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Would you tolerate DP spending £7k on World Cup trip?

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Rigaboni · 06/12/2025 18:26

DP declared he is travelling to the World Cup and will be staying in Boston for 10 nights, to watch two games. He will miss DDs 2nd birthday. It will cost £4k for flights and hotels, perhaps around £2k spending money and maybe around £1k for tickets.

We have separate finances, I earn a bit more. We pay a percentage of our salary in to a joint account to cover joint bills.

How would you feel about this?

YABU = it’s a once in a lifetime opportunity and you can always earn more money
YANBU = I wouldn’t tolerate him treating himself to a £7k solo holiday

OP posts:
ToKittyornottoKitty · 06/12/2025 18:29

Well it’s not going to be a frequently repeatable trip is it. And as your finances are separate the money isn’t really anything to do with you unless it comes from your joint finances.

CraftyPlayer · 06/12/2025 18:29

I think I’d be really upset at the amount of money, that cost could be an amazing family holiday. But I don’t get the whole separate finances thing, so if it’s his money then I guess he can do as he wishes.

ChristmasHug · 06/12/2025 18:29

Yes I would, as a once in a lifetime thing with friends or family. So that answers your question.

But not missing dds birthday. Not at that age. I'd be livid.

Sunnyjac · 06/12/2025 18:28

If it’s separate finances then your only issue presumably is that he’s missing the birthday. You’ve presumably agreed to keep finances separate for a reason.