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That prayer to Jesus is inappropriate at a company party?

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Kate8889 · 06/12/2025 12:06

I went with my husband to a company Christmas party and before we started to eat a woman came to the microphone and said a short prayer in the name of Jesus as thanks/blessings for the food. Everyone was expected to bow their head.

This is the first time I've been witness to something like this, it is a secular company with many Jewish, Muslim and agnostic people. We have been going to this Christmas party for 7 years and it's never been like this.

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RedTagAlan · 07/12/2025 08:49

Rhayader · 07/12/2025 08:31

No I don’t. It definitely used to be accepted but it is not anymore. That’s a very outdated view. If the link I posted one above works for you that’s a very good read from probably the most famous researcher of Christianity (who happens to not be a Christian) on why he used to think that but changed his mind.

Ah right. So It's a battle of academic qualifications then :-)

Nah, that's out of my lane.

When will the encyclopedias be updated?

Brittanica says :

"One widespread explanation of the origin of this date is that December 25 was the Christianizing of the dies solis invicti nati (“day of the birth of the unconquered sun”), a holiday in the Roman empire that celebrated the winter solstice as a symbol of the resurgence of the sun, the casting away of winter, and the Heralding of the rebirth of spring and summer."

And :

"A second view suggests that December 25 became the date of Jesus’ birth by a priori reasoning that identified the spring equinox the date of the creation of the world and the fourth day of creation, when the light was created, as the day of Jesus’ conception(i.e., March 25). December 25, nine months later, then became the date of Jesus’ birth. For a long time the celebration of Jesus’ birth was observed in conjunction with his baptism. celebrated January 6."

No mention of John the Baptist.

Rhayader · 07/12/2025 08:31

RedTagAlan · 07/12/2025 08:29

Fair enough. As I said, it was first result and I just read the abstract.

Instead of getting into a papers war, do you accept that the scholarly consensus is that Christmas was borrowed from the Pagans ?

Even if you don't agree with that theory.

No I don’t. It definitely used to be accepted but it is not anymore. That’s a very outdated view. If the link I posted one above works for you that’s a very good read from probably the most famous researcher of Christianity (who happens to not be a Christian) on why he used to think that but changed his mind.

RedTagAlan · 07/12/2025 08:29

Rhayader · 07/12/2025 07:49

This author does not appear to be a religious studies researcher, they teach business courses. And this isn’t published in an academic journal either, this is just a self publish of their idea which is debunked by most researchers int christian history (it’s the sol invictus theory I mentioned above). This is their cv: csde.academia.edu/NicolaeSfetcu/CurriculumVitae

Fair enough. As I said, it was first result and I just read the abstract.

Instead of getting into a papers war, do you accept that the scholarly consensus is that Christmas was borrowed from the Pagans ?

Even if you don't agree with that theory.

Etoile41 · 07/12/2025 08:29

AwfullyGood · 06/12/2025 12:27

Christmas started as a religious holiday to celebrate the birth of Jesus.

Yes, it may have evolved and has become a seasonal celebration which many people chose to celebrate in their own way but that doesn't change the fact that it is primiarily a religious event and some people will celebrate it traditionally.

I'm all in favour of people chosing tbeir own a la carte Christmas but it's a religious event, started for religious reasons and is unreasonable to try to remove the "Jesus" element of it when it's the entire reason for its existance.

This

CurlewKate · 07/12/2025 08:28

Etoile41 · 07/12/2025 08:23

That's fine, but why celebrate Christmas then ?

Because it is a holiday of cultural significance. As you well know.

Rhayader · 07/12/2025 08:27

RedTagAlan · 07/12/2025 08:20

I am familiar with it ta, but can't access sorry because I am in a country with very restricted internet.

You mentioned Bart Ehrman to a PP though, and he is in the Pagan origin camp.

So there is that. The article you posted above is far from the scholarly consensus.

I subscribe to his blog and he’s not of that view! I don’t know how much is open to unsubscribed so I’ve posted a screenshot

https://www.bartehrman.com/why-is-christmas-on-december-25th/

That prayer to Jesus is inappropriate at a company party?
ohnotthisagain2020 · 07/12/2025 08:25

Nah, it's fine. Chill out.

ConstitutionHill · 07/12/2025 08:24

Get this. I was at a Hen Party once and as I was about to tuck into hamburgers, the venue host started saying something and everyone joined their hands and I realised it was some kind of grace.

It was in Friesland (conservative north of Holland) and the venue owners, speaking that language, were clearly religious even though the hen was not. I had been talking loudly in English and it took a few moments before I realised what was going on and shut up!

Etoile41 · 07/12/2025 08:23

Kate8889 · 06/12/2025 12:12

Because not everyone believes that he was the Son of God.

That's fine, but why celebrate Christmas then ?

RedTagAlan · 07/12/2025 08:20

Rhayader · 07/12/2025 08:03

If you’re looking for something accessible (both, not a paywall and easy to understand) then religion for breakfast is a great YouTube channel for popular research videos on all religions and he’s done a video on it.

I am familiar with it ta, but can't access sorry because I am in a country with very restricted internet.

You mentioned Bart Ehrman to a PP though, and he is in the Pagan origin camp.

So there is that. The article you posted above is far from the scholarly consensus.

Rhayader · 07/12/2025 08:03

RedTagAlan · 07/12/2025 08:00

I Can't access that paper by the American society of Church History, I can just get the first page.

I did find an interview with the author of that article though.

Interview - Dr. Philipp Nothaft on the Date of Christmas - History for Atheists

And note this bit from above " But Philipp and several other recent scholars have bolstered an alternative theory that seems to fit the evidence better, as he’ll discuss with me today."

It's not settled then.

Good link you posted. But not enough to covert me :-)

If you’re looking for something accessible (both, not a paywall and easy to understand) then religion for breakfast is a great YouTube channel for popular research videos on all religions and he’s done a video on it.

WalkDontWalk · 07/12/2025 08:03

Peridoteage · 07/12/2025 07:40

- if they want to pray, they can, if you dont believe, you quietly just let the prayer pass you by.

No one is objecting to private prayer. The problem is that this individual couldn't resist pushing it on others. Why did it need to be shared publicly if not coming from a place of "spreading the word of Jesus". It's the spreading the word part that is unwelcome.

@Peridoteage

I suspect that if, following Mavis' prayer, Clive from IT Support had got up and said, 'I'd like you all to join me in a worshipful supplication to our demon Lord Lucifer to watch over us this evening and bestow upon us the gift of his hot chaos and malevolence as we revel and debauch,' then Mavis might have been disinclined to bow the respectful head, except to hurriedly text HR.

Genevieva · 07/12/2025 08:00

CurlewKate · 07/12/2025 07:17

Loving the idea of middle aged Muslims sitting round sharing fond memories of Christian assemblies.

Well a couple of ladies I worked with told me just that. They enjoyed the hymns and the sense of belonging. It never threatened their own religious identities. They were also nostalgic about the British school food of their childhoods.

Rhayader · 07/12/2025 08:00

Peridoteage · 07/12/2025 07:56

This is probably the best summary https://www.jstor.org/stable/23358685

This is from Church History, the journal of the American society of church history, its a Christian focussed society, so hardly unbiased. Its focussed on the identification of the date of Christmas rather than considering the origins of the festive traditions many people celebrate today.

Edited

Not all Christian researchers are Christian! Probably the most famous researcher of Christianity is a well known atheist (Bart Ehrman)

RedTagAlan · 07/12/2025 08:00

Rhayader · 07/12/2025 07:39

Interested in what you’ve read?

This is probably the best summary https://www.jstor.org/stable/23358685

essentially: saturnalia ran from 17-23rd December so having Christmas just after would be a stupid way to distract.

Some people say “oh well it replaced Sol invictus which was 25th but the earliest evidence of it being celebrated on the 25th was from 274ad and the evidence is that it was moved to this date to distract from Christmas.

It was established Jewish tradition that great prophets died on the same day they were conceived - it’s known at the integral age theory if you want to look it up.

also see: william tighe, celebrating Christmas (2003), Andrew mcgowen, how December 25th became christmas (2002)

I Can't access that paper by the American society of Church History, I can just get the first page.

I did find an interview with the author of that article though.

Interview - Dr. Philipp Nothaft on the Date of Christmas - History for Atheists

And note this bit from above " But Philipp and several other recent scholars have bolstered an alternative theory that seems to fit the evidence better, as he’ll discuss with me today."

It's not settled then.

Good link you posted. But not enough to covert me :-)

Interview - Dr. Philipp Nothaft on the Date of Christmas - History for Atheists

My guest today is Dr Philipp Nothaft. Philipp is a Fellow of All Souls Oxford and a historian specializing in astronomy, astrology and calendars in late antiquity, the Middle Ages and early modern Europe. He’s also the author of a key paper on the ques...

https://historyforatheists.com/2023/12/interview-dr-philipp-nothaft-on-the-date-of-christmas/

Rhayader · 07/12/2025 07:59

Peridoteage · 07/12/2025 07:49

Rhyader

No one is really fussed about what determines the precise day Christmas is celebrated on. Thats a very Christian focus, atheists tend to view the festivities as seasonal.

What is clearly true:

  • Saturnalia predates the birth of Christ (see writings BCE from roman Republic eg Livy, Cicero, Catullus) & was celebrated at a similar time of year
  • the modern Christmas festival covers the same time period & shares similar traditions of feasting and gift giving.

The likelihood is that traditions were shared/borrowed between various festivals.

Lots of people are fussed about this. I accept that it is a tangent to the thread though! Just a bit of a nerdy interest of mine (the studies of religions in general).

interested in why you think the Eastern Orthodox church also decided to celebrate Christmas around the same time of year if it comes from saturnalia? And if you know anything about saturnalia is really is quite different to Christmas (although gift giving is shared between them — generally joke gifts though for some weird reason). It was mostly a holiday where slaves and masters swapped places in their social roles.

Peridoteage · 07/12/2025 07:56

This is probably the best summary https://www.jstor.org/stable/23358685

This is from Church History, the journal of the American society of church history, its a Christian focussed society, so hardly unbiased. Its focussed on the identification of the date of Christmas rather than considering the origins of the festive traditions many people celebrate today.

WalkDontWalk · 07/12/2025 07:56

Ecrire · 06/12/2025 19:45

Erm I think it’s “watching their flocks” not “washing their socks”.

Were you never nine?

CurlewKate · 07/12/2025 07:56

TheDivergentEnigma · 07/12/2025 07:30

But some do - if they want to pray, they can, if you dont believe, you quietly just let the prayer pass you by. People need to respectfully accept that both belief systems exist and both are OK.

Or they could quietly pray and let the non prayers get on with it? Just a thought. It’s even recomended in the Bible!

Peridoteage · 07/12/2025 07:49

Rhyader

No one is really fussed about what determines the precise day Christmas is celebrated on. Thats a very Christian focus, atheists tend to view the festivities as seasonal.

What is clearly true:

  • Saturnalia predates the birth of Christ (see writings BCE from roman Republic eg Livy, Cicero, Catullus) & was celebrated at a similar time of year
  • the modern Christmas festival covers the same time period & shares similar traditions of feasting and gift giving.

The likelihood is that traditions were shared/borrowed between various festivals.

Rhayader · 07/12/2025 07:49

RedTagAlan · 07/12/2025 07:32

Can you post a link to the academic research ?

I just done a search, and first paper I got says Pagan, and Saturnalia.

(PDF) Origins of Christmas (academia.edu)

This author does not appear to be a religious studies researcher, they teach business courses. And this isn’t published in an academic journal either, this is just a self publish of their idea which is debunked by most researchers int christian history (it’s the sol invictus theory I mentioned above). This is their cv: csde.academia.edu/NicolaeSfetcu/CurriculumVitae

Nevermind17 · 07/12/2025 07:45

I can imagine a church-going staff member approaching a manager to suggest a blessing in the spirit of Christmas and them thinking “We’re going to have to allow this or we’ll be all over the Daily Mail on Monday morning”.

”BRITISH COMPANY BAN CHRIST FROM CHRISTMAS IN A CHRISTIAN COUNTRY”

Peridoteage · 07/12/2025 07:40

- if they want to pray, they can, if you dont believe, you quietly just let the prayer pass you by.

No one is objecting to private prayer. The problem is that this individual couldn't resist pushing it on others. Why did it need to be shared publicly if not coming from a place of "spreading the word of Jesus". It's the spreading the word part that is unwelcome.

Rhayader · 07/12/2025 07:39

Peridoteage · 07/12/2025 07:27

I used to hold both of these misconceptions (Christmas trees and saturnalia) but once I looked into academic research I found I was wrong so I thought it was worth mentioning.

I've read quite a lot on it as well. Can you post links to the academic research you've read?

Interested in what you’ve read?

This is probably the best summary https://www.jstor.org/stable/23358685

essentially: saturnalia ran from 17-23rd December so having Christmas just after would be a stupid way to distract.

Some people say “oh well it replaced Sol invictus which was 25th but the earliest evidence of it being celebrated on the 25th was from 274ad and the evidence is that it was moved to this date to distract from Christmas.

It was established Jewish tradition that great prophets died on the same day they were conceived - it’s known at the integral age theory if you want to look it up.

also see: william tighe, celebrating Christmas (2003), Andrew mcgowen, how December 25th became christmas (2002)

RedTagAlan · 07/12/2025 07:32

Rhayader · 07/12/2025 07:23

This is fine and you can do whatever you want. Many non religious people enjoy doing things that began as religious or even still are. Many atheists love attending carol services.. James Partridge had a set at Glastonbury singing assembly songs and it was so popular they had to close the entrance to the field!

it’s just that I used to hold both of these misconceptions (Christmas trees and saturnalia) but once I looked into academic research I found I was wrong so I thought it was worth mentioning.

Can you post a link to the academic research ?

I just done a search, and first paper I got says Pagan, and Saturnalia.

(PDF) Origins of Christmas (academia.edu)

Origins of Christmas

No Christian text does not specify what day of the year was born Jesus Christ. Christmas is not part of the celebrations followed by the early Christians and is not included in the lists published by Irenaeus and Tertullian. Given that, according to

https://www.academia.edu/81461227/Origins_of_Christmas