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To think its scary how messed up and horrible some people are?

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girlfriend44 · 04/12/2025 12:34

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cj4q9pxyv7go.amp

Poor women having to deal with him.
Is there any point to his life.
Dosent seem like he wants to live himself?

A mugshot of Jonty Bravery, who is wearing a grey shirt. He is staring at the camera and has a beard and short, blonde hair.

Man who threw boy from Tate Modern assaulted Broadmoor nurses - BBC News

Jonty Bravery was given a life sentence for hurting the boy and is being held at Broadmoor Hospital.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cj4q9pxyv7go.amp

OP posts:
ThisLittlePony · 04/12/2025 18:34

Pavementworrier · 04/12/2025 17:11

Because they are incurably dangerous and unbelievably expensive to keep alive. Bravery here had three people watching him at all times. Imagine your family members could get the same coverage in a&e.

Imagine any non criminals getting the same level of quick care and attention they’d get if people like Bravery need hospital care, sincerely doubt hed have to wait on and A&E trolley!

Youdontseehow · 04/12/2025 18:06

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 17:36

Yes of course it does- I’m not arguing with you.

How would they have identified he was incurable before he committed that act?! It’s not like it’s a diagnostic test. I’m not really sure what your point is.

is it that No violent ASD / conduct disorder teenager who lives in supported housing should be allowed out in case they are incurable and need to be in broadmoor forever?!

My point is that he was so bad he couldn’t be left unsupervised - he needed two people at all times. That is pretty serious. So how could they then think he was ok to be out unsupervised?

Notmollybutdolly · 04/12/2025 17:57

So if he’s trying to mill himself, does that mean that he realises the wrong in his actions?

oncemoreuntothebeachdearfriends · 04/12/2025 17:49

I don't agree with the death penalty, but if people like him want to commit suicide, they should not only be allowed to, but actually helped.

I read of prisoners being on "suicide watch" by the warders; just let them die.

Hortesne · 04/12/2025 17:48

To me it reads like a problem of non integration between adult/child services which in turn is perhaps exacerbated by the way that the psychiatric diagnostic system is set up. There were repeated attempts to find a suitable setting for him but there are no settings for "people who will likely be diagnosed with psychopathy at age 18". Prior to 18 he couldn't officially receive that diagnosis, so he couldn't access services for people with that diagnosis. This cutoff is problematic imo because for him and other older children who are some years post puberty it's not as though at age 17 and 354 days their behaviour is dramatically different from their behaviour at age 18 precisely, but social and psychiatric services are set up as though this is indeed the case.

Waitingfordoggo · 04/12/2025 17:40

I really feel for the nurses. I’m sure they are physically tough and have received lots of training but women being expected to restrain someone like this is madness. He looks to be a pretty big, strong man. He could kill a woman with his bare hands, surely?

ImThePr0blem · 04/12/2025 17:39

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 04/12/2025 12:47

He’s utter filth. I don’t know what the answer is. He shouldn’t be able to shirk out of his punishment, but it’s also heinous that the taxpayer has to pay to feed and house him for the rest of his life. Vile beast.

We should bring back death by firing squad, or hanging. I wouldn’t mind if my tax payments went towards that rather than keeping him in a cell for probably another 4 decades.

IThinkPink · 04/12/2025 17:38

Ritaskitchen · 04/12/2025 15:05

He is a very mentally unwell man. Female shouldn’t be expected to tackle a man like that. Instead large and strong male nurses.
I have the same opinion about women prisons officers - especially young naive ones.

Opinion based on experience?

FlyingApple · 04/12/2025 17:36

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 17:32

Weird post then?!

I disagree.

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 17:36

Youdontseehow · 04/12/2025 17:32

Oh come on now - he wasn’t two-to-one supervision for nothing! He was clearly a major risk but thought to be “getting better” as there was nothing recent. That smacks of a belief he was “curable”.

Yes of course it does- I’m not arguing with you.

How would they have identified he was incurable before he committed that act?! It’s not like it’s a diagnostic test. I’m not really sure what your point is.

is it that No violent ASD / conduct disorder teenager who lives in supported housing should be allowed out in case they are incurable and need to be in broadmoor forever?!

Asosbabe · 04/12/2025 17:34

Can't see the point of keeping him around if he wants to go anyway. Assisted suicide would be for the best, in my opinion.

Youdontseehow · 04/12/2025 17:32

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 17:28

Oh yes, but that was before his crime. Clearly he hadn’t been identified as incapable of rehabilitation or incurable before then- he is now though.

Oh come on now - he wasn’t two-to-one supervision for nothing! He was clearly a major risk but thought to be “getting better” as there was nothing recent. That smacks of a belief he was “curable”.

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 17:32

FlyingApple · 04/12/2025 17:30

No I don't have to lower them and I'm not asking anyone to help me get more satisfied because I know they can't.

Weird post then?!

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 17:32

IcyPuddles · 04/12/2025 17:29

I’m against capital punishment but it really does make you wonder what the point is really? What’s he contributing to humanity?

To be fair mental health professionals have probably learnt quite a lot from examining him. Changes were made following a SCR that members of the public and patients will presumably benefit from in future. He’s potentially forced systemic and medical / care changes that no nice law abiding person would’ve done.

FlyingApple · 04/12/2025 17:30

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 16:58

Then you need to lower your expectations. There is no other answer and your dissatisfaction doesn’t change that. No one is going to be able to help you get more satisfied!

No I don't have to lower them and I'm not asking anyone to help me get more satisfied because I know they can't.

IcyPuddles · 04/12/2025 17:29

I’m against capital punishment but it really does make you wonder what the point is really? What’s he contributing to humanity?

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 17:28

Youdontseehow · 04/12/2025 17:22

Hmmm I disagree. When the Tate attack happened, they were “stepping down” his level of supervision and he was allowed to go into London unaccompanied from a care setting where he was two-to-one supervision.

If that is not a sign that the professionals thought he was “getting better”, I don’t know what is.

Oh yes, but that was before his crime. Clearly he hadn’t been identified as incapable of rehabilitation or incurable before then- he is now though.

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 17:27

Pavementworrier · 04/12/2025 17:17

Yes you are socialised to say and believe that sadistic attempted child killers matter more than your own children. Well done on your independence of thought.

You have very little understanding of humans if you believe anyone would put an unknown attempted child killer before their own children. Is it a genuine condition you have or are you trying to be sarcastic?

hattie43 · 04/12/2025 17:25

He needs putting down he’s dangerous and always will be

Youdontseehow · 04/12/2025 17:22

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 16:42

It’s well acknowledged that there is no rehabilitating him. I don’t think professionals shy away from that?

It’s very common for people to just need to aim to lead the best life they can but for that not to look anything like an average life.

Hmmm I disagree. When the Tate attack happened, they were “stepping down” his level of supervision and he was allowed to go into London unaccompanied from a care setting where he was two-to-one supervision.

If that is not a sign that the professionals thought he was “getting better”, I don’t know what is.

Pavementworrier · 04/12/2025 17:17

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 17:16

I realise that not all the money can go on things that benefit me directly or the things I would like them to. That’s life.

its like the Jeremy clarkson article (oh he’s a cunt isn’t he) about all the money going to premature babies so they all live and no money goes to the arts. Society doesn’t work that simplistically.

Yes you are socialised to say and believe that sadistic attempted child killers matter more than your own children. Well done on your independence of thought.

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 17:16

Pavementworrier · 04/12/2025 17:11

Because they are incurably dangerous and unbelievably expensive to keep alive. Bravery here had three people watching him at all times. Imagine your family members could get the same coverage in a&e.

I realise that not all the money can go on things that benefit me directly or the things I would like them to. That’s life.

its like the Jeremy clarkson article (oh he’s a cunt isn’t he) about all the money going to premature babies so they all live and no money goes to the arts. Society doesn’t work that simplistically.

BillieWiper · 04/12/2025 17:15

Yeah that guy is a real menace. He's been horribly violent since early childhood. Had form for beating up his carers and his poor family couldn't live with him due to his issues. Then he threw that poor kid off the Tate.

If he were to try suicide I'd hope the wardens might just turn their backs.

Pavementworrier · 04/12/2025 17:14

RapunzelHadExtensions · 04/12/2025 17:09

I'm a police officer.
I remember a few weeks after my beautiful, kind and much loved 35 year old best friend died of a brain tumour I interviewed a completely unrepetent child sex offender. He had caused nothing but trauma, hurt and pain to all those around him for his whole life (also a convicted violent offender and multiple burglaries, one of a 87 year old woman). I cried in the toilets afterwards. There is no justice in this world that he continues to live and breathe and my beautiful friend doesn't.
But I don't believe in CP either. I just couldn't square the circle.

I do think at some point this delusions of luxury era will end ...and the performative insistence on keeping people like this ticking while good people are left to suffer and die will end with it.

But I have no confidence this will be in my lifetime.

Pavementworrier · 04/12/2025 17:11

Bambamhoohoo · 04/12/2025 17:07

I don’t really get what people get out of eliminating the human condition. Euthanise all the patients in broadmoor. Why? To pretend they don’t exist? What a weird society and way to live your life.

Just eliminate anything dangerous but human and natural. what a weird way to live. Life is about learning about and dealing with all things, not controlling it by eliminating every thing you can’t understand.

eta- it’s like Victorian/ mediveal or something, some brutal, uneducated society that wasn’t curious about the brain or human behaviour so just clubbed everything they didn’t like to death.

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Because they are incurably dangerous and unbelievably expensive to keep alive. Bravery here had three people watching him at all times. Imagine your family members could get the same coverage in a&e.

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