I am referring to your ascertain that women who shave resemble prepubescent girls.

If this were in fact, true, then any woman who had a husband who is clean shaven would also find prepubescent boys attractive because it is "natural" for men to have facial hair after puberty.

I note the fact you are avoiding this means you recognise what you are saying is bollocks

Edited

And seasonal bollocks to you too.

If you don’t recognise the efforts of the fashion, "beauty" and "celebrity" industries to make women (much more so than men) look as young as possible, and nearly always avoid being connected to older women, you’re being wilfully blind.

As for the prepubescent thing: tell me why you think so many people prefer women to look hairless if it’s not for that reason.

MinnieMountain · 07/12/2025 10:50

I generally swim 3 times a week (can’t right now as my shoulder is buggered), yet it never occurs to me to shave for that.

Justlostmybagel · 07/12/2025 10:41

Namechangedforgoodreasons · 07/12/2025 10:27

Why do you think looking hairless, apart from the head, is supposedly desirable for women?

Because razor companies wanted to sell to women too. And most women don't have much facial hair.

Nothing to do with looking like a prepubescent girl.

opencecilgee · 07/12/2025 10:41

i think shaving is gross. It makes them grow back super quickly and feels like sandpaper

CandyCaneKisses · 07/12/2025 10:40

I shave every day regardless of the weather.

Namechangedforgoodreasons · 07/12/2025 10:39

PinkSkies2026 · 07/12/2025 10:25

I couldn't go a few days without shaving, its so prickly. Takes about 1 minute.

It’s only prickly in the early stages of the hair growing. If you didn’t shave it would never feel prickly again.

Lennoxx · 07/12/2025 10:38

Nope! Furry for the warmth 😆

snoopythebeagle · 07/12/2025 10:38

Namechangedforgoodreasons · 07/12/2025 10:27

Why do you think looking hairless, apart from the head, is supposedly desirable for women?

I haven't said that that's how I feel - if you feel that way, that's your issue.

Anyway, lots of men shave too - are they trying to look prepubescent as well?

RichardMarxisinnocent · 07/12/2025 10:37

Missj25 · 07/12/2025 10:29

I think it’s yuck 🤷🏻‍♀️
I wear skirts & dresses a lot, & exercise leggings, wouldn’t like hairy legs .
I think underarm hair is unsightly & unhygienic .
That’s how I like to keep myself & that’s my entitlement.
We are all different, I respect your choice also ..

So you think it's yuck on yourself? If so, fine, you're completely entitled to feel that way. Just please don't tell other women you think it's yuck on them.

icantbelieveitsnotcake · 07/12/2025 10:37

Namechangedforgoodreasons · 07/12/2025 10:35

Beards or no beards is purely a fashion. (Maybe being 'clean-shaven' is also more comfortable for a man - I don’t know.)

What I object to is the notion that women's body hair is somehow unclean. Someone has talked about "having standards"! You don’t hear that said about men’s facial or body hair.

No, you are deliberately avoiding what I asked. I am not referring to it being "unclean", I am referring to your ascertain that women who shave resemble prepubescent girls.

If this were in fact, true, then any woman who had a husband who is clean shaven would also find prepubescent boys attractive because it is "natural" for men to have facial hair after puberty.

I note the fact you are avoiding this means you recognise what you are saying is bollocks

opencecilgee · 07/12/2025 10:37

How is hair unhygienic? It’s just hair

is the hair on your head unhygienic?

opencecilgee · 07/12/2025 10:36

No but I do wax about once a month or six weeks

Namechangedforgoodreasons · 07/12/2025 10:35

icantbelieveitsnotcake · 07/12/2025 10:28

Do men who shave their faces look like prepubescent boys? this would mean that anyone whose husband doesnt have a beard likes under age boys, no?

Beards or no beards is purely a fashion. (Maybe being 'clean-shaven' is also more comfortable for a man - I don’t know.)

What I object to is the notion that women's body hair is somehow unclean. Someone has talked about "having standards"! You don’t hear that said about men’s facial or body hair.

YouHaveAnArse · 07/12/2025 10:32

Missj25 · 07/12/2025 10:29

I think it’s yuck 🤷🏻‍♀️
I wear skirts & dresses a lot, & exercise leggings, wouldn’t like hairy legs .
I think underarm hair is unsightly & unhygienic .
That’s how I like to keep myself & that’s my entitlement.
We are all different, I respect your choice also ..

If you like shaved pits for aesthetic reasons then fair enough, but it's not 'unhygenic'. Otherwise men would feel compelled to shave theirs.

WildCherryBlossom · 07/12/2025 10:31

@MightyGoldBearBraun do very good epilators. If you are new to epilating then a cordless waterproof one is ideal as you can do it in the bath which can help with any discomfort. I’ve been epilating for donkey’s years and can barely feel a thing now. Hair growth gets finer and finer over time too.

Namechangedforgoodreasons · 07/12/2025 10:30

NaiceBalonz · 07/12/2025 10:22

Yes, I have standards all year round, not just April - October.

Standards? Standards? Why do you think looking hairless is somehow morally better?

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