Went out last night with two colleagues I thought were friends. One of them I’ve known longer, the other is a trainee she’s recently gotten close to.
Throughout the night I was basically being the responsible one — fixing her shoes multiple times, trying to order her a taxi because she was all over the place, making sure she was okay. In the end she and the trainee just flagged a cab down together and got in.
Not once — did either of them message to check I got home safe. I was stood there on my own waiting for mine.
Then today I see she’s created a little group chat with the trainee, called “Queens” (cringe enough already), and they’ve been chatting away like best mates. She’ll also ring me separately to moan about this same trainee, so clearly I’m only useful when she wants a sounding board.
The whole thing has really upset me. It just felt two-faced, dismissive and like they genuinely didn’t care whether I got home safely or not. And honestly it’s made me question the entire friendship.
To add to it — we all work together, so it’s going to be awkward now, but I just feel DONE. I’m too old for this weird mean-girl energy.
AIBU to cut them off and just stay polite at work? Because right now I’m thinking this behaviour is not what an actual friend does.