Would you tolerate DP spending £7k on World Cup trip?

Not if he’s a Scotland fan!

I see where he’s coming from. It’d be a great trip and possibly not quite once in a lifetime but certainly no guarantee they’ll qualify for 2030 which would be much more manageable cost wise.
I’d suggest he properly researched flight costs, there will be various ways of doing it which might make it cheaper. Get him researching basic air bnb’s, he’s hardly going to be in the accommodation.

Think I’d be going on my own holiday while he’s away though, go with a friend or your mum maybe?

Given your updates YANBU. He can’t afford it.

Obviously you can’t stop him from going, but I would cheerfully go on holidays without him whilst he repays his debt.

I would be fuming tbh given your financial situation.

He still can't afford it.

Do people even bother to read updates? I’m assuming not.

Given your update, he's being totally and utterly selfish, and putting his (ridiculous) wants ahead of everyone else in his life, with absolutely no thought as to the consequences and ramifications (and even more worryingly, no apparent wish to engage in even considering them).
If he wouldn't be OK with you doing the same for something you've always wanted to do (tour the far east, South America, both of these) then you'd be quite justified in reading him the riot act.
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Surely he went to Germany for the euros last year like pretty much every other scotland fan.
I feel your pain, my DH is going too, no idea how much it will cost but he's followed them home and away all over europe in qualifiers and friendlies since before i met him so cant grudge him... and he can afford it.

So what if Scotland rarely qualify - he’s got 28 years to save up for the next one so should be doable

Seeing your update I would be absolutely raging. He is unbelievably selfish and happy to impact upon the rest of your household to suit his needs and priorities which he has clearly shown do not lie with his family or partner. And we’re not talking a few hundred maybe even a grand, we are talking 7k ffs.

Anything more than a casual interest in sport, either watching or partaking, has always been a dealbreaker for me as far as men are concerned - essentially I class 'more than a passing interest' as anything that would cause other plans to have to be rearranged, so, no I wouldn't tolerate this, but I wouldn't have married anyone who'd ever want to do it.

If it means you as a family miss out (ie fewer/cheaper family holidays, less spending money) then no I wouldn't be happy. If it means no financial impact, then I'd be ok with it. I would be ensuring I myself had a trip for just me or with friends within a year of that also. It has to cut both ways - you need to be able to enjoy time away also. Making it something you both can do reduces resentment.

I would be very annoyed about missing the 2 year olds birthday party, 2 is really in the trenches of parenting he should be there for you if not his child.

No, I didn’t. That obviously changes things. Thanks for pointing out.

I hadn't seen that he'd be going into debt.
Clearly the man is a selfish idiot, and their finances aren't as separate as the first post implied, but I would still be upset about him choosing to miss his daughter's second birthday.

I would only be okay with it if I were likely to experience a similar opportunity- which is how my relationship works atm but on a much smaller scale!

Did his wish to go to the World Cup come out of the blue?

I live in Scotland and if someone's husband or wife was a member of the Tartan Army,I doubt it would come as a surprise to their partner.

I'd be more disappointed that he was happy to leave his family and miss his child's 2nd birthday for a couple of games of football.
My dh is a huge football fan but it wouldn't cross his mind to go away for 10 nights on his own, he wouldn't want to.

OP considering your update reframe it in your mind that hes not declared he's going to the world cup, he's declared he's a selfish pig who would rather have a solo holiday and do the family out of family holidays for the next 2 years!!! I would be absolutley fucking livid! If he had £7k savings to burn then that would be slightly more tolerable, but he doesn't, he's putting the family in debt (because it is family debt if you can't do stuff until its paid back) and your daughter doesn't get holidays for the 2 years when you actually don't have to worry about the bloody school holiday premium!

Also I can't believe he'd miss her 2nd birthday without so much as a discussion. Of course she'll miss him and she's the age you could do with a bit of extra help! Tell him he can go to the next world cup after he saves up! Bastard face!

If you are a Scotland fan, it IS potentially once in a lifetime 😂🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿.

I wouldn’t be opposed to DH doing this if he was a die hard football fan but I’d probably ask him to limit to 5 nights and one game to reduce the cost a bit.

I’m sssuming he’s Scottish if he’s going to Boston? Seeing as they only qualify every 28 years, I’d let him go.

Is he a member of the tartan army?
to me this makes a huge difference. First time in 28 years Scotland qualify so in that case yabu. If it’s England then meh. They’re always there there will be another time.

My God some of the marriages you read about on here are like life sentences. So oppressive and clearly not much love between spouses.

Yeah life’s too short

and so is OP’s

A bit more context is needed here. Understand finances are seperate but will this still cripple him? Mean you have to pay for more things for the next few months? How would he feel if you went on a similar priced trip for 10 days? Presumably he'd be fine with it. Missing the birthday is another matter though - I'd be unhappy based on that one

YANBU. Presumably you have to look after your child on your own while he is away. It needs to be a discussion. Ask him when he is stepping up so you can go away with your friends.