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Doctor lying on report..

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Anon662120622 · 04/12/2025 13:27

So I've sent a very blunt email with threats to report to the ombudsman and GMC after appointment with specialist.. Long story short - Shoulder trauma injury, felt shoulder pop out and tear. Still no improvement after 21 weeks, unable to lift arm out any further than 30 degrees. Extreme impact on quality of life

I've been to multiple appointments and four physio sessions (referred by doctor.) Last one was extremely dismissive and actually lied in the report. Physio wrote a letter suggesting he thought I had a paralysed muscle, muscle wastage and nerve damage. Doctor completely wrote that of as he "doesn't trust that physio" because he doesn't specialise in my kind of injury... Why send me there and waste two whole months then?! He told me I was holding my arm down.. it's completely deformed, as mentioned above, I felt it like pop out and it was instantly lower.

He lied on the report saying
*I could touch my thumb to my lower lumbar spine which was an outright lie. I can't get my arm to rotate backwards at all.
*He noted there was no muscle wastage - my shoulder is pretty much skin and bones, there has definitely been a massive amount of wastage.

  • noted no weakness of rotator cuff. I'd say not being able to lift my arm out any further than 30 degrees indicates a significant amount of weakness?

I've written a complaint email to the pals team noting that I'm going to complain to the ombudsman and GMC and will even go down the legal route if a delayed diagnosis leads to further problems/permanent paralysis.

I asked for a second opinion and they've just booked me back in to see the same doctor.. fastest response and appointment offer I've ever recieved I might add.

Am I being unreasonable to ask again for a second opinion from a different doctor?
I'm still going to attend the one with the same doctor and have said I'm requesting to be able to audio record this next appointment so any discrepancies can be properly noted with no denial. I'm also requesting for the report to be changed.

I believe the reason he said all of the lies as mentioned would be to downplay my injury to avoid having to take the reasonable steps to treat me properly? He referred me to a rehab saying they'd give me a diagnosis on my first appointment and he'd trust everything they say. They phoned to book my appointment and told me that the doctors massively lie and act like they're some kind of miracle workers. They said they're essentially just another physio and they wouldn't be able to give me a diagnosis.)

I've honestly just had enough, I'm going to have to pay to go private.. maybe our NI and Tax should be a thing of the past, or massively dropped as we obviously aren't recieving what it's all advertised to be. 🙄

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Anon662120622 · 04/12/2025 13:58

@hedgehoggle my husband attends with be and was just as angry as I was..

I've researched private and the closest one to me has the doctor I've been seeing in the NHS as their main specialist. 🙄 will be looking further afield to find someone different.

I'm honestly not an angry or aggressive person, I've been fed up for the last 21 weeks and to read the last report with the lies has just sent me past tipping point. X

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JC19827 · 04/12/2025 13:56

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Anon662120622 · 04/12/2025 13:52

@Dontyoulooktired that's exactly what my physio thought they would offer. Would you mind me asking what the condition was?

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cantkeepawayforever · 04/12/2025 13:51

If I have understood correctly, the ‘your doctor has mis-described what we deliver here; we’re basically physio’ was from a rehab unit.

A specialist unit being blunt about what their limits are and how the referring doctor may have over-promised or misunderstood the capabilities and remit of the unit is, tbh, an entirely believable scenario. Such units may well have an overwhelming number of referrals, including many by doctors who may not have a detailed experience of their services. Gatekeeping inappropriate referrals and being clear to patients about what can actually be provided then becomes a necessary part of the specialist unit’s role.

hedgehoggle · 04/12/2025 13:50

Can you take someone with you to the appointment as a witness?

Can you go private for a diagnostic, then return the NHS with the evidence of the problem?

Also do those saying OP sounds like hard work... Bloody good for her! The squeaky wheel gets the oil, especially when it comes to the NHS

Anon662120622 · 04/12/2025 13:50

@LetMeGoogleThat I want my medical records to be corrected so that I'm not given incorrect treatment by the next medical profession thinking I can do things that I can't. Put yourself in my shoes for a moment and think about how you'd feel being in my position for 21 weeks.

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Anon662120622 · 04/12/2025 13:48

@JC19827 I want some kind of relevant diagnostic testing of my nerves or something similar that could pinpoint the problem so It can be targeted and treated for what it actually is.

I had a nerve conduction study that pinpointed my issue.

Anon662120622 · 04/12/2025 13:48

@JC19827 I want some kind of relevant diagnostic testing of my nerves or something similar that could pinpoint the problem so It can be targeted and treated for what it actually is.

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LetMeGoogleThat · 04/12/2025 13:46

You go back to your GP and ask for a referral to a different specialist. But tbh it sounds like all your anger is being directed into some kind of vendetta against a specific Dr. Do you want a resolution and better treatment? If you do then you are going completely the wrong way about it. If you start attacking the NHS, you'll be responsible for placing them in a defensive position. Yes, Dr's do sometimes get it wrong, but answer is general to find another one and stop wasting all your energy in scoring points, as you will end up still in pain and with a damaged arm.

Anon662120622 · 04/12/2025 13:46

@JC19827 They said they had lied, yes.
I was told I'd get a diagnosis at my first appointment at the rehab which is a lie.

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purplecorkheart · 04/12/2025 13:46

I would wonder if the Doctor is actually mixing you up with another client. I can not see how is would benefit the Doctor to lie in this situation. I would see him again and I would also seek an second opinion.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 04/12/2025 13:45

I had this injury. I couldn’t lift my arm or put it behind my back or over my head.

It was eventually diagnosed as a neck nerve issue. I had some physio which really helped ( he was a specialist nerve physio-through the nhs😲). He said it would go away eventually. And it would take about 2 years.

It did go away, then the other side went.

DoNotDisturb67 · 04/12/2025 13:45

Can you go private for second opinion?? If you current GP is not meeting your needs and it takes ages via NHS to get anything sorted, given that you’re in pain and need resolution asap, private might me the way 🤷🏼‍♀️

JC19827 · 04/12/2025 13:45

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Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 13:44

OP I’ve just realised your Op is actually “aibu to ask for a second opinion”- this isn’t a big deal at all, totally common place and no drama. Obviously if it’s a specialist it might be tricky to arrange but if it’s a GP it’s BAU.

Dontyoulooktired · 04/12/2025 13:44

Have you had a nerve conduction study? (also checks for muscle wastage).

Who is the specialist? Are you under pain management who can refer for nerve testing etc?

Anon662120622 · 04/12/2025 13:44

@shoeshone he is an orthopedic consultant

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NeedyLemonCat · 04/12/2025 13:43

Have you actually seen a shoulder surgeon or not?

You sound hard work. Good luck with that GMC referral and recording appointments 😂

JC19827 · 04/12/2025 13:42

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Shoeshone · 04/12/2025 13:42

What kind of dr is this? Have you seen an orthopaedic consultant yet?

Anon662120622 · 04/12/2025 13:42

@JC19827 Yes, showed tendinopathy, burstitis and thinning of the subscapularis

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Anon662120622 · 04/12/2025 13:41

I'm not going to lie about what the rehab lady said.. also not going to argue with anyone on here saying otherwise. They lied to me about what the rehab would be able to do, she reiterated that to me.

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Anon662120622 · 04/12/2025 13:39

@wordywitch I want to hold him accountable for his blatant lies and I'm also requesting that he changes my medical record. I have already lodged the complaint, I'm in contact with the pals team

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JC19827 · 04/12/2025 13:38

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