Would this be rude?

Once again, most ordinary Chinese takeaways do not have a huge range of vegetarian dishes. The fact you can swap the meat for vegetables doesn't make them vegetarian. A lot contain oyster sauce, pork fat, and other hidden meat ingredients.

I don't think it's rude, but you should let them know beforehand incase any of them would also prefer the takeaway you're choosing.

Not rude at all! I wouldn't even think twice if someone did that. You need to enjoy the food. Worse if yiu were getting something you couldn't/want to eat and then was just picking at it.

Going against the grain here, I don't think it's rude!

But I do have a fussy food family, so we're used to having takeaways from 5 different places so I wouldn't think this was rude at all.

This is where your partner comes into it and just gives a heads up & explain (to which I think any decent person would understand where you're coming from) or they slyly sorts it out for you (ie takes charge in ordering from Chinese A, goes to collect the food and then collects Chinese B for you at the same time as you say they're near each other).

I think it would be much more rude if you went along with Chinese A and then looked visibly uncomfortable and not eating the food out of fear, rather than participating in the meal with Chinese B and actually having a nice time!

Now expecting to share a vegetarians food, especially if the majority of the food ordered isn't veggie is rude.

I don’t see the problem. The takeaways are close to each other so it shouldn’t cause too much delay when you collect the meals. If anyone asks you can say your veggie and the other place had a bit more choice for you. The 3 star rating would put me off the other place.

Only total arseholes would help themselves to the vegetarian main when there's only one!

I genuinely don't understand why anyone would have a problem - I've only read the first page but really surprised at the responses. I'd just get partner to drop a message in advance if there's a family group chat saying "OP is going to grab something from takeawayB because it has nore choice of dishes she can eat, does anyone else want to add anything from there to her order?" because I'd only think it was a bit rude if I'd secretly have preferred that too!

Its not rude at all, you are picking up the food you have dietary requirements THE END ...you've inconvenienced no-one. Hope your meal is delicious OP ...ignore the MN bullies 🥢

I wouldn't eat from a place with a 3 rating, either. I don't think it's rude to say there's nothing you can eat on the menu and that you'll order for yourself from the other place - maybe send the menu to see if anyone else would also prefer that. I can't see why anyone would be bothered by you doing that. If you were coming to me, I would make sure we ordered from a place that suited everyone (and wasn't a public health risk).

I'm fascinated by the people saying just order a few noodles and push them around your plate.
Make an excuse that you're not feeling well, etc..

Why is that sort of pretence and terminal people pleasing better than ordering food you like and tucking in like a normal person?

Whaaaat?! OP can just ask her partner what the norm is with their family and if the norm is to just take whatever you want regardless of who has ordered it with no thought towards the person who ordered it actually tasting their own dish then fuck eating with such weirdos.

OP it’s completely fine. Just order what you want from wherever you want. Any decent family will want you to feel happy and comfortable with them.

I'd think you were rude, judgy and a pain in the arse. There's plenty of options for vegetarians at all Chinese takeaways- veg chow mein or fried rice at least. Just don't go, you're Buzz Killington.

I don't understand the obsession with people thinking they're "special" or "it's all about them" for not going along with everyone else, even if doing so would in no way impact what the others are doing. I think it's worse to be uptight, judgemental hosts than for a guest to order food they want.

Well that’s just bollox though. All the outcries of ‘ it’s rude’ only show those up saying this to be very poor hosts.
Surely the mannerly way to host is to offer a choice of takeouts, certainly has always been the way we do takeouts particularly if we have a guest, they would always be offered a takeout of their choice.

I'd be absolutely fine with that. It's quite common to get a few different takeaways to cater for everyone's taste. All the dafties saying it's rude 😄

It shows that @Christmas20 dislikes the choices of her hosts.

It shows that she doesn’t trust her hosts.

It draws attention to her as special and requiring special treatment

Her suggestion demonstrates she doesn’t want to join in with a family meal.

😂 that's a stretch! But I understand it's hard to come up with a decent reason.
A hosts job is to make guests feel welcome and have an enjoyable experience.
OP is not responsible for the hosts feelings or lack of self worth.

Because they have chosen the take away and are hosting. It could be interpreted that where they eat is not good enough for her and that in turn it may make them feel that they are not good enough for her.

Just have chips. Sorted.

Zero risk of food poisoning? Where have you got that from? Any food can be contaminated with germs

I would go with ordering from the other restaurant. Ordering a portion of chips from the 3 star Chinese as one PP suggested would be far more odd, stick out as strange and less enjoyable for you and everyone else. Obviously you don't make a fuss about it, you pay for it and you offer for them to try yours (once you have taken your portion out). Just say that as you're veggie you prefer this place as you particularly enjoy some of the veggie dishes they offer that the other one doesn't.

Can someone PLEASE give me a reasonable explanation of why the hell this would be rude.
What would be rude-
●demanding everyone else eat elsewhere
●if they owned the place they were ordering from
●if she chucked all their food in the bin as soon as it arrived because it was unhygienic

I cant think of any other reasons.

I don't get how choosing your own place to order from is rude. It isn't rude AT ALL. If they owned the place the it would seem a bit rude, but otherwise then of course it isn't!! People are batshit crazy.

I am wondering though, how there's not many veg options? Most Chinese dishes have option of chicken/beef/prawn/veg?

Just otder from somewhere else!

I can’t believe people are suggesting eating rice or noodles from a place with such a shit hygiene rating, they’ve obviously never heard of bacillus cereus.

Personally I would either cry off, or order from the more acceptable place and arrive with it. Fuck what they think, your health and mental health are more important than a shitty Chinese.