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To stop giving myself a hard time about the amount of TV my toddler is watching?

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wetwinter · 04/12/2025 12:26

Toddler (2 and a half) is watching too much TV. I know this.

She generally wakes at around 6, and I go downstairs with her so she doesn’t wake anyone else up. And the TV does go on then. It’s dark, cold, I’m tired and not up for much else.

Then I make breakfast and get everyone dressed and out on the school run for older sibling. We then generally do an activity in the morning; a playgroup or swimming. We do get outside if the weather is OK. Then home for lunch. It’s then things get a bit tricky. She has dropped her nap and attempts to encourage ‘quiet time’ haven’t been very successful; she just cries / gets upset in her cot. So she watched TV during and after lunch.

Then after I’ve picked her sister up from school they play for a bit but then at around 4, she’s getting very, very tired and her sister is also wanting to chill out and watch some TV, so on it goes again Hmm

I do feel guilty about it and worry a lot I’m impeding her development. It wasn’t too bad when she slept a bit later in the morning and was still napping; it was just a little bit in the morning and then evening. Now though it feels like it’s really creeping up but with the weather being wet and cold and dark early it’s hard finding motivation.

I know there are activities like reading, colouring which we do do but they don’t hold her attention for long at all.

I am wondering whether to just accept it’s winter; the screen time will go up and go down to sensible levels again as the weather improves or to make more of an effort!

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ItsDarkNow · 04/12/2025 12:50

How many hours a day is she watching?

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 04/12/2025 12:50

My kids is sick and sat watching paw patrol so i am not puritan but
it sound like 6 hours+ of tv per day...
Written down ypu must see 6-8hours is excessive and not "okay".

I have a 3 and 2 yr old
In the morning my 3 yr old is up at 6 (why?!) and she plays by herself and with my dh or a bedraggled semi conscious me.

We do none or 15 mins max before the day starts and maybe 15 /20 mins or none in the PM just so i can clean up and get stuff sorted.

Afternoons maybe 30 mins if i need break but thats 1-2 days max.

What you describe isnt right.
You will have to reset with her but kids are fairly compliant once a new routine is established.

My dd doesnt love drawing.
We do a lot of magnatiles, floor is lava, obstacle courses and "building towns" also colour sorting with those bowls with plastic bits and tongs. Also baking is a big hit

Lucy211 · 04/12/2025 12:46

Some ideas I have, since I’m also guilty of letting my nearly 2 year old watch too much TV!

  • could you go to bed earlier, so that at 6am you do feel like playing with her? That sounds like it could be lovely quality time, and I always find my DD is at her best in the morning. Or if your DC wake up in the night, can your DH do more so you feel more awake?
  • why not make colouring the quiet time activity? It doesn’t have to be in the cot, you can just read or colour or listen to music without the tv.
  • if you have the funds, why not invest in a tonie box or yoto player for screen free time? I also recommend the kiwi company toys
  • personally, I don’t like screens during meals - that’s an easy way to cut screen time.

But it is hard! You can only do your best, and winter will end eventually.

toomuchfaff · 04/12/2025 12:43

So she cries or gets irritated and you give in and put the TV on... you know what's wrong with this, what youre causing, why you're doing it.

Not going to join in on the inevitable pile on, but rather ask what can you do about it? Is there any more support you can tap into?

Sparklechoppy · 04/12/2025 12:40

I am quite relaxed about screen times and games etc. As long as they do well at school, do some hobbies, have some time outdoors, then I dont have a problem. My kids turned out fine 🙂

imisscashmere · 04/12/2025 12:39

Honestly… the reason you feel bad about it is because you know you’re putting it on to keep her quiet and have an easier life. And you know this is not optimal for her development.

It’s up to you whether you want to reduce the amount. It would be better for your daughter and a harder life for you… in the short term, at least.

MyOliveStork · 04/12/2025 12:29

Sorry but that is way too much screen time. You are making a rod for your own back by letting this happen. No TV or screens for toddlers, and TV for the two children only after school for an hour or so. They really don’t need it x