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To think it’s weird millions of people eat the same dishes on one day of the year?

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HelloCharming · 04/12/2025 07:30

I have Russian friends who visited one Christmas (when it was still easy for Russians to visit). When we asked them what they ate for Christmas they looked confused and said, we cook something we really like, usually a bit more expensive or luxurious than usual. They thought it was hilarious that practically a whole country cooked essentially the same dinner on one day of the year.

bit of a lightbulb moment for me. We are having beef this year, and will be having lamb the first year we aren’t hosting lamb dislikes (the rest of the family).

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Maybeishouldcrochet · 04/12/2025 12:42

We don't have turkey but choose two meats instead
Last year pork and lamb
And then lots of side dishes- again everyone chooses a favourite....
And then have a buffet of puddings everyone chooses a favourite
Yule brownie log
Banoffee cheesecake
Mince pies
Frangipane tart
And three or four traybakes like millionaires shortbread, rocky road, biscoff blondies and ice cream and sauces on offer

Millytante · 04/12/2025 12:30

Myoldbear · 04/12/2025 11:28

I think it's about relationship.

As we sit down to a meal knowing so many other households are eating the same thing, and have done on that particular day for years, can give a deep feeling of community across time and space.

Exactamente. You've put it neatly and completely. 🎄

Millytante · 04/12/2025 12:29

Millytante · 04/12/2025 11:53

It’s no more weird than a majority of us preferring a Christmas tree like this 🎄rather than 🌵
We’re a social, tribal species, so a shared, time-honoured experience of major festivals (even though nowadays we are in discrete family groups) is pretty much hardwired.

This festival, above all of them on these islands, has been among us too long not to have imprinted significant attachment to it in most people.
If Christmas is anything, it’s a traditional festive time, whether Christian (religious and/or cultural) or a pagan-adjacent Yuletide/Mid-Winter solstice observation.
Many have a blended kind of feeling in their bones about it all: culturally Christian with an old pagan mid-Winter appreciation alongside.
The trappings are similar, and the old-style roast beef was only replaced by birds owing to £sd.

Growing up in an Irish family, we always had a goose, maybe a capon (though the latter is probably as lorst and gorn as the pteradactyl these days).
Though I live alone now, I still find it extremely difficult not to cook myself some version of the traditional fare.
(I did try lamb once and maybe it was some odd coincidence on the day, but Christ it was miserable! I’m a good cook, but it just felt wrong)

I love and cherish the connection I feel with everyone out there enjoying a similar feast, and I know the days of this common approach to the great meal must be numbered, and all traditional menus will fade away.

I must sound like Little Miss Tragic, 1934. 🤣

That isn't to say anything is prescribed or in any other way an obligation, but it’s certainly not an apt description of the usual goings-on to refer to them as “weird’!

Oops….I thought had erased that final, short paragraph. Rather hectoring in tone (and not for the first time)
Apologies

Sartre · 04/12/2025 11:55

I mean, nothing is by force and I don’t think anywhere near every single family eats the classic Christmas dinner. We’ve never had turkey, we have a veggie alternative. My mum and her partner have had curry for the past few years, MIL does the same.

Millytante · 04/12/2025 11:53

HelloCharming · 04/12/2025 09:04

It is a bit weird though - especially when a lot of people don't like turkey but still seem to have it.

Some things are best kept for Christmas though - if mince pies were readily available all year round I'd be the size of a house.

One of our best Christmases, when we had a sudden influx of unexpected guests, was a BBQ. Went down very well - luckily nice enough weather for the cooking outside. No turkey.

It’s no more weird than a majority of us preferring a Christmas tree like this 🎄rather than 🌵
We’re a social, tribal species, so a shared, time-honoured experience of major festivals (even though nowadays we are in discrete family groups) is pretty much hardwired.

This festival, above all of them on these islands, has been among us too long not to have imprinted significant attachment to it in most people.
If Christmas is anything, it’s a traditional festive time, whether Christian (religious and/or cultural) or a pagan-adjacent Yuletide/Mid-Winter solstice observation.
Many have a blended kind of feeling in their bones about it all: culturally Christian with an old pagan mid-Winter appreciation alongside.
The trappings are similar, and the old-style roast beef was only replaced by birds owing to £sd.

Growing up in an Irish family, we always had a goose, maybe a capon (though the latter is probably as lorst and gorn as the pteradactyl these days).
Though I live alone now, I still find it extremely difficult not to cook myself some version of the traditional fare.
(I did try lamb once and maybe it was some odd coincidence on the day, but Christ it was miserable! I’m a good cook, but it just felt wrong)

I love and cherish the connection I feel with everyone out there enjoying a similar feast, and I know the days of this common approach to the great meal must be numbered, and all traditional menus will fade away.

I must sound like Little Miss Tragic, 1934. 🤣

That isn't to say anything is prescribed or in any other way an obligation, but it’s certainly not an apt description of the usual goings-on to refer to them as “weird’!

DialSquare · 04/12/2025 11:44

Another one that never has turkey. We usually have beef and cockerel with all the trimmings. House still smells like Christmas but the food is much more appealing.

Missey85 · 04/12/2025 11:39

I've never had turkey for Christmas I hate it! I cook what I like 😊 last year I had roast pork ❤️ it's also summer here in Australia so I eat a lot of cold food last thing I want is to boil to death with the oven on all day! 😕

PuppiesProzacProsecco · 04/12/2025 11:34

I mean, it's not as weird as putting a fake plastic tree in your lounge or half the other strange things we do at this time of year.

ComtesseDeSpair · 04/12/2025 11:30

HelloCharming · 04/12/2025 09:04

It is a bit weird though - especially when a lot of people don't like turkey but still seem to have it.

Some things are best kept for Christmas though - if mince pies were readily available all year round I'd be the size of a house.

One of our best Christmases, when we had a sudden influx of unexpected guests, was a BBQ. Went down very well - luckily nice enough weather for the cooking outside. No turkey.

Many people have turkey because they’re large birds, they host family and it’s usually a more affordable meat for feeding a dozen people Christmas lunch and cold cuts for the next couple of days than the same quantity of other meats, but you can have what you want. Loads of people have beef or lamb or something else instead.

Pretty much every country has “the” traditional dishes or meals for major holidays, albeit with different regional variations or accounting for preferences, Russians included, so I’m surprised your friends found it hilarious.

Myoldbear · 04/12/2025 11:28

I think it's about relationship.

As we sit down to a meal knowing so many other households are eating the same thing, and have done on that particular day for years, can give a deep feeling of community across time and space.

CatHairEveryWhereNow · 04/12/2025 11:26

According to Radio 4 yesterday on 52%of people have Turkey now. with chicken, beef and lamb roasts taking over.

I heard that as well - we've had all sorts of roasts over the years goose, duck, beef, pork, turducken not lamb that's more Easter meat for me - nor just chicken yet. So far it's always been a roast - more than a usual Sunday which till very recently was also always a roast dinner or a BBQ in summer.

Oddly IL are in camp of not liking turkey but being weird about having it - thought were talking chicken this year. They also not keen on christmas pudding but insist on having it.

Christmas pudding mince pies - Stollen since met DH are only eaten around christmas here - and brussel sprouts - grew up having them every Sunday but we tend to only get them chirstmas then do then with bacon and cream.

I think we were think pork - as we tend to do cold meals for a few days and cold pork, stuffing and apple sauce is very nice.

Boutonnière · 04/12/2025 11:24

I think it’s lovely that something, not the exact contents, but the fact of celebrating a meal with friends and family or welcoming organisations, all happens on the same day. Not much unifies us now so it’s charming to think others are doing the same . ( Save me your ‘ but we do it a different way ‘ stories - it’s a broad brush )

cardibach · 04/12/2025 11:23

silkysoft · 04/12/2025 08:48

Same here - last year we had home made pizza. It was wonderful. Much better than dry old turkey.

It was also lovely not having to join in the massive queues of people trying to grab sprouts and turkey at the supermarket 😃

Turkey isn’t dry if you do it right. I’ve never had a dry Turkey. I can’t imagine eating pizza on Christmas Day - the meal is the absolute focus and we spend hours at the table eating, drinking and talking. It would be really sad for it not to be something special - though obvs that doesn’t have to be Turkey.

cardibach · 04/12/2025 11:22

Katemax82 · 04/12/2025 07:42

Nothing weird at all! Even less weird a lot of people cook turkey despite not really liking it! Don't get me started on the fact I absolutely love stilton and pickled beetroot but it only makes an appearance at Christmas

Wait…what? I’m only supposed to have Stilton and beetroot when it’s Christmas? I have it all year round!

angelos02 · 04/12/2025 11:21

Each to their own. For family availability reasons we have 'Christmas dinner' on Boxing day and have whatever we fancy on Christmas Day.

Ddakji · 04/12/2025 11:21

Lots of cultures have traditional foods that most people eat on certain days.

We never had turkey, though, my mum didn’t like it.

CaptainMyCaptain · 04/12/2025 11:18

silkysoft · 04/12/2025 08:48

Same here - last year we had home made pizza. It was wonderful. Much better than dry old turkey.

It was also lovely not having to join in the massive queues of people trying to grab sprouts and turkey at the supermarket 😃

If your turkey is dry you're cooking it wrong.

sprigatito · 04/12/2025 11:11

RavenPie · 04/12/2025 08:32

I think it’s lovely. It’s a hand reaching back to your ancestors and a hand reaching forward to your descendants. I like the big cultural element - turkey at Christmas, lamb at Easter, whisky at new year etc but also the little family “we always have…” things. It centres you and brings you back. Novelty and change is necessary but rhythm and constancy are important too.

I agree with all of this. It’s grounding and brings joy.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 04/12/2025 11:02

SeaAndStars · 04/12/2025 09:49

We had lamb a few years ago and the problem we found is that it's not the best meat cold. The leftovers and cold cuts are a BIG thing in our house and we missed out that year. We wouldn't do it again but If you do perhaps have a chicken or gammon or something else too.

Cold pork is very nice, too - straight or in sandwiches - we had some the other day with homemade apple chutney.

Bagsintheboot · 04/12/2025 10:24

We don't always have turkey. We've been having goose more often recently. The only problem with goose is that there's not very much meat on them for the size of the bird, so if I was hosting a big party then I'd go for turkey for the volume.

I know you can have anything you want at Christmas, but for me a big part of the enjoyment is having certain things at that time of year that are special and that bring back memories. So I do often do the same things year on year that my parents and grandparents used to make.

SeaAndStars · 04/12/2025 09:49

We had lamb a few years ago and the problem we found is that it's not the best meat cold. The leftovers and cold cuts are a BIG thing in our house and we missed out that year. We wouldn't do it again but If you do perhaps have a chicken or gammon or something else too.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 04/12/2025 09:26

From what I’ve gleaned from a Swedish friend, they typically have certain dishes on Christmas Eve, which is their big day. Ham, gravlax, sundry other fishy things which I can’t remember, and ‘rice porridge’, which she makes with all single cream! Her son, when living in London, had apparently complained that we in the U.K. didn’t have the right rice for making the 🎄porridge,

I had to tell him to look on the prepared rice pudding shelves, for ‘pudding rice’. For some reason that’s where the supermarkets always shelve it.

mondaytosunday · 04/12/2025 09:21

I thought having beef for Christmas wasn’t that unusual? I’ve had goose and pheasant. Many eat chicken. The tradition is the family all gathering to celebrate in whatever form that is, and a roast dinner is typical, but I think the components of that dinner - be it a turkey, beef or a nut roast , is more diverse than the media would have you believe.
I love turkey and can’t wait - especially as my DD said she’d cook and DS said he’d clean up after!

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 04/12/2025 09:21

We like turkey - to me it’s not really Christmas Day without the smell of the turkey in the oven.

If we didn’t have that, it’d be pork. Roast pork still feels Christmassy to me, probably because IIRC when I was a child we’d have it on Boxing Day. My DM must have been mad, cooking roasts 2 days running!

surreygirly · 04/12/2025 09:19

None of us like turkey beef this year - curry last year