To think we should have the option to have the laughing emoji on our threads

Absolutely agree, nothing worse than threads filling up people quoting a post over and over with lol or 🤣 emojis when an emoji on the post does the job so much better. It puts people off responding and means those that did post something humorous and don’t get a response don’t know if it fell flat and are discouraged from posting something funny again. It’s like it’s forbidden to have a laugh on here which we all need sometimes.

You have proven my point, you comment is only clearly and manufactured in your own mind. If I have something specific to say I will say it.

Yes, I didn't think you meant that others on the thread couldn't use them towards other posters.

You just choose the reactions you want people to be able to use towards you personally.

When others can see that women or indeed men are being nasty twats on here, we can get involved and support the poster based upon the entire dynamic we are viewing as threads develop.

When we can't see the laugh emojis being used, especially when sent to vulnerable posters talking about being raped, we can't then advocate for the particularly vulnerable in the thread and challenge those arse wipes sending laugh emojis very cruelly.behind the scenes knowing they aren't exposed

There is a sense of feeling absolutely soul destroyed I imagine getting that when you are on your knees already.

So when it's out there and others see it, decent people with a spine will absolutely challenge it. Sometimes people send laughs because they are immature and can't articulate well in debate. Even that is grating. I can articulate/ debate with the best if I have to and it really was putting me off to be honest.

Making them public seems a great idea to tick all boxes. No one is going to be such a bitch to send a laugh emoji to a vulnerable poster talking about abuse, bullying, rape if they know others will see and challenge them. Those using it passive aggressively because they lack intellect to articulate and debate publicly will also think twice. That is not a bad thing. It is not quite censorship as you are insinuating. I am a free speech advocate. I would like to engage in debate with alternative views and people who think differently. When people who lack intellect and flexibility to debate publicly rely upon low level childlike behaviors ( laugh emojis) then we are eroding the chance to engage in debates publicly, challenge our thinking and expand worldview. MN has actually been great in helping me challenge my views myself.

If people are too reliant on sending laugh emojis to undermine your point rather than constructively debate then it's just lowering the intellectual tone to be honest.

I wonder if HQ could make it possible so we could all just go to account settings > Select reactions > Toggle on/off individual reactions.

So right now each poster has 4 reaction buttons but they'd be able to deselect the ones they don't want people to use.

ETA: Just to make it clear I mean we could choose for our own accounts, not other peoples.

If that to you feels like that person has ownership of the thread I honestly don't know what to say to that

I said there WASN'T ownership of the threads.

Sometimes I wish I could vote on someone's post on AIBU but they have the polls turned off. It's the exact same.

When someone does or doesn't put an AIBU poll on their thread, that only ever affects the OP of a thread. You were talking about having the laughing reaction (either on or off) for the entire thread, for everyone that posts on it.

Yes to making them public, otherwise no, I had a poster who put laughing faces when I spoke of my dad’s death or ds’ mh. It was horrible

Honestly people like you are the problem.

because some people uses it in a naughty way !!

Are you seriously trying to minimise other posters’ experiences? ‘in a naughty way’ does not cover posters mocking those who have suffered bereavement or rape or murder? You need to seriously have a long, hard look at yourself, if so

Absotutly we should just be allowed it anyway
I'm surprised the mail hasnt picked up that grown women have been banned from using the laughing emoji because some people uses it in a naughty way !!

And yet you can start a thread about a lack of apples in a supermarket and the vipers take over and suddenly turn that into some form of attack !
And that's allowed...because ...

In some posts (and your OP) you're talking about the option to switch it on being applied to an entire thread - which means every individual poster on that thread would have to adhere to the OP's choice of having it on or off.

In later posts you talk about the option being applied to each post by each individual poster. I'm slightly lost as to which it is you mean, but if it's the first one then only people who want their posts laughed at would post on that thread.

Agree. With public posts / pile ons, there is usually a point where people with sense and inclination to support a vulnerable poster join in and challenge inappropriate nasty behavior they see in the thread.

We can't see when tits are sending people laughing Emojis when those recipients are desperately vulnerable and writing a serious comment for example. Often there are no lol's here.

I love the idea of being able to see who and what has been applied emoji wise. Then we can spot the bell ends and I personally like to support vulnerable posters when I spot them. I also like to laugh at well deserved comical posts. If they're so funny though I usually quote and post a laugh emoji.

The problem is, is like happened to me posting on someone else's thread. I talk about the rape and murder of my close family member and 3 people laughed at my post. I have never forgotten the hurt of feeling that.

I found it odd that MN removed it in the first place because it offended some posters. Honestly, if an emoji affects some people so much they really should step back from the internet. It makes me wonder how people navigate normal daily life tbh.

Then @Novostella you seriously need to have a look at yourself. It wasn’t just about offending people. Some posters had the laughing reaction posted when they had been talking about serious illnesses and death, or miscarriages. Do we really want to be a place where posters are allowed to mock such situations?

It’s not at all about navigating normal life.

We can agree to disagree. I still think it’s ridiculous it was removed because some people thought it was bullying. It’s a little smiley face for goodness sake, as I said some people should avoid the internet if their offended by a laughing face.

So in effect you don't give a damn about other people so long as you get what you want?

But in your OP you said an option for the thread-starter. No-one else posting in the thread would have the option.

It's ok if you don't understand! It's why I suggested you read about it rather than asking people to comment.

I like this.

It was annoying when some dick would add a laugh emoji to the most serious of comments/ threads. I saw this alot and although I'm a huge free speech/free debate person, using this when you have a really vulnerable poster desperate for support is low level twat behavior. Therefore, yes to the opportunity to see who has emoji'd!

See, I have the opposite view! That everyone getting upset because out of the myriad ways to express that you found a post funny, they can't have a little smiley picture in the specific way they want (can still "heart" it, post any emoji you like, any gif, any picture, use words)... is just bizarre!

Literally no-one was asking for a laugh reaction beforehand and now you'd think MN had removed a human right or something.

Ok yes that makes sense.

I object though to “laughing at” as the intent was clear. I’m not particularly sensitive but it felt unpleasant to be on the receiving end.