Would you tolerate DP spending £7k on World Cup trip?

I wouldn’t object in principle to dh wanting to do something like this once every few years however “declaring” he is going -over dc’s birthday- without proper consultation is pretty unacceptable IMO.

DH has sometimes been away with friends/brothers and it’s always been a discussion and agreement, mostly just for practical reasons with me needing to juggle work and kids single handedly while he is away. Ditto when I’ve gone away.

I recognise that you have separate finances but it would also worry me a lot if he didn’t have the cash upfront to pay and was going to rack up a huge debt. You could argue that he could do what he likes if he has a lot of personal cash and it isn’t going to affect family finances but that clearly isn’t true

finally I’d be pissed odd that presumably that is going to rule out a family holiday that year, for both annual leave and financial reasons

yanbu!

This!

In this house £7k would represent 3 months' total income and I would have a breakdown if my dh spent it on anything. If you can afford it (and you could feasibly spend similar on a trip of your choice sometime), that's different. Tbh the birthday wouldn't be that big a deal, a 2 yr old isn't going to be upset or even remember really.

I agree @secretrugbyfan FIFA have been sending me ticket information for weeks including before the club World Cup the delight of spend £500 to get club world tickets and a right to buy at the World Cup
mixed with that fact these things just aren’t for the teams playing as fans either anymore we did two Euro matches in Germany last year and the amount of neutrals is high - the number of seats say for Haiti Scotland seems high when you think of the numbers of Haitians/Scottish who want to see it but again it will have neutrals in it

food prices as well US hotels don’t do half board

I would say he is ill prepared and under budgeted. We love football and as I said went last year and it was amazing but. I won’t touch this one with a barge pole due to costs and infrastructure. it’s a FIFA issue

and it isn’t a US issue we are happily going to watch Lakers Basketball in April

and look the Euros are in 2 years in oh where Scotland (amongst others) where he will be able to watch

I think he’s being optimistic re costings. I was looking at Boston accommodation last night and it is eye watering…

Debt?! No. He’s a lunatic. I wouldn’t even stay with someone this financially irresponsible. Disaster waiting to happen!!

I would be fine with this but agree it should be a discussion not a declaration.

I voted YABU. I would have voted YANBU if A) you were married and B) had joint finances.
But he’s clearly not as committed to family to the extent that you wish he were…

A parking spot at the Boston stadium alone is $175.

It's not once in a lifetime, it's every 4 years. This year is the first time that tickets are affected by dynamic pricing (think back to the Oasis debacle in 2024) so the chances are tickets will cost more than he's probably anticipated.

Tell him to wait until 2030....the WC is in Morocco, Portugal and Spain. Time to save the money to go, and you can combine as a holiday for your child (who will be 6) and you (as long as you don't mind the heat).

I like sports a lot and can definitely see why it would be fun to go. But with your updates it’s just silly. I would like to do lots of things but I can actually only do what we can afford. If it’s all going on credit he just can’t afford it, super simple.

I think you should have put the financial details in your initial post as that makes a big difference. I agree he doesn't have the funds to go and the impact will be on the rest of the family in not being able to get things in the house done or trips together.
It would be a no from me.

Given your updates yeah I would be very annoyed. He can’t afford it, and it’s irresponsible to put that sort of thing on a credit card.

I sympathise as I’m a big football fan (we spend about 5k a year on PL season tickets) but it doesn’t mean you can jeopardise financial security- we can afford the season tickets but I wouldn’t have them if I needed to put them on a credit card.

I really appreciate it’s a huge deal for a Scotland fan but surely they’ll be big fan parks and big screens set up for the games?

If you said ‘our household income is 300k a year’ then my answer would be different. But he’s an adult who needs to accept the financial realities of his situation and that he has a child he’s financially responsible for.

There’s going to be some really stupid people in heaps load of debt just because of a game of football. And I love football but I couldn’t be that stupid and that selfish to wreck family finances for it

I think he is being optimistic on the hotel costs. Boston is wickedly expensive for hotels and doesn't really have enough at times of high demand. We paid £1k for a room (we were sharing a 3 room apartment with friends) in an Airbnb in Somerville for 3 nights over the marathon last year.

I'd let him off. We earn similarly to you, and our family holidays have been local weekend breaks since the kids have come as we dont prioritise family holidays yet (we do things as a family but out children are young so its just not a personal priority yet). We've worked hard all our working lives. We are Irish and the excitement building here at the thoughts of Ireland just getting to the world cup and im not even a massive soccer fan... the house will get done, the bills will be paid. Life can be fucking miserable sometimes. If I had something that cost similar that I really really wanted to attend he'd be pushing me out the door and booking my flights for me!

Sorry, missed that. No, he's a twat.

As long as YOU get to spend 7K on a trip of a lifetime while he minds the house and children (and I don't mean you returning to a filthy house and a fortnight's laundry) then fair enough. Have you put this idea to him?

No, I wouldn’t but then again, I love football, so would do the same.😉

If it’s his money, then I cannot see what your objections are. 🤷‍♀️

Why are people suggesting a joint holiday, he is already going to be in huge debt why add to that, how irresponsible. Also prices are going to be astronomical because of the WC

For anyone of child bearing age thinking of going to Texas for the England Croatia match I’d think very carefully about whether there is even the smallest chance that you could be pregnant and at risk of an ectopic pregnancy.

USA isn’t a safe choice these days.

DH and I get around this by me being “tit-for-tat” - that expression for it used to irritate me but that’s basically what it is

for me it’s not so much the ££ - it’s more the “time off”. Put simply, if he has a luxury holiday away from it all with no responsibilities, I want one too.

DH goes most years on a golf trip abroad with his mates, but one year they went to Vegas which was £££. All his holidays are my idea of hell so I’m never jealous about where he’s going and helps “even things out”, which may sound petty to some, but works for us.

I go to a European city for 3-4 nights with a friend, stay somewhere gorgeous and eat out at fancy places. It’s a great break away from all the drudgery and chores. Been doing it for nearly 20 years! We save money elsewhere and prioritise travel.

I love my husband and he works really hard so I wouldn’t mind. He has sadly missed our children’s birthdays to work. I make an extra fuss on the day then we have another birthday tea at the weekend

Yeah, the monthly interest is going to be huge in no time.