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To think its scary how messed up and horrible some people are?

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girlfriend44 · 04/12/2025 12:34

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cj4q9pxyv7go.amp

Poor women having to deal with him.
Is there any point to his life.
Dosent seem like he wants to live himself?

A mugshot of Jonty Bravery, who is wearing a grey shirt. He is staring at the camera and has a beard and short, blonde hair.

Man who threw boy from Tate Modern assaulted Broadmoor nurses - BBC News

Jonty Bravery was given a life sentence for hurting the boy and is being held at Broadmoor Hospital.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cj4q9pxyv7go.amp

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RapunzelHadExtensions · 04/12/2025 17:09

I'm a police officer.
I remember a few weeks after my beautiful, kind and much loved 35 year old best friend died of a brain tumour I interviewed a completely unrepetent child sex offender. He had caused nothing but trauma, hurt and pain to all those around him for his whole life (also a convicted violent offender and multiple burglaries, one of a 87 year old woman). I cried in the toilets afterwards. There is no justice in this world that he continues to live and breathe and my beautiful friend doesn't.
But I don't believe in CP either. I just couldn't square the circle.

Morningsleepin · 04/12/2025 17:08

Well the death sentence wouldn't apply in his case, anyway. It would have applied to the Birmingham Six and the Guilford Four

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 17:07

Noforkforporridge · 04/12/2025 17:03

This thread is very strange given the one yesterday where euthanasia for those on disability benefits and not contributing to society was an idea that was floated under the guise of philosophical pondering ….

I don’t really get what people get out of eliminating the human condition. Euthanise all the patients in broadmoor. Why? To pretend they don’t exist? What a weird society and way to live your life.

Just eliminate anything dangerous but human and natural. what a weird way to live. Life is about learning about and dealing with all things, not controlling it by eliminating every thing you can’t understand.

eta- it’s like Victorian/ mediveal or something, some brutal, uneducated society that wasn’t curious about the brain or human behaviour so just clubbed everything they didn’t like to death.

Pavementworrier · 04/12/2025 17:06

I do think people who love in a utopia of every life is precious delusion are a big problem.

Noforkforporridge · 04/12/2025 17:03

Eaglesfortea · 04/12/2025 12:44

YANBU, I don’t see what point we’re making as a society by keeping people like this alive, costing us hundreds of thousands of pounds. The Southport killer too. They should be offered assisted suicide at least.

This thread is very strange given the one yesterday where euthanasia for those on disability benefits and not contributing to society was an idea that was floated under the guise of philosophical pondering ….

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 04/12/2025 17:02

dimple285 · 04/12/2025 16:42

The Telegraph said he put faeces in his mother's make up.

The problem we have is that there is no expert residential provision for autistic people at risk of developing a personality disorder (JB was diagnosed with conduct disorder which meant he was at risk of developing a personality disorder).

A lot of his behaviour was considered attention seeking due to his autism including saying he wanted to kill members of his family and not considered in light of his conduct disorder diagnosis.

He was passed around from provision to provision, often hours and hours away from his family. He threw the boy off the Tate because he wanted to be on tv to get the message across about how unsuitable his provision was.

He said he was going to the supermarket and was allowed out alone because his behaviour had supposedly improved so much despite there having been 8 assaults in the previous 2 and a half years.

We really need to look at how we provide for people with ASD that are at risk of developing personality disorders - what do we do with these people and why is there no provision for them?

Because the provision needed would be deemed unpalatable.

LakieLady · 04/12/2025 16:58

CheeseIsMyIdol · 04/12/2025 15:23

They raised him.

I think it’s time parents started being held accountable for outcomes.

That would lead to a lot of lengthy nature v nurture discussions.

NeedANapAgain · 04/12/2025 16:58

Pavementworrier · 04/12/2025 16:50

You will find more male prisoners are diagnosed with autism than psychopathy (by a country mile)

But violent offenders? 4.4% diagnosed autistic, between 25% - 40% diagnosed psychopathic. This is despite psychopaths making up only roughly 1% of the population.

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 16:58

FlyingApple · 04/12/2025 16:44

Not at all.

Then you need to lower your expectations. There is no other answer and your dissatisfaction doesn’t change that. No one is going to be able to help you get more satisfied!

Aparecium · 04/12/2025 16:57

dimple285 · 04/12/2025 16:51

Euthanasia isn't capital punishment though. Whether it's unethical to offer euthanasia to someone too damaged to ever be able to live and function in society is not a question with a black or white answer.

I think euthanasia should be far more readily available tbh, I don't understand why it's not. We all talk about body autonomy - how is being allowed to choose when you die any different? Obviously not for someone who's having a bad day but for a person with a violent incurable personality disorder that is never going to able to live anything approaching a normal life. I absolutely think euthanasia should be an option. Would you want to live with that?

Does he have the capacity to make such a choice?

Pavementworrier · 04/12/2025 16:55

dimple285 · 04/12/2025 16:55

Well you're wrong because the serious case review found that his diagnosis of conduct disorder (which often leads to a personality disorder) was the primary issue. Not sure why you think your opinion is more important than the facts.

Not sure why you care what my opinion is if it's so unimportant...

dimple285 · 04/12/2025 16:55

Pavementworrier · 04/12/2025 16:50

That's your opinion. Mine is that the autism is the primary problem. I appreciate this is upsetting to some people.

Well you're wrong because the serious case review found that his diagnosis of conduct disorder (which often leads to a personality disorder) was the primary issue. Not sure why you think your opinion is more important than the facts.

dimple285 · 04/12/2025 16:51

MotherWol · 04/12/2025 16:31

We don't have capital punishment in the UK, and it would be completely unethical, having abolished it, to give lifetime custodial sentences but then say to prisoners "if you don't like it, you can choose to end your life". That would just be passing responsibility for something the judicial system cannot bring itself to do.

Euthanasia isn't capital punishment though. Whether it's unethical to offer euthanasia to someone too damaged to ever be able to live and function in society is not a question with a black or white answer.

I think euthanasia should be far more readily available tbh, I don't understand why it's not. We all talk about body autonomy - how is being allowed to choose when you die any different? Obviously not for someone who's having a bad day but for a person with a violent incurable personality disorder that is never going to able to live anything approaching a normal life. I absolutely think euthanasia should be an option. Would you want to live with that?

Pavementworrier · 04/12/2025 16:50

You will find more male prisoners are diagnosed with autism than psychopathy (by a country mile)

Pavementworrier · 04/12/2025 16:50

Vinvertebrate · 04/12/2025 13:55

I don't disagree with your conclusion in the least, but I think you'll find it's the fact that JB is a psychopath, rather than the fact that he is also autistic, that is the reason for his appalling criminal actions.

Remarkably restrained of the BBC not to mention the ASC in its article tbf - possibly a first for them!

That's your opinion. Mine is that the autism is the primary problem. I appreciate this is upsetting to some people.

Boomer55 · 04/12/2025 16:49

Some people have always been unreasonable or just awful. It’s nothing new.

FlyingApple · 04/12/2025 16:44

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 16:43

”the British legal system” isn’t a satisfactory answer for you?!? 😭

Not at all.

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 16:43

FlyingApple · 04/12/2025 16:34

I don't understand why we allow him to carry on living and there's no satisfactory answer as to why.

”the British legal system” isn’t a satisfactory answer for you?!? 😭

Dollymylove · 04/12/2025 16:42

Female staff should not be forced to deal with him. I know some people get huffy when its pointed out, but females do not have the same strength and stamina as males. He needs big burly guards who take no shit.
Never mind his bloody yuman rites 😡😡

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 16:42

Youdontseehow · 04/12/2025 16:38

It was my understanding that he was out on his own at the time of the Tate incident. He had been “two to one” but was given more freedoms as he was deemed to be not a risk to others.

I think some people just cannot Bev”rehabilitated” or “cured” but some professionals just don’t want to believe that.

It’s well acknowledged that there is no rehabilitating him. I don’t think professionals shy away from that?

It’s very common for people to just need to aim to lead the best life they can but for that not to look anything like an average life.

dimple285 · 04/12/2025 16:42

The Telegraph said he put faeces in his mother's make up.

The problem we have is that there is no expert residential provision for autistic people at risk of developing a personality disorder (JB was diagnosed with conduct disorder which meant he was at risk of developing a personality disorder).

A lot of his behaviour was considered attention seeking due to his autism including saying he wanted to kill members of his family and not considered in light of his conduct disorder diagnosis.

He was passed around from provision to provision, often hours and hours away from his family. He threw the boy off the Tate because he wanted to be on tv to get the message across about how unsuitable his provision was.

He said he was going to the supermarket and was allowed out alone because his behaviour had supposedly improved so much despite there having been 8 assaults in the previous 2 and a half years.

We really need to look at how we provide for people with ASD that are at risk of developing personality disorders - what do we do with these people and why is there no provision for them?

Youdontseehow · 04/12/2025 16:38

HRTQueen · 04/12/2025 13:48

What are you suggesting we put down people who can't adjust to living in the community

He should not have been out with just two staff when the horrific incident took place in 2019 and taking him to a place where there will be a lot of people was poorly thought out

Edited

It was my understanding that he was out on his own at the time of the Tate incident. He had been “two to one” but was given more freedoms as he was deemed to be not a risk to others.

I think some people just cannot Bev”rehabilitated” or “cured” but some professionals just don’t want to believe that.

HectorPlasm · 04/12/2025 16:36

The twats who decided a nice day out at the Tate was a good idea should be in prison

FlyingApple · 04/12/2025 16:34

I don't understand why we allow him to carry on living and there's no satisfactory answer as to why.

MotherWol · 04/12/2025 16:31

OliviaBonas · 04/12/2025 13:12

This is what I think too. Tell them they’ll never be released and discuss possible options if they want to make a different choice to life imprisonment. He’s 24 and could live to 100 odd. 3 members of staff 24 hours a day for the next 80 years potentially seems an unfathomable amount of money.

We don't have capital punishment in the UK, and it would be completely unethical, having abolished it, to give lifetime custodial sentences but then say to prisoners "if you don't like it, you can choose to end your life". That would just be passing responsibility for something the judicial system cannot bring itself to do.