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Have you ever said anything on a forum you would not dare say to that persons face?

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NovemberMorn · 03/12/2025 18:59

And this is prompted by someone's nasty comment on a thread that was started by someone needing support.
Why bother responding just to be a twat?

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NovemberMorn · 04/12/2025 12:16

CoffeeCantata · 03/12/2025 19:42

I wish all pps would ask themselves this question before posting. It’s the old story- people who don’t know the difference between being honest and direct, and being aggressive and nasty.

I only post what I’d look someone in the eye and say.

Same here.
I have been around forums long enough to know that MANY people don't act the same way when anonymous, and it's incredibly cowardly.

I do think people know the difference between being direct and honest and nasty and aggressive, I'm sure they can work it out when dealing with people face to face.

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Runaroundlow · 03/12/2025 20:42

Mostly I’d say what I type in real life. But not gender critical opinions, as it’s too polarised in rl also different typing to talking when it comes to baby names, in real life if someone tells me they’ve call their baby, rainbow sunshine warrior princess I’d just be like, oh how unique 😀 whereas on here I’d be don’t do that!

Octavia64 · 03/12/2025 20:38

No.

but I’ve said some pretty unpleasant things to people’s faces when they’ve pissed me off.

i don’t have much of a filter when I’m angry.

i’m actually less likely to be an asshole online as I’m more likely to just chuck my phone in frustration.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 03/12/2025 20:36

I’ve posted stuff about friends and family anonymously to blow off steam that I definitely wouldn’t say to their face, but they don’t know so it’s ok. I would never tell my friend for example that her DH doesnt have friends for good reason.

ThePoshUns · 03/12/2025 20:15

I can share my gender critical views here that I cannot talk about in real life, certainly not at work.

HeddaGarbled · 03/12/2025 19:48

Yes, regularly.

There’s a big difference between friends and family with whom I have an ongoing relationship, and a stranger on the internet.

It is so cathartic to be able to tell the truth without personal consequences. And I do mean telling the truth, not just being nasty for kicks.

purplecorkheart · 03/12/2025 19:44

No. I may use words different on a forum than in real life. For example I might say that is a red flag on a forum where as I would say something like that behaviour is cruel/unacceptable if talking to the person in real life. I try to remember that most likely there is very hurt/vulnerable/sad/scared/lonely person on the other side of the screen and post accordingly.

CoffeeCantata · 03/12/2025 19:42

I wish all pps would ask themselves this question before posting. It’s the old story- people who don’t know the difference between being honest and direct, and being aggressive and nasty.

I only post what I’d look someone in the eye and say.

NormasArse · 03/12/2025 19:42

I’m probably more direct. I try not to be rude though.

incrediblyzen · 03/12/2025 19:41

I’d be honest, if it was called for, for instance if someone says ‘what do you think about when …’ whereas in RL I’d be diplomatic.

I wouldn’t be a dick about it, though.

ShesTheAlbatross · 03/12/2025 19:40

Probably on a baby name thread. To a person’s face I would only ever say “awww what a lovely name”

GarlicBreadStan · 03/12/2025 19:35

No.

If I'll say it on a forum, I would definitely say it to someone's face.

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