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To be annoyed DH is tracking his sister's pregnancy

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lizzidripping · 04/12/2025 17:52

I am due to give birth in January. DH keeps forgetting the due date and doesn't know what week of the pregnancy I'm on.

His sister is due to give birth a few months later and he's put a weekly event in mine and his shared calendar.

This is our second pregnancy but does it mean you should be this level of checked out
.. I can guarantee you he doesn't even know what day of the week ours even falls on to put this pregnancy in a calendar.

When I was pregnant with our first his sister barely paid any attention and I think visited DD maybe 3 times ever since she's been born (she is now nearly 3).

Relevant backstory - when we dated and got married DH'a sister was always a bit rude and difficult with me. Examples include letting herself in to our home with a spare key she had and refusing to give it back, stripping down to her underwear in front of people at our wedding (she wasn't drunk), inviting herself over and then not showing up without saying anything, crying at family events that she pressured DH and I to host (ie. in our home) and making a scene in general. For the record, I am always polite and kind and don't rise to the drama.

AIBU to feel annoyed DH is putting this much importance on his sister's pregnancy?8

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OrangeSequin · 04/12/2025 17:56

Youdontseehow · 04/12/2025 17:56

YANBU - that’s weird AF. Reminds me of an episode of Friends.

Edited

Omg yes! Was it Danny and his sister who said she was a tickle monster and ran him baths 😂

Wellstonethecrows · 04/12/2025 17:56

How did your H react to the behaviour of his sister that you describe?

Tbh she sounds jealous of you and their relationship doesn't sound a healthy one.

CandyCaneKisses · 04/12/2025 17:56

I would question if he is genuinely interested or is he doing it to make you feel bad in ‘look at how much I care about my sister and not you’ sort of underhand way.

Chillymornings56 · 04/12/2025 17:56

She sounds like a lunatic and their relationship sounds weird 🤷‍♀️

Youdontseehow · 04/12/2025 17:56

YANBU - that’s weird AF. Reminds me of an episode of Friends.

OrangeSequin · 04/12/2025 17:56

Erm sorry - letting herself in your house with a spare key?! Please say you’ve removed the key from her?

She sounds like an attention seeker and clearly it’s working, I understand family and all of that but my DH’s sister is currently pregnant - I’m not but I would find it weird even now if he was tracking it. It’s all well and good to be excited and happy of course but…

The fact he doesn’t know your due date would speak volumes to me, I don’t care if it’s your 7th child - yours AND his pregnancy should be a priority. Plus it doesn’t help with our pregnancy hormones!

Have you spoken to him about it?

Owlmoonstar · 04/12/2025 17:55

Weird. Sounds like she's a massive attention seeker and he feeds into it.

whitewinefriday · 04/12/2025 17:54

shellyleppard · 04/12/2025 17:53

Your dh does sound overinvested in his sister's pregnancy....

Yes, this would really annoy me

shellyleppard · 04/12/2025 17:53

Your dh does sound overinvested in his sister's pregnancy....

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