I hate christmas

I used to hate all the travelling. And a mother and one or two other relatives who failed to tell you they were ill. And insisted that everyone saw each other. As planned. So everyone became ill in turn. Great. I don't miss that.

I hate Christmas because, regular as clockwork, some sourpuss comes out of the comes out of the closet and starts stiring up some family drama bullshit. ‘Tis the season, apparently.

Love sprouts though! 🥬

I get the other side of it. I love Christmas I love spending time with family, I love giving gifts, the decorations even cooking for everyone. Its magical. My husband hates it from start to finish moping around with a sour face taking the shine off every sodding thing I try to do. I tone my enjoyment down but he cant even meet me half way. It just makes me sad. I now encourage him to spend his Christmas with his family where they can all mope about moaning together whilst I have a shed load of fun with mine xx

Absolutely agree with this! Make it the day you want it to be!! I love Christmas always have since I was a kid , build up to it is my favourite time BUT I ended up hating Christmas Day because me and DH were trying so hard to please everyone we never got to enjoy it ourselves. About 8 years ago we said no more and started spending Christmas our day at home (told family they were welcome to visit us knowing full well the ones we didn’t to particularly want to visit would come nowhere near) cook our own lunch and let our kids enjoy their gifts. Recently my elderly parents started coming for Christmas dinner and it’s just the best!

I hate it too OP.

I hate having all the responsibility for everyone else's good time while I run myself ragged waiting on everyone hand and foot and paying for it all, while they sit on their arses, like they have done all fucking year and get pissed on my wine.
I hate having to be the collective brain for all the lazy bastards in my family who can't be bothered to think what to get each other and EVERYONE forgets that DD has a birthday in January so nobody gets her anything and I have to compensate that for her sake because it isn't her fault she was born then.

I just want to fuck off abroad just me and DH and not speak to a living soul until January.

We do the same shit every year and every year I say I don't want to do it any more and every damn year MIL will start pecking DH head about what we are doing this year from August onwards.
If she likes Christmas so much why doesn't she host it at hers? 🤔 But she won't because "It's easier to have it at yours" (of course it is, that's because I will do all the grunt work!)

Thank you for letting me rant.

This is exactly what I am doing this year, and have the previous two. It's fantastic.

I totally agree. Ive told my youngest daughter that next year she doesn't need to do it unless she really wants to. She's been doing alternate Christmas and Boxing day for our family for a long time now and I think she deserves a chance to not do it if she wants to. She had a great Christmas in 2020 for obvious reasons when it was just her own immediate family. Ive told her just to give us all 3 months notice and if no one else steps up to do her own thing, whatever that might be.

I don't like Christmas, epitomises all the pain in my life that isn't going anywhere.
I paint a smile on my face for relevant people and am relieved when it is over.
For those who enjoy Christmas, hope you have a good time

Best christmases I ever had was when I worked. Let the others get on with it. Nice early start (5.30) in retail. Everyone who came in so very grateful we were open (always for batteries) in a good mood. We got mince pies brought in by reular customers. Back home sort of 2.30 to have lunch cooked and ready, and all the 'excitement' handled by DH. So good!

Get yourself a child with special needs, trust me, no one will visit you then. After a few years, all our friends and family have drifted away as they can’t cope. It’s always just the 3 of us now and we do whatever we want. It’s lonely but it would sort your problems right out!

What a miserable fucker.

I can’t stand Christmas. This year I’ll either be on my own or with an adult child who’d rather be alone and drink themselves into oblivion. The teens are with their dad and neither of them cares much.
im thinking no tree, ill give them some presents that they need and everyone else can foxtrot Oscar. Actually maybe I’ll drink myself into oblivion. It’s a boring day, being disabled I’ll be pretty much stuck in bed with no help.

This year we are having take away curry, I am going to order it several days in advance from one of the best Indian restaurants round here and fteeze it. Will get the Naan and sides from the supermarket and have a sorbet for dessert. Simply cannot face cooking a dinner and clearing it all up, so much work and although I love food I really don't like any of the traditional Christmas stuff at all. As I have already posted on here a young member of my family died very suddenly in shocking and tragic circumstances and we are all just longing for it all to be over. The enforced jollity is bad enough at the best of times but when you are tying to get through each day without crying it is almost unbearable this year

3pm is an ideal time for Christmas dinner. I’d say many people do this.

large breakfast and then cheese and biscuits later in the evening if peckish - no problem.

also if he has cooked why shouldn’t you clean up?
and god forbid he gets drunk at Christmas, the horror

Not mean at all!
A lot of people LOVE Christmas. Avoiding being around people who hate it is a part of their festive navigation and organisation. If you’re married to someone who hates it, that’s tricky!

I spent many a Christmas Day when I was young frightened caused by everyone fighting/ arguing wrecking the house, I dreaded every Christmas , when i had my own family I swore her Christmas memories would be magical and they where , we went no where near any family members spent Christmas Day on our own and no one was welcome either , no one would spoil my daughters Christmas I made sure of it , I spent Christmas Day on my own one year and it was at that point in my life one of the best days

Oh God OP I felt every word of your post.

I feel under such pressure to ‘produce’ a Christmas. And therefore I do, as I have small children and they deserve that. But when they’re adults there is absolutely no way I’m doing a ‘full’ Christmas again - aka the whole day serving, entertaining, cooking and cleaning, plus inviting relatives I don’t like ‘because it’s Christmas’.

Got the sodding in laws round this year, they don’t like me, I don’t like them. Sick of it

You sound mean.

I hate xmas too, because it's just work. There is no joy in spending time you don't have thinking about who would like what, buying and wrapping presents, ordering food and drink, cooking, clearing up, tidying up, making up beds, washing linen. It is just an endless stream of work with no thanks from anyone. I just want to go out for a long run by myself and come back when it is all over. It's also the expense. We don't have the money for it so December is a major stress over trying to manage and January is even worse when the credit card bill comes in. I actually seriously depressed about the whole thing.

I look forward to the day more people start rejecting the traditional Christmas.
I think most people will find they are happier and less stressed and free of obligations.

I agree, OP, but you have choices. We opt out of most of the modern Christmas nonsense - all that's left is the Nine Lessons and Carols on Xmas Eve, a bottle of champagne on Xmas Day and a couple of boxes of mince pies (just because I like them warm with cheese!).
No tree, decorations, Xmas dinner, excessive presents and - crucially - no relatives 😂 The older you get, the more you realise that there are no rules, and you can do (or not do) whatever you like.
If your husband doesn't agree, definitely book yourself a holiday - or just a few days in a cottage or flat. This is your life - don't waste it!

Take back control no one is forcing you say no to plans that don't suit. I've made no firm plans this year except Xmas day my family are laid back we will drop in on each other over the holidays as and when suits. Kids stuff up to rooms by the big new year clean amd much less than usual as most prople are buying experience or gift vouchers rather than tat

Yup, hate it too, mainly because I don’t like people and resent having to talk to them. Most people are either arrogant and self-centred or unbearably boring- or both. I will spend Christmas pretending to laugh at shit jokes or pretending to be interested while someone talks at me about the things that interest them. My in-laws put in zero effort when buying presents and just wrap up any old rubbish. Half of it probably comes from a charity shop, and that’s where most of it ends up in January. Then it’s nauseating defrosted food from Aldi and an afternoon listening to my BIL boasting or droning on about rugby and his car.

I don’t mind it now as we just please ourselves. I rarely drink so I very much enjoy my wine on the day.
DH is bad tempered though as he thinks everyone else is having these amazing/extended family Christmas's. He did have these as a child, as he had a big family so they all met at his grandmas.
By the time I met him she was gone and the Christmass I spent at his parents were just sitting in misery. He still thinks that if we lived in his hometown it would somehow be much better. I think it would be exactly the same except his nice uncle would pop by for 5 minutes.