Family Christmas Issue

They are being absolutely ridiculous.

I'm not a dog lover. I particularly don't like them around food and am wary of any dog around my children. But we accept an invitation from people that have pet dogs knowing that and putting up with it.....or we simply make our excuses and don't go. Either option is fine.

Considering you said your reason for staying at home was because of the dog they are being incredibly rude. I actually think the solution you've offered is very kind of you so if they're not happy with it.....they can act like a turkey and get stuffed.

FWIW OP, I have NEVER had anyone cancel a social engagement because we have a dog. Quite the opposite in fact, the dog usually gets invited to their subsequent social occasions instead as she’s such an angel 😇(not even stealth boast..)

Your relatives are mental, enjoy your relaxed Christmas without them!

Three weeks before Christmas is plenty of time to get food etc, what are they on about! Tell them to stay home.

Well in some ways their ganging up makes it easier for you. Stuck to your guns and iterate that anyone who doesn’t want to attend can organise their own gathering dog free so win win and just say you have no hard feelings them rescinding their invite at this short notice.

BTW we are LC (and would love to go NC) with a similar pain in the arse relative. Our life is so much better.

If anyone told me to put my dog in a kennels when I was doing them a big favour as hosting Christmas would not be invited to my home again.

Sorry but your relatives are being twats.

You have been clear on the reasons you weren't travelling if they don't like the dog they dont have to come .

You have done nothing wrong.

Who the fuck do they think they are?!

I wouldn’t give them an opportunity to backtrack now, as if they graciously deign to come for Christmas they will ruin it by acting scared every time DDog stretches or barks at the neighbours cat.

Just say you understand they aren’t coming and have adjusted your catering accordingly. You hope they have a lovely Christmas wherever they decide to spend it.

Suggest that your cousin andcdog allergy release spend Christmas together?
Cheeky buggers!

I disagree. They likely accepted accepted out of courtesy as it’s a regular arrangement. Once it then transpired that the OP was not making suitable arrangements for the animal when considering young children will be present, the issue surfaced.

They are a bit thick then, as OP specifically said they are staying home because of the dog. If OP wanted to put the dog in kennels, she would not need to stay home, would she?

They are being extremely rude and very cheeky. Make sure you reply to all using a group watsapp so everyone else can see what they’re asking you to do in your own home! Then uninvite them so they can’t change their minds!

I’d add and if you do come, I don’t want to hear one single whinge about our dog, or you’ll be asked to leave!

Well- this is a totally different situation to the other Dlabrador uninvited thread!

I would text and say ' we made clear that we would be staying home due to the dog and that we would host if people wished to come. If you choose to not come we of course understand but please can you let us know by [date] as we need to know numbers for the food order'.

Then blank any stupid immature and inappropriate attempts at emotional blackmail and manipulation.

@ChristmasIssue what type of dog is it ?
I get the impression they said yes thinking it was a ahirzu or maeltese and how now found out it's a Rottweiler ??

Unless your calm, small, well behaved dog is actually a Cane Corso crossed with a Rottweiler I find their behaviour truly weird. If OP is staying home because she has a dog, would anyone genuinely think said dog should be in kennels?!?

Stick to your guns OP, tell them DDog is terribly disappointed they won’t be there but that he’ll try and get over it in time for Christmas. Well done for keeping things polite. Maybe send a photo of DDog in a Christmas outfit along with your text.

YANBU.

Everyone knew well in advance your dog would be there. It’s yours and your dog’s home, so up to you where your dog goes in your own space. You’ve been considerate suggesting your dog could spend time in another room (could be good when everyone is eating), but for guests to demand your dog be shut in the cold or shipped off elsewhere is very unreasonable of them.

I’m not a fan of people taking their dogs to other people’s homes and won’t have dogs come with visitors to my home, but when I am a guest I would never make demands about other people’s pets. That’s their home so up to them!

Crikey. Your kids are going to have a very narrow life. Are they able to walk past a dog in the street?

Yes you've been fair. Your relatives are entitled and displaying bullying behaviour. Enjoy your Christmas with your own family and dog.

Steady on @Terrifictiger, you’re liable to pull a muscle reaching like that.

The dog lives in your home, they don’t. You are most definitely not being unreasonable, and I completely agree with your hubby and kids, don’t invite them again!

Disagree entirely. We had a dog for most of our lives, as did my parents. No one has ever chose not to visit because we had a dog. Anyone who was due to visit would be made aware we had a large friendly dog. No one ever changed their mind. I would just make sure the dog stayed away from them if they were not dog fans. It’s really not an issue unless someone is dog phobic. And at that point we would socialise elsewhere. I would never remove my dog from his home and into kennels to keep a relative happy.

I'm not a dog lover, your relatives are absolutely taking the piss and the only big mistake you're making is being so polite to people who are trying to walk all over you.

Assuming they aren't your parents and it's just a couple of random cousins I'd honestly tell them all to fuck off and hope they're offended enough to stay away permanently. Job done ✔️

Screenshot your original message sent back in September and resend a picture on the group (or to the individuals chasing a problem) to remind them that tkt were clear from the beginning!

I would screenshot your original message with the time and date stamp @ChristmasIssue .

Point out that you are confused how this issue has come up, as you were clear that your reason for having Christmas at home was due to making the decision that you did not want to put the dog in kennels.