Would you tolerate DP spending £7k on World Cup trip?

I think you need to tell him that whilst you understand how important this is and if he wants to see group matches in the 2028 Euros in 2.5 years you are on board with it he has to be realistic

he has saved probably 20% of what he needs and has little to no time to save the remaining 80% and you aren’t prepared to sacrifice either for that level of savings he just doesn’t have the money. 10 days is a false economy as well because even though he will get two matches the amount he will spend is through the roof.

if he can find one match coming in at 5K so he has 50% saved so flights, cheap cheap hotel and one ticket you are supportive but you cannot have Scotland int he World Cup being the financial priority for the next 5 years of your life

So how much do you personally have in savings @Rigaboni ?

Scotland playing in world cup is a big deal

Occasional holidays separately is fine

Could celebrate 2nd birthday late

And he'd be paying for it himself

So far, so good

But he can't afford it, so it's a Nope from me. We should all be living within our means. YOLO is all very well, but people need to take responsibility for themselves, and this will increasingly be the case, IMHO

Scotland playing in world cup is a big deal

Occasional holidays separately is fine

Could celebrate 2nd birthday late

And he'd be paying for it himself

So far, so good

But he can't afford it, so it's a Nope from me. We should all be living within our means. YOLO is all very well, but people need to take responsibility for themselves, and this will increasingly be the case, IMHO

My hubby spent 5k on a 6 day jolly to the USA to watch PGA golf in North Carolina. Did some sight seeing en route. I didn’t mind as we could afford it. I’d treated my daughter and myself to a holiday to Malta and just returned from a week in Egypt.

if I was in your position I would have to say no, it’s just not fair, 🤗

How long has he taken to save £2k and is that to the detriment of household savings?

So he can probably buy the tickets, travel to and from the stadium and some food.

So nowhere near what he needs then

But he’s getting into debt to do it. For me that level of credit card debt is fiscally irresponsible, even if he can pay it off, even though it will be at the detriment to family activities, plus he will have no savings.

as said I’d have no issue with the trip itself, I’ve always felt we should both be able to support each other to go and do things we wish and enjoy, life doesn’t stop with parenthood, but I do expect financial responsibility.

And when you mention the DIY and family holidays what does he say?

this.

For gods sake it isn’t once in a lifetime it’s more 3-4 times a lifetime for a start. It is the 9th time they are there not the first. Yes it is a great opportunity to watch them but Scotland do manage tournaments every now and then and the 2028 one will be in Scotland.

then even if it was he can’t afford it. His budget is already looking unrealistic and he can’t afford that

All Scottish football fans want to go I imagine most are far more realistic as to affordability

plus if he really was family focused he could easily work it around the fort lauderdale match and make it a family holiday for that one

Given that he’s a Scotland supporter, I don’t think he’ll mind too much England going home early

The purpose of the holiday is irrelevant.

He can’t afford the trip and will be clocking up debt to do it. Debt which will impact your family. Assume all of calculations will be on the low side so the amount will be higher.

Really poor idea.

This is that I thought. It's not a 10th birthday or anything. WC is a once in a lifetime opportunity whilst the birthday will be swiftly forgotten. Nobody will be thinking back to 2nd bday when she's 4yo.

Although will be lolz if England get knocked out straight away. 😂

I clicked you were unreasonable before I read it was on credit card and he doesn’t have the money, that I would object to. Not the going, but I’d expect my husband to only spend on what he can afford, and not impact family ie no hols, back burner for home improvements etc, I find that selfish and unacceptable.

I would not want to give the Trump Regime seven grand of my money so no

Following OP,'s updates it is absolutely unaffordable. Does he already have any debt? He seems financially improvident.

True I still can’t see a single ticket at the moment under £900 and it is all seat geek/Ticketmaster as well

I think he is massively under budgeting as well

the thing is most football fans would love to watch it - just be realistic about cost and he can’t afford it

Given that he’s Scottish I can totally see his point. I’d have less sympathy if he was English.

The 10 days wouldn’t outrage me but on the assumption that he was going to work hard to make sure my 10 days of 24/7 solo parenting were as easy as possible. I’d expect him to be leaving a spotless house with a well stocked fridge and hitting the ground running when he gets back. The birthday is not ideal but it’s a scheduling crash rather than thoughtlessness and the baby won’t know enough to mind.

The money would bother me a lot. It’s 3 months take-home roughly and separate finances of not, it will impact. I would expect him to pay for it in entirety without impact on the family finances. How he will do that idk. I’m a 0% credit card juggler - I took one just last week to pay dds uni rent due in January (September payment on a card that runs out next September). The plan for the new card is dds rent - 2 instalments (£4600). New varifocals for me (budget £400). Ds2s first car insurance (based on what I paid for older kids in same car £1200) - total £6200 (ish) . It’s a 22 month card but I’ll spread it over 20 months £310/month (ish). Just say he can’t get as good a deal as me (I earn more and my credit score is spectacular, perversely, as I’m always borrowing). Say he has to stump up £2k on a normal card and can pay £5k off 0% over 12 months.

£2k at 27% will be £200/month for 12 months (£250ish interest)
£5k at 0% will be £416/month for 12 months
£614/month for a whole year

So he’s in the soup for something between (best case £7k at 0% 20 months) £350/month for 20 months to (worst case 34% card for full £7k) £700/month for 12 months - or even worse stick with £350/month on a high rate card and be in debt until the baby is in school.

He needs a plan to pay that debt. I have a side hustle of bank/locum in my normal profession and an 8/h a week contract in a min wage hospitality job. Dh does UberEats in his spare time. What is your dh proposing to fill the hole? Be poorer?

Haitians aren't allowed to travel to the US, so they will have no fans in the stadium (and, tbh, if you were a Haiti-born American resident, you wouldn't want to be anywhere near there given what's going on with ICE)

Won't let me edit but having read your update, if it's going on credit and impacting family finances, no. I'd be livid.

In a reply today, OP has said he’ll be sharing a room. But yes the prices there next June are crazy high - £6k is the average total cost for a ten night stay in a three star hotel.