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Fell over at work Christmas party

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Onslow1985 · 06/12/2025 13:45

Today is the morning after of a very boozy work Christmas party and I need a good talking to. The day was filled with wine and Prosecco and not much food! I’ve recently started a new team and I’m a few years away from qualifying as a solicitor. I’m 37 and other women in the team are the same age and have children. I’ve sadly had 5 miscarriages - I’ve been asked several if I have kids and why not and it was on my mind that I would be asked last night so probably numbing it with alcohol. The whole team were also really drunk and I remember a vague conversation about children and one the girls pulling me to one side and saying sorry & that she is also struggling to conceive. I also lost my balance on a high stool, slipped and took a solicitor down with me. He’s been really kind and told me to forget about it and don’t worry but I can’t stop panicking. My manager had went home by this point so didn’t see but I am so worried about my unprofessional drunken behaviour. Desperately fighting the urge to text every individual on the team with an apology. Am I wasting my energy on this? I’m hoping people won’t give it an extra thought. Dreading work on Monday….

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MyCrushWithEyeliner · 08/12/2025 15:53

Onslow1985 · 08/12/2025 15:07

It isn’t no. You’re right and previous posters too. I suppose I just wanted some reassurance I wasn’t a hideous human being

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Of course you’re not. Having an addiction doesn’t make someone bad.

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Onslow1985 · 08/12/2025 15:53

MyAmusedPearlSquid · 08/12/2025 15:39

Your miscarriages have nothing to do with this you was drunk fell off a stool took a colleague down with you and yes if I was you I would be bloody embarrassed as hell

Maybe not but it’s definitely something I battle with on a daily basis so drinking too much on a work night out isn’t the answer.

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MyAmusedPearlSquid · 08/12/2025 15:39

Your miscarriages have nothing to do with this you was drunk fell off a stool took a colleague down with you and yes if I was you I would be bloody embarrassed as hell

BIWI · 08/12/2025 15:16

Of course you’re not a hideous human being! Flowers

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Onslow1985 · 08/12/2025 15:07

BIWI · 08/12/2025 15:03

OK. So what are you going to do to address the problem that you so evidently have with drinking, @Onslow1985? Or is this thread just until the next time?

It isn’t no. You’re right and previous posters too. I suppose I just wanted some reassurance I wasn’t a hideous human being

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BIWI · 08/12/2025 15:03

OK. So what are you going to do to address the problem that you so evidently have with drinking, @Onslow1985? Or is this thread just until the next time?

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Onslow1985 · 08/12/2025 14:57

Thanks for all of the messages regarding my grammatical error. Duly noted and if anyone is interested I wouldn’t use this language in a work setting, I was simply typing into a small box on my phone severely hungover at the time! Me being me I haven’t been able to laugh it off, yes everyone else was drunk but seemed to have witnessed the incident and now just feel like I’m a laughing stock (when everyone is probably not giving it a second thought) oh and I obviously let everyone know I’m mortified and been anxious all weekend.

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SheSaidHummingbird · 07/12/2025 15:25

It's absolutely grammatically incorrect. Language that has become accepted into regional dialect does not change that.

Crofthead · 07/12/2025 12:18

Christmascanary · 07/12/2025 12:15

I sometimes watch those BBC documentaries of court cases (can’t think of the name) and there’s a very posh Scottish lawyer (wears glasses) and I was trying to picture him saying it and couldn’t decide if he would or not Grin

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He wouldn’t bat an eyelid as it’s not seen as incorrect

Christmascanary · 07/12/2025 12:15

Crofthead · 07/12/2025 08:06

It would be fine if she did as everyone in Scotland says this and it’s not remarkable at all.

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I sometimes watch those BBC documentaries of court cases (can’t think of the name) and there’s a very posh Scottish lawyer (wears glasses) and I was trying to picture him saying it and couldn’t decide if he would or not Grin

NeedWineNow · 07/12/2025 11:19

nomas · 07/12/2025 04:42

That sounds quite tame.

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@nomas it was tame for me. Thankfully my husband had arrived to collect me before I could get any further Cosmopolitans down. That particular party ended up with an after party back in the office which did not end well…..

Goditsmemargaret · 07/12/2025 08:14

You're fine honestly. You've got The Fear. Alcohol is a bastard for it. It was a drunken affair, you were drunk. It's not criminal behaviour.

If you're friendly with any of them message saying "hi how are you today? I feel horrendous, drank way too much. I hope I haven't pissed anyone off - sorry if I did".

But there's no need to.

Honestly though at 47 I don't drink at all anymore and it really makes me happy that I never have go feel like this again.

Order some fast food, fizzy drinks, go for a walk then settle on the couch for TV. Message a friend who always makes you laugh.

Crofthead · 07/12/2025 08:06

Christmascanary · 07/12/2025 01:10

This is the second thread I’ve read tonight where people can’t get their heads round a common Scottish turn of phrase.

I’m sure when OP is speaking in legalese she wouldn’t use the term!

It would be fine if she did as everyone in Scotland says this and it’s not remarkable at all.

Crofthead · 07/12/2025 08:04

SheSaidHummingbird · 07/12/2025 05:27

No way did a solicitor write "had went"

Yes they would. It’s very common in Scotland and not grammatically wrong

Crofthead · 07/12/2025 08:04

VictoriaEra · 07/12/2025 02:44

Gosh yes. That was the first thing that stood out to me. Clients will certainly notice that grammar.

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Not if it’s the norm. This is how we always say it - no one would say anything.

HarlanPepper · 07/12/2025 06:03

Wow. This post brought all the arseholes to the yard.

Witchcraftandhokum · 07/12/2025 05:45

Scotland’s a fairly big place. There certainly are rough streets where they shout things like that at each other.

Fuck me, the snobbery on here!

Cheezit · 07/12/2025 05:40

MazeyP · 07/12/2025 05:23

Come Monday you apologise to the one you dragged down to the floor. You play it by ear and act accordingly if your manager says anything about complaints. And you are not at uni, getting this drunk and embarrassing yourself should not be a thing you do at this age.

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Wow.

Cheezit · 07/12/2025 05:39

Indeedcorrect · 06/12/2025 13:53

What’s the relevance of you struggling to conceive?

you got very pissed and slipped off a stool

The whole team were also really drunk

drunk people always recollect it like this 😆

What’s the relevance of you struggling to conceive?

She clearly explained why it impacted how she felt and behaved on the night. What’s your excuse?

Mapletree1985 · 07/12/2025 05:33

Theseventhmagpie · 06/12/2025 15:10

Yes, that puzzled me too - assuming it’s a typo.
Anyway, very long in the tooth solicitor here, OP you have absolutely nothing to worry about- the things I’ve seen at solicitors’ Christmas parties would make your hair curl 🤣🤣🤣

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I see "had went" quite often online, and sometimes in the work of my students. I thought it was more of an Americanism.

SheSaidHummingbird · 07/12/2025 05:27

No way did a solicitor write "had went"

MazeyP · 07/12/2025 05:23

Onslow1985 · 06/12/2025 13:45

Today is the morning after of a very boozy work Christmas party and I need a good talking to. The day was filled with wine and Prosecco and not much food! I’ve recently started a new team and I’m a few years away from qualifying as a solicitor. I’m 37 and other women in the team are the same age and have children. I’ve sadly had 5 miscarriages - I’ve been asked several if I have kids and why not and it was on my mind that I would be asked last night so probably numbing it with alcohol. The whole team were also really drunk and I remember a vague conversation about children and one the girls pulling me to one side and saying sorry & that she is also struggling to conceive. I also lost my balance on a high stool, slipped and took a solicitor down with me. He’s been really kind and told me to forget about it and don’t worry but I can’t stop panicking. My manager had went home by this point so didn’t see but I am so worried about my unprofessional drunken behaviour. Desperately fighting the urge to text every individual on the team with an apology. Am I wasting my energy on this? I’m hoping people won’t give it an extra thought. Dreading work on Monday….

Come Monday you apologise to the one you dragged down to the floor. You play it by ear and act accordingly if your manager says anything about complaints. And you are not at uni, getting this drunk and embarrassing yourself should not be a thing you do at this age.

nomas · 07/12/2025 04:42

NeedWineNow · 06/12/2025 18:04

Totally agree with this. I worked for a City legal firm and my department's Christmas parties were so legendary that other teams begged to be invited to join in. I fell in the coat rack at our last one.

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That sounds quite tame.

WilfredsPies · 07/12/2025 03:48

Onelifeonly · 06/12/2025 23:05

I think it's an Americanism. I've seen it a lot on Reddit. English, but not as we know it.

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It’s not an Americanism. Different locations in the UK use different regional phrasing. Why is this a surprise to anyone? Britain is not that big that we would be unaware of colloquialisms.

WilfredsPies · 07/12/2025 03:46

I’m guessing the self described wake up call you had in March, when you had no recollection of getting home, wasn’t enough to stop you from carrying on?

I mean this with kindness because I do understand why you’re using alcohol in the way that you are, but you have far bigger problems than your colleagues seeing you fall off a stool. I suspect they’re all fully aware of what’s going on because people talk. I also suspect that they’ll be kind enough to overlook it and pretend that none of them think you have a problem, right up until the inevitable moment when you fuck up at work because you’re hung over, or still not quite sober from the night before, when several of them will be only too happy to recount smelling alcohol on you on previous occasions.