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That prayer to Jesus is inappropriate at a company party?

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Kate8889 · 06/12/2025 12:06

I went with my husband to a company Christmas party and before we started to eat a woman came to the microphone and said a short prayer in the name of Jesus as thanks/blessings for the food. Everyone was expected to bow their head.

This is the first time I've been witness to something like this, it is a secular company with many Jewish, Muslim and agnostic people. We have been going to this Christmas party for 7 years and it's never been like this.

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Tryingtokeepgoing · 08/12/2025 21:20

40andlovelife · 08/12/2025 20:39

I couldn’t give two titties. For many it is about the birth of JC so let them pray and celebrate. Tyrants on here don’t want that though

If by ‘many’ you mean the 6%, yes, 6%, of the uk population that are practising Christian then I don’t think anyone’s saying don’t pray and celebrate, even using a festival that predates Christianity by millennia. Just keep religion out of a work Christmas party :)

Tryingtokeepgoing · 08/12/2025 21:11

40andlovelife · 08/12/2025 20:37

I couldn’t give two titties. In Christianity it’s about the birth of the big man.

But that's the whole point - Christmas isn’t about Christianity and never has been ;)

Payitforward55 · 08/12/2025 21:02

It is his birthday. I would think it odd nice.

Snugglemonkey · 08/12/2025 20:46

TempestTost · 08/12/2025 20:29

Maybe if people would keep their stupid secular moral beliefs to themselves as well and stop subjecting their employees to those, it would be a good trade-off...

Like what?

40andlovelife · 08/12/2025 20:39

HoppityBun · 06/12/2025 12:19

No, a Christmas party it isn’t a celebration of the birth of Jesus! Christmas is a season and has been for hundreds of years. Anyone can be religious and devote themselves to celebrate the birth of Christ if they so wish but that’s a private matter for them. A party is a party. Currently the name that everyone uses at this time of year is “Christmas” but that doesn’t mean that they are obliged either to celebrate the birth of Christ or to hold a mass. Nor do they have to be Christian.

I couldn’t give two titties. For many it is about the birth of JC so let them pray and celebrate. Tyrants on here don’t want that though

40andlovelife · 08/12/2025 20:37

Tryingtokeepgoing · 08/12/2025 05:18

A festival whose history precedes the story of Jesus by millennia! The Christians simply co-opted an ancient winter festival celebrating the return of longer days

I couldn’t give two titties. In Christianity it’s about the birth of the big man.

TempestTost · 08/12/2025 20:29

Snugglemonkey · 08/12/2025 19:41

I would happily ban mosques from broadcasting prayers. As I say, I believe faith is a private matter and should not be shoved in anyones face. Doesn't matter what the religion is.

Maybe if people would keep their stupid secular moral beliefs to themselves as well and stop subjecting their employees to those, it would be a good trade-off...

TempestTost · 08/12/2025 20:25

Hoppinggreen · 08/12/2025 14:53

In Islam its the call to prayer, no idea how it would ruin your day though any more than church bells would

I quite like the call to prayer, but I will say that now that often it is done with a loudspeaker, I think it makes it rather unpleasant. The same way bells would be if they were through a loudspeaker. In places with a lot of mosques in the ME it can be a little overwhelming. It's just too loud and often the sound quality is grating.

There are lots of places where prayers are common at these kinds of work events, or public events. People don't seem to get offended when they are in other countries, or other religions. Even though they may be plauralistic countries.

I think the offence in this kind of instance is pretty manufactured. Though I am doubting the OP a little now. Who was this guy who just decided to say a prayer when they had never had one at the party before? What kind of company is this, is it family run?

It doesn't seem to add up.

TempestTost · 08/12/2025 20:16

Theslummymummy · 08/12/2025 12:46

Literally wrote my thesis on it

The state of university education is pretty dire these days.

NeedToKnow101 · 08/12/2025 19:55

MySilentLions · 08/12/2025 14:23

People of other faiths Ive met tend to be much nicer and far more resilient actually, it’s always the Christians who do the “boo hoo tears, woe is me, I’m so persecuted, you must let me do whatever I want and listen to me harp on and on and on” crap.

Yeah, I dislike fervent Christians. I don’t care if you don’t like that. Can’t stand their proselytism crap.

Just look at all the right wing trad wife, remove rights to abortion, deny women education and jobs, shite that is coming from the fundamental Christians in the US as well. They pick and choose their Bible quotes to keep women down. Horrible people with horrible views.

Are you having a laugh?! Have you checked out who is massacring Christians in Nigeria? Have you seen any Christian ‘honour’ kill their own daughter? Have you seen any Christian brutally murder someone lately because they caused ‘offence?’ Remind me which religion lacks resilience? Crikey! The agenda some people are spouting on this thread is insane.

Snugglemonkey · 08/12/2025 19:46

Genevieva · 08/12/2025 17:31

I really don’t. I love having the privilege of being able to participate in other cultures and religious practices.

Grace before a meal can be a little cringeworthy if you aren’t used to it; my husband’s aunt converted to Christian Science and always asked a guest to say it, which could leave you stumped. But aside from that, my view is ‘no offence intended, no offence taken.’ Suggesting a Christian hijacked a Christmas celebration by saying a brief Christmas themed blessing is absurd.

It was not xmas themed. It was a prayer. Totally inappropriate.

Snugglemonkey · 08/12/2025 19:43

KimberleyClark · 08/12/2025 14:52

Why do church bells have to be rung all over the place on Sundays?

I would ban those too.

Snugglemonkey · 08/12/2025 19:41

TJk86 · 08/12/2025 14:39

Maybe Mosques should be banner then because if you’re ever in east London around prayer time you’ll hear it loud and clear with no choice of whether or not you want to listen to it. But no one would ever say anything as it’s only PC to be offended by Christanity and no other religions.

I would happily ban mosques from broadcasting prayers. As I say, I believe faith is a private matter and should not be shoved in anyones face. Doesn't matter what the religion is.

heartsinvisiblefury · 08/12/2025 18:27

I have never once attended a Christmas party and given one single thought to Jesus.

NoKidsSendDogs · 08/12/2025 18:24

Gmary20 · 08/12/2025 10:07

I mean, was it a Christmas party? This is a Christian country btw, would you complain if you went to a petty in Iran and then said a prayer to Allah before a dinner?

Not a Christian country by majority, thankfully.

Parker231 · 08/12/2025 17:50

gogomomo2 · 08/12/2025 17:28

I’m been at many dinners where Grace was said, it’s not compulsory to say Amen, don’t overthink it. Christmas is a religious festival remember. We always say grace at ours but it’s a religious organisation

At a religious event - yes but not at a work’s Christmas Do.

ByGoldBalonz · 08/12/2025 17:35

I'm a Hindu. I would have bowed my head as well in respect. I wouldn't have created a fuss over nothing.

Genevieva · 08/12/2025 17:31

Snugglemonkey · 08/12/2025 13:40

Anyone imposing proseltising at a party is not being thoughtful at all. I would be personally offended, yes.

I see it as someone saying "fuck you and your beliefs, mine are more important. So I will hijack this fun occassion and make it uncomfortable so I can feel like a superior religious person."

I really don’t. I love having the privilege of being able to participate in other cultures and religious practices.

Grace before a meal can be a little cringeworthy if you aren’t used to it; my husband’s aunt converted to Christian Science and always asked a guest to say it, which could leave you stumped. But aside from that, my view is ‘no offence intended, no offence taken.’ Suggesting a Christian hijacked a Christmas celebration by saying a brief Christmas themed blessing is absurd.

gogomomo2 · 08/12/2025 17:28

I’m been at many dinners where Grace was said, it’s not compulsory to say Amen, don’t overthink it. Christmas is a religious festival remember. We always say grace at ours but it’s a religious organisation

Poetnojo · 08/12/2025 17:14

Hoppinggreen · 08/12/2025 15:58

There was probably A man called Jesus living in Judea around 20000 years ago, maybe even more than one.
No evidence he was anything other than a man though any more than there is that Sue is the daughter of Satan (until she gets a few sambuccas in her)

I never said he was anything more than a man, I was replying to someone who said 'sue', that hypothetical 'sue' was 'real' and that Jesus was not.

RedTagAlan · 08/12/2025 16:16

MySilentLions · 08/12/2025 14:23

People of other faiths Ive met tend to be much nicer and far more resilient actually, it’s always the Christians who do the “boo hoo tears, woe is me, I’m so persecuted, you must let me do whatever I want and listen to me harp on and on and on” crap.

Yeah, I dislike fervent Christians. I don’t care if you don’t like that. Can’t stand their proselytism crap.

Just look at all the right wing trad wife, remove rights to abortion, deny women education and jobs, shite that is coming from the fundamental Christians in the US as well. They pick and choose their Bible quotes to keep women down. Horrible people with horrible views.

Quote: " it’s always the Christians who do the “boo hoo tears, woe is me..."

Agree. and the reason is right there in the Bible.

Mat 5:10 -12 "Blessed those persecuted for righteousness' sake because theirs is the kingdom of the heavens. Blessed are you whenever they may reproach you, and may persecute, and may say any evil thing against you falsely for My sake rejoice and be glad, because your reward [is] great in the heavens, for thus they persecuted the prophets who were before you." (LSV)

They literarily have to be persecuted to be good Christians. It's a paradox I think.

If they are not being persecuted and thrown to the lions, then they are not Christian enough and won't go to heaven.

I mean this in terms of the fundies of course, not the casual cultural Christians.

Edit: formatting.

Hoppinggreen · 08/12/2025 15:58

Poetnojo · 08/12/2025 15:41

Jesus was actually a real man, more real than the hypothetical 'Sue' lol

There was probably A man called Jesus living in Judea around 20000 years ago, maybe even more than one.
No evidence he was anything other than a man though any more than there is that Sue is the daughter of Satan (until she gets a few sambuccas in her)

HMBB · 08/12/2025 15:42

I am not religious but am surprised at how many people are saying Christmas is nothing to do with Jesus/Christianity!

Poetnojo · 08/12/2025 15:41

Bumblebee72 · 08/12/2025 15:34

Sue is real, Jesus isn't.... Although most of us would welcome Jesus to the party if he did the water into wine trick.

Jesus was actually a real man, more real than the hypothetical 'Sue' lol

Bumblebee72 · 08/12/2025 15:34

Poetnojo · 08/12/2025 15:19

And yet, noone would probably bat an eyelid if Sue did just that, mention Jesus though.....

Sue is real, Jesus isn't.... Although most of us would welcome Jesus to the party if he did the water into wine trick.