Fell over at work Christmas party

Oh please don't fret OP. I've worked in the legal sector for the last 40 odd years, high street firms and now Corporate and believe me, nothing you did is that shocking and I've seen and done (long time ago) far, far worse. Sounds like everyone was drinking heavily so don't even mention it on Monday, you did nothing that bad and this is your hangxiety talking. Breathe and let it go x

I remember getting a job in a small call center (1980s when I was just finishing my first degree and waiting to start my masters). Women asking if I had children and my saying no, I was child free. That was a bit too much for some of them to cope with.One said "Are you going to be an old maid?"

"Goodness, what a peculiar expression. Ive not heard that one since my grandmother died. Do people still talk like that?"

Have to admit I enjoy delivering these kinds of ripostes in a crushing tone.

You didn't shag anyone, flash your tits or start a fight. It's all good.

What sort of typo turns "gone" into "went"?!

If this was a one off situation i would say forget about it, laugh it off. It was a xmas party. However it clearly isn't a one off. You have a troubling history with alcohol and you need serious help.

I thought I was a grammar Nazi until I joined MN . Had went isn’t the end of the world 🙄

Don't put anything in writing! It sounds like everyone had a few. If anyone says anything just say it did get a bit out of hand, or yes it was a good night, or I shouldn't have had that champagne it always goes to my head or whatever fits with their comment, it happens to most people at some time, unmeasured drinks, topping up of glasses and mixed drinks can be fatal, you lose all track of how much you have had.

Wtf

my point is - this is a lot more serious that has been conveyed and probably best not to comment as though this is a lighthearted one off

Nasty!

Sent from your ivory tower presumably...

It’s ok. At least you didn’t get your arse out. Don’t think anymore of it.

It’s definitely not the worst Christmas party story I’ve ever heard. But I think it’s probably just a sign to avoid these things in the future. It gave you some anxiety before you went and now you’re having “hangxiety” after going

Calm down grammar police, 'had went' is just a colloquialism, not a crime!

The OP made it very clear that she mentioned the miscarriages because she was worried about being asked why she hasn't got children and was 'numbing it with alcohol'. Honestly the reading comprehension on here is shocking sometimes. If you can't be arsed to read then why reply at all?

OP: don't message anyone, it's just the beer fear getting to you. No-one will care. If you were my colleague and I remembered you falling off a high stool I'd be more concerned about checking you were ok and uninjured than judging your alcohol intake. Laugh it off on Monday.

If a PP is correct you are using alcohol as a coping mechanism though, that's not ideal and you should probably try to find a better one. You need to take care of yourself and this isn't the best way. I'm sorry for your miscarriages and your struggles to conceive. I hope it all works out for you. Be kind to yourself xx

Don't do anything. I wouldn't compound this by texting people but learn from it!! People drink too much and do and say things that are inappropriate because they lose their inhibitions at parties. This can be quite damaging sometimes because they say things or do things to people who hold their futures in their hands. The best thing to do with these events is go along, be sociable, hold your drink so you dont lose control and leave when things start to get a bit drunken and lairy. When you dont know people very well, its surprising but very personal topics come up as conversation openers particularly between women what does your husband/ partner do? Do you have Kids? How many? These can be be dodgy questions cant they? because maybe they are red flag questions for you and reach into your soul. There is an art to managing works parties and getting out of them unscathed particularly when you work in a competitive stressful environment. Today, after the event you are hung over and depressed by your drinking and a bit ashamed of yourself because you've over done it. I would just lay low, you must resolve to deal with your drinking if you feel that alcohol is becoming a problem. This will all blow over Im sure and maybe you are overthinking it. If you get an email or are asked 'Can you just step inside my office on Monday you will have to make an apology and promise that there will be no repeat of your out of character behaviour. That's about it!

First, it sounds like everyone had had too much to drink, so I wouldn’t worry about it. Definitely style it out, and don’t even think about emailing or texting anyone.

But second, your other threads show that you clearly have an issue with alcohol - and health anxiety alongside does not make a good combination. Sounds like it’s time for you to get some help

Style it out. Don't say a word.

You got drunk, lost balance, slipped over. It will have barely registered with anyone.
Honestly I've seen and heard about much worse behaviour at various Christmas parties. The law firm ones are the worst. A lot of solicitors are a bunch of repressed stuffed shirts, mix in alcohol and inhibitions are thrown to the wind.

Yes, that puzzled me too - assuming it’s a typo.
Anyway, very long in the tooth solicitor here, OP you have absolutely nothing to worry about- the things I’ve seen at solicitors’ Christmas parties would make your hair curl 🤣🤣🤣

You have a bad case of “the fear” today. I promise you in a weeks time you will have forgotten all about this. Don’t text anyone. People will have been tipsy or drunk themselves and won’t have been focused on you as much as you think.
anyway it doesn’t sound to me like you made a fool of yourself at all. At my work Xmas party I saw a guy from a different department who was so drunk he fell asleep sitting on the stage where a band was playing and two young women who were his colleagues had to wake him up and carry him to the table and give him water. Now that would be cringeworthy. If it’s true that you have been getting drunk regularly like this you need to do some reflection when you are feeling better . I recommend the book “the sober girl society handbook “ by Millie Gooch.

im guessing this was a small privately owned business?

because in any other environment, he’d have been hauled into HR and possibly sacked right there and then

Someone I worked with, a normally very quiet and shy young man who wouldn't say boo to a goose, did the full Monty dance at a Christmas party...and I mean the real full Monty, he literally took all his clothes off 🙈 poor bloke the next Monday at work!

I think the implication is that OP has revealed something about herself to a colleague that she hasn't previously (the vague conversation that she is struggling to remember).

OP as I mentioned above, people won't be thinking about what you've said or done. You really don't need to worry.

People will be thinking about their own behaviour not yours.

Honestly don't worry about it, sounds like a standard work Christmas do. No one will be thinking about you or anything you did or said, they probably won't remember much either.

I'm not sure why we need the whole backstory about the miscarriages for a fall from a stool in a drunken party.

Do not say anything or text. But honestly, you have other threads on here talking about mistakes made while drinking heavily. Please reach out for help- if not for yourself, your health & future & job, then for your husband. Alcohol is an addiction & so dangerous & destructive.
With much sympathy.