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To get irritated by these words / phrases

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Bouliegirl · 06/12/2025 22:23

there are a few words/phrasesthat irritate the life out of me that I keep seeing online. “Elevated”. “Intentional” “old money aesthetic”. Either in a magazine or on social media.

anyone else?

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FletchFan · 07/12/2025 11:30

The whole 'my village' thing. Where did that come from?

StupidHappyClocks · 07/12/2025 11:25

OonaStubbs · 07/12/2025 00:54

I hate "cozzy livs".

‘Cozzy livs’ makes me laugh, but only because my teen DD mutters it under her breath whenever I say ‘no’ to giving her money to spend on shite…’yeah, yeah, Mum, I know…Cozzy Livs’

IngridBurger · 07/12/2025 11:13

NewOpenWaterSwimmer · 06/12/2025 23:35

Or even worse…

‘I, myself, wanted to order the fruit scone’.

Just say ‘I wanted to order the fruit scone’ - it doesn’t make you sound any more intelligent.

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Quite the opposite in fact. It's so annoying.

Anonymouseposter · 07/12/2025 11:10

Anything pretentious like elevated is irritating. Also the singular “wear it with a blue shoe, red lip” etc. Won’t you be hobbling in one shoe or look a bit odd with lipstick only on your top lip? Myself instead of me makes people sound like Hyacinth Bucket.

Sunflower459 · 07/12/2025 11:03

TiredMummma · 07/12/2025 10:59

The phrase I detest are ‘pinch me moment’ and ‘full
circle moment’ - they often follow an announcement about something incredibly mundane. Also can’t get round stupid misspellings like ‘brought’ and ‘bought’. Brought means to bring in the past tense - the clue is in the R ffs

Oh God, loads of these. ‘Then’ instead of ‘than’. ‘Women’ instead of ‘woman’. Completely accept that we all fall foul of autocorrect from time to time, but these are so ubiquitous I’m beginning to wonder whether people just genuinely don’t know the difference. ‘Phase’/‘faze’, too. They are not interchangeable.

TiredMummma · 07/12/2025 10:59

The phrase I detest are ‘pinch me moment’ and ‘full
circle moment’ - they often follow an announcement about something incredibly mundane. Also can’t get round stupid misspellings like ‘brought’ and ‘bought’. Brought means to bring in the past tense - the clue is in the R ffs

Zov · 07/12/2025 10:43

OonaStubbs · 07/12/2025 00:54

I hate "cozzy livs".

I have always been annoyed by this, but it's growing on me. 😆 Puts me in mind of Platty Joobs! 😂 (I hated this also at the time (when it was the Platinum Jubilee,) but I quite like it now.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 07/12/2025 10:41

Since I’ve just seen it yet again, ‘wonder’ when they mean ‘wander’!

Zov · 07/12/2025 10:40

Bouliegirl · 07/12/2025 09:09

yip; those men online who seem to have positioned themselves as experts with their ridiculous opinions make me want to throw my phone.

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Yep, and men who try to dictate to women, and mansplain to them about WOMENS issues can get in the bin too.

Zov · 07/12/2025 10:39

Sunflower459 · 06/12/2025 23:16

One that has really been chafing my crack recently is when people refer to sex as ‘intimacy’ as though they have the same meaning. The reason it bugs me is that it’s often in situations where men are trying to present their (often post-partum) partners’ reluctance to have sex as a deliberate emotional neglect. Because that has nothing to do with ‘intimacy’ (which can look like anything from laughing together right up to sex, but try convincing these men to settle for anything less than penetrative sex in these situations and you’ll get short shrift). It’s disingenuous use of language deployed to make their selfishness seem more benign.

That and calling it ‘seggs’. For God’s sake grow up.

Yeah I agree - about the intimacy shite. As you say, men who want 'intimacy' are not looking for a cuddle (sorry, I know some people hate that word!) and they're not looking for sitting on the sofa together watching a movie, and sharing a box of popcorn, or having a romantic meal for 2 at a restaurant, or going for a walk on a cosy, frosty, winters day.

They want sex. Preferably oral, and definitely penetrative, and as you say, it will often be when the woman/wife/partner is post partum. As long as they get their end away, it's all good! 👍

Hmm
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Bouliegirl · 07/12/2025 09:11

Jugendstiel · 06/12/2025 23:26

I get annoyed when interiors magazines say 'she sourced it from' and then say an antiques market or a shop. No she didn't. She bought it, just like everyone who buys their stuff at IKEA.

Interiors magazines are the worst for this sort of stuff!

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Fluffyholeysocks · 07/12/2025 09:10

'Must have' as in this season's must haves.

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Bouliegirl · 07/12/2025 09:09

Sunflower459 · 06/12/2025 23:16

One that has really been chafing my crack recently is when people refer to sex as ‘intimacy’ as though they have the same meaning. The reason it bugs me is that it’s often in situations where men are trying to present their (often post-partum) partners’ reluctance to have sex as a deliberate emotional neglect. Because that has nothing to do with ‘intimacy’ (which can look like anything from laughing together right up to sex, but try convincing these men to settle for anything less than penetrative sex in these situations and you’ll get short shrift). It’s disingenuous use of language deployed to make their selfishness seem more benign.

That and calling it ‘seggs’. For God’s sake grow up.

yip; those men online who seem to have positioned themselves as experts with their ridiculous opinions make me want to throw my phone.

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Bouliegirl · 07/12/2025 09:07

Beserkering · 07/12/2025 06:59

“Curated” for me.

I was recently asked to “curate a gift bag”. Seriously, what? Do you mean put some stuff in a gift bag?

It’s not a museum.

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yes, it’s just that fucking influencer talk:

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Bouliegirl · 07/12/2025 09:06

MabelMoo23 · 06/12/2025 22:28

hun and hunni.

I'm in my late forties, a professional woman with a degree and a career and two children,

I am no one’s hun, hunni or “a girl”

My boss calls me hun. I’m just baffled as she doesn’t seem to be the “hun” type

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Luluissleeping · 07/12/2025 07:11

Afew (just saw this on a thread)

Luluissleeping · 07/12/2025 07:09

Alot, abit, aswell, infront. Could go on.

Pricelessadvice · 07/12/2025 07:07

Hubby and hubster make me retch.

Thepeopleversuswork · 07/12/2025 07:04

I can’t bear it when people use the phrase “my little family” on here. As in “I’m happy at home with my little family.”

So twee it makes me itch and also its invariably followed by a long rant about how awful it is to have to spend time with anyone outside your nuclear family and how you just want to stay at home 24/7. It depresses me to hear people talk like this.

Beserkering · 07/12/2025 06:59

“Curated” for me.

I was recently asked to “curate a gift bag”. Seriously, what? Do you mean put some stuff in a gift bag?

It’s not a museum.

OonaStubbs · 07/12/2025 00:54

I hate "cozzy livs".

LemaxObsessive · 07/12/2025 00:52

Sunflower459 · 06/12/2025 23:16

One that has really been chafing my crack recently is when people refer to sex as ‘intimacy’ as though they have the same meaning. The reason it bugs me is that it’s often in situations where men are trying to present their (often post-partum) partners’ reluctance to have sex as a deliberate emotional neglect. Because that has nothing to do with ‘intimacy’ (which can look like anything from laughing together right up to sex, but try convincing these men to settle for anything less than penetrative sex in these situations and you’ll get short shrift). It’s disingenuous use of language deployed to make their selfishness seem more benign.

That and calling it ‘seggs’. For God’s sake grow up.

The reason people say “Seggs” & “unalive” etc is because on Facebook, Instagram and especially TikTok, if they say words like sex or dead or suicide etc then their video gets demonetised and/or taken down. It’s not slang it’s literally just to avoid the censorship

EmpressaurusKitty · 07/12/2025 00:30

Cute / sweet used as positive terms, for instance in the contexts of baby names or kids’ clothes.

AFAIC being cute or sweet is only a good thing for under-fives & baby animals, & after that it rapidly changes to twee.

Zov · 06/12/2025 23:48

I hate it when someone says 'you have agency...' meaning you can do your own thing/you're an individual person. I know it's grammatically correct, I just HATE it. 😆

'Use your words.' Hmm

'Reader, I left him....' Duck off you're not a mid 19th century author!

JetSkiRentals · 06/12/2025 23:36

‘Myself and DH are going to go and visit blah blah blah…’ gaaaaaah

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