Loud Ipads/ phones being used to entertain children in restaurants

I think it only took one time for my five to get the message.

It's not unreasonable to expect parents to actually parent their children, no. "You want to shout and scream? Great, we'll go straight home and you can do it there. Your day/meal out is over".

I made it absolutely clear to my kids, all eight of them, that inconveniencing other people was not acceptable. I never even had to raise my voice. We have left theme parks, pantos, got off buses and walked. Didn't take any of them long to get the message.

I think you've missed the part where they take their child outside when they start kicking off?

For being pissed off for someone trying to dictate how my disabled son can access something as simple as a restaurant?
Guess we should go back to the good old days of keeping the disabled locked away where they don’t inconvenience anyone 🙄

You are such a peach, aren't you?

Sounds like better parenting is needed so the child isn’t dictating the rules.

If the kid screams - you take them outside. They’ll soon learn. The issue is parents don’t want to be inconvenienced.

Ah! Not heard the old “if Peter says to put your hand in the oven…” saying?

Oh do fuck off with your embarrassment!
As I stated previously, he also uses AAC software on his iPad, as in necessary for his communication needs. And with which he can ask to go to Pizza Express. Where he’ll sit nicely with his iPad, eat his pizza and dough balls, and then we’ll go home.

It is out peoples business when they can hear it. There is no need to have tablets with out headphones. It’s just rude

Sadly I think this kind of selfish behaviour is here to stay. You hear it more and more in public places and I'm reading more people on here thinking it's acceptable to not have headphones on. To begin with I just thought it was people saying fuck you to everyone else but turns out those people actually believe they're considerate members of society. Boggles the mind really.

Why don’t you do that then instead of disturbing other diners with your iPad? I’m so embarrassed for you!

You really think I’ve never had to take him outside/go for a walk/leave early/abandon entirely before? 😂

If you go to a typical French restaurant (the kind you find on the town square), French children can sit perfectly politely for a 2 hour meal. They engage in conversations with each other and the adults. They don't need diversions. Why are British children so different?

Your autistic child really isn’t allowed in a restaurant while they cannot be quiet. Just like I only take my autistic child to restaurants when I think they’re in the mood to be able to sit quietly, and remove them if they start kicking off. That’s what’s known as being a consciencous member of society. And yes it’s stressful to spend the whole time worrying if you might have to leave early, but that’s the chance you take in eating out with a ND child.

Wow. Are you actually serious? Why does the other family get to dictate that OP has to eat her meal, which she's paying for, to the backdrop of their excessive noise? So insanely entitled, I cannot actually get my head round it.

If your child can't eat without a bloody noisy screen, you don't get to bring them to restaurants.

What you can’t see is that you aren’t nice, you aren’t compassionate, and you certainly aren’t considerate when you impose on others like this. And you aren’t doing your children any favours as others will regard them in the same way - selfish and inconsiderate.

Because crappy lazy parenting affects everyone.

twatty adults don’t suddenly wake up age 25 and start shouting at flight attendants, being rude to dr receptionists, demanding upgrades, exam extensions and any number of unreasonable accommodations.

children with “short attention spans” become impatient, demanding and disruptive school goers then rude obnoxious young adults. Their learned behaviour impacts everyone around them.

there is absolutely zero reason to go out to dinner with DC who are too young to sit still and engage in conversation or quiet activities. If they become distressed for 90 minutes without an iPad, do somthing with them that they might enjoy. It’s hardly rocket science.

If they could hear the volume on the lowest setting in a former pub with wooden floorboards, no tablecloths, every table full, and a party of pissheads screaming, I would be fucking astounded. If I thought at any point he was disturbing someone, I would sort it. As it was, the table next to us had two kids shouting and practically crawling on the table.

Believe me, the audio from an iPad, when on can be heard.

It is not directional audio is it? No, an iPad has sound that spreads out evenly in all directions, so it can be heard equally well from any angle around the source.

Unless you go around asking people if they can hear it? But I’m guessing you don’t bother doing that? As long as you and your child are ok Jack?

Yes it's odd that people don't see how insensitive it is having their choice of entertainment audible for others to accept, especially in a hospital where people are already unwell and uncomfortable. Perhaps we should start scooting over to them and looking at their screens - if we're going to listen to your/your child's videos, we may as well watch them together. See how intrusive and inconvenient that is?!

If you read my post, you’ll see I make sure my son’s iPad volume is kept to the minimum. I guarantee you the people at the next table could not hear it. What the whole restaurant could hear however, was a party of adults who were extremely drunk and shouting. What gave them the right to disturb others?

If the only choices when you take your child to a restaurant is an ipad with sound on or the child screaming then I would suggest you take a third choice, not taking them there in the first place, because they clearly aren't enjoying it and it's unfair on the other diners.

I dont mind the sounds of families talking :)

Precisely this. I find lots of noise overstimulating, (probably ND, but undiagnosed) especially people who have had to much to drink and are screeching and shouting, but they are entitled to be in a restaurant, as is my autistic child. It is a public space. I am always hyper vigilant about how my son behaves when we are out, if it looks like he is disturbing someone, we take steps to correct that.

Maybe you shouldn’t go to family restaurants if you have to inflict the audio from an iPad on others? What makes your need for a meal out trump other people’s?