Ski trip cost- are we subsidizing “host “ family

Not enough information here.
The share of the accommodation should be 500. The ski pass is 300. That's 800.
6100/1640 is not 5, so that suggests they might have divided the accommodation by 4 (the children going who are not members of the host family). That would be 1000 each plus ski pass 300 and then 340 for other expenses such as food or other non-skiing activities such as swimming or ice skating or something.

Who is paying for the ski hire, if your children don't have their own skis? Is there a rental car? (The costs of the rental car and fuel should be shared too). 3 meals a day for a week plus snacks and drinks can get expensive quickly, even if they are eating in all the time.

I think 1640 is too much. The accommodation should be split 8 ways. 500 each. But 800 would not be enough because of the extra expenses.

I’m guessing they’ve counted their entire family as one person?

How is charging the other families double the cost ok because the parents are supervising and it wont be much of a holiday for them. Dont offer to take 4 other kids then Your post is utter nonsense. You charge the correct cost or dont offer.

The message at the bottom of this post is perfect. Skiing is crazy expensive and presumably this is including some of the many added extras (equipment hire/transfers/lessons/food and drinks on the slope/meals at the chalet). In your position I wouldn’t want to come across as being arsey or suspicious and spoiling the relationship. Asking what is included to allow you to budget for anything additional very reasonable. If it turns out that they do seem to be expecting you to pay for an unreasonable portion of the accommodation I guess you can politely challenge it.

If this doesn’t include food etc I’d be prepared to pay A LOT more, especially if they are the type of family that stop at mountain huts during the day/go out at night. A simple lunch at a mountain hut is v pricey!

The original post only mentions accommodation and ski passes being paid for and says “travel costs and other costs are covered individually”.

Travel costs and other costs are covered individually.

Until you come back and clarify what these other costs are, nobody can help you here.

Who is paying for transfers, equipment hire, ski lessons, food, etc.?

Some posters who replied seem to live on a different planet.

Surely if you’re only paying for accommodation and ski pass (and paying for own flights, equipment etc) then it should be £800?

1/8 share of accommodation(£4k divided by 8) = £500 plus £300 ski pass.

Seems like you’re paying way over the actual share of costs and Yanbu to query it- I wouldn’t pay until they can explain it fully in a way that makes sense.

If you invite your kids friends on holiday I don’t think I’d be charging them for the accommodation. You are basically getting free entertainment for your own children who otherwise wouldn’t want to go with you! ( Teens!)

In this scenario it’s obviously an expensive trip so paying for passes/ hire etc seems fair. I would just ask for more of a breakdown as it’s a bit more expensive than expected and you want to make sure your child has enough spending money.

That said does sound like they are taking the piss and you’re subsiding a trip they were already going on!

Your maths isn’t mathing there

also need mores information!

I would be thrilled if one of my children was invited on a ski holiday with another family 🙂

I'm guessing your child is an experienced skier as having 6 beginner / not confident / bravado laden teens would be too much for 1 adult to 'supervise' outside of lessons....

So this means you know how much this should cost. I'm guessing you are shocked at £2k price tag (when adding flights) as your family trip isn't that much. The accommodation and transfers for a large group are higher than a family of say 4. The family probably also don't want to be massively out of pocket and fuss around with 'you owe £6 for a hot chocolate '.

Ask them. I doubt they would be doing it for a profit or as a way of subsidising their own trip. You could couch it like:

'thanks for the this .. what does that include? Wondering how you were thinking of doing food etc evening meals for 8 will be something else- might get xXX to practise cooking for all of us one night in preparation 😁. Oh and transfers and ski hire? Please let me know how that works or if there is something I can look into. I really appreciate you taking them. Want to make sure you aren't out of pocket so keen to understand what is / isn't in the amount. '

Or you could just stop here, so it sounds less accusatory.

"Hi, can you send me a breakdown of the cost please?"

Actually I think a ski holiday is possibly less stressful than a beach holiday.
Beach holiday you always have a risk of kids going out too far, Loosing sight of heads in water.
There is always the risk of burning, missing bits with sunscreen.

Skiing there is more risk of injury but not death / drowning.

Depending on the resort, £4k for accommodation for eight people in - I’m assuming - school holidays sounds very good value. Are you sure you’re not underestimating what your share of that would be for a start?

I agree with pp that this struck me as pretty vile. Either you want to take them up on their offer and can afford it or you don’t/can’t. They don’t need to take your child and your child doesn’t have to go. If there is that level of distrust, they probably shouldn’t.

That said, I think it’s reasonable to clarify whether you should be budgeting extra for flights/transfers/food/ski hire etc and what spending money they recommend. If there is a significant extra cost for these and you don’t want to or can’t pay, then politely decline.

I find it vile. If a friend cast aspersions on my character like that, they wouldn’t be a friend any longer, and I certainly wouldn’t be taking their child on a wonderful ski trip.

I think we, and the OP, need a lot more information before we can comment sensibly

Vile? Not really.

Same has happened with us.
Our daughter went on holiday with her friend to their villa, we paid flights and they covered her food while there (didn't eat out every day and most lunches was a roll etc).
Instead of taking her friend away she always comes out on big days out with us, which her parents dont do. We cover all costs for theme park tickets, food, drink for the day and we do things like this multiple times a year so it works out.

Hi, I make that £500 for accommodation plus lift pass totals £800.

Send that. Are they adding lessons, ski hire? That could be another few hundred pounds. Food package at the accommodation? Is it a chalet or self catering?

4k / 8 = £500 + £300 = £800.

A few quid more for transfers etc and I would expect to send my own child with money for their food.

Although I do think if someone offers to take your child away then they should cover some of the costs such as lunch, drinks etc.
I personally wouldn't invite someone else's child away with us if I wasn't prepared to cover things like food for them when away.

Their proposed cost makes little sense. The only thing I can think of re where the 5 might have come from is 5 households contributing ie theirs + the parents of the other 4 kids going. But this would be unfair as they are a family 4 who will be on the trip. Maybe there is something else to their reasoning, I don’t think it is unreasonable to ask so you can understand as if it includes things not obvious it would impact whatever else you might give your child to take. Maybe you could frame it like that? X

Was there no discussion of costs before this? It seems odd to go from “Would Johnny like to join us?” to “Here’s your bill” without discussion in between.

What sort of accommodation is it? Is it a chalet or hotel on half board or what?

As pp have said there are lots of extra costs associated with a skiing trip. Lunch on the slopes is a big one not to mention après ski drinks and entertainment. How are they going to calculate that?
It will be very expensive for the host family to pay for everything but a bit toe curling if they do the maths and demand contribution at each meal.

FWIW DD’s best friend’s parents invited her to go to the Seychelles with them for New Year a couple of years ago. They only asked for money for her flight. I sent DD with extra money and told her to pay for some meals but the hotel was all inclusive so she didn’t pay for any extras. Obviously I sent a big present. Friend has been on holiday with us…to Cornwall 😅 every year for about the last five years. Obviously I wouldn’t dream of asking for a contribution to cottage rental and I pay for all meals out and any other expenses eg tickets to Minack open air theatre. Now they drive they take themselves out sometimes or buy some extra wine. We’d probably eat out less if there were four extra hungry teens to pay for.

What about gear hire, ski school?, food (whilst travelling and in resort), hot chocolates on the slopes etc?
The tone of your post is vile. You’re accusing people/friends(?) of, basically, fraud, when they are offering to take your child on holiday and supervise them in a high risk sport.

I would check that else they included. Probably ski hire and food?