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OMG. I need to have a rant about teenagers at school

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blanketsnuggler · 04/12/2025 11:51

Currently on a break from teaching 1-2-1 music lessons.
OMG. Do I really have to spoon-feed them everything. They all seem to pretty bad today. Turning up late; saying they have no time to practice this week; mum didn't pack my music; when is the concert? (they've all had a letter containing all the info); What note does F Major scale start on (the clue is in the name..);And it's not even lunch time yet. ARRRRGGGGHHHHH.
thank you.

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MNLurker1345 · 04/12/2025 12:46

@DuchessofStaffordshire- Same with my DGD, school made it clear in year 7, that she had to stand on own two feet.

She has had a few detentions, for forgetting PE kit or for forgetting to do homework also. She finds the idea of detention mortifying. She cannot blame her parents for forgetting anything because it is her responsibility, she has a time table, a school laptop, and everything she needs is communicated to her.

Things have been chaotic from time to time, but it has been brilliant to see her growing into a responsible young person. She is in yr 10 now.

DuchessofStaffordshire · 04/12/2025 12:26

My husband and I decided to completely step back when DS13 started year 7 and actually his school (a grammar) recommended doing just that. A few months of the odd detention for missing PE kit, missed homework etc seemed to embed good organisational skills and had made him much more independent and responsible as a result.

HappyNewTaxYear · 04/12/2025 12:25

LighthouseLED · 04/12/2025 11:59

I’d be questioning how much they wanted to take lessons tbh.

Nothing you’ve said would have been an issue for teenagers when I was one back in the dark ages and I’m not convinced they’ve changed that much. Difference is we weren’t pushed by parents into doing extracurriculars we weren’t keen on.

Parents were ALWAYS pushing their children to do music lessons, what on earth are you talking about?

LighthouseLED · 04/12/2025 11:59

I’d be questioning how much they wanted to take lessons tbh.

Nothing you’ve said would have been an issue for teenagers when I was one back in the dark ages and I’m not convinced they’ve changed that much. Difference is we weren’t pushed by parents into doing extracurriculars we weren’t keen on.

HappyNewTaxYear · 04/12/2025 11:56

Their minds are on other things!

Buscobel · 04/12/2025 11:54

Learned helplessness.

Katemax82 · 04/12/2025 11:53

Sympathies. My daughter is very much like that

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